Every couple who chooses to enter the marriage has the beautiful expectation of growing old with each other, and it is heartfelt to promise each other "always together" in front of relatives and friends at the wedding. Married people hope to be able to go on with each other for the rest of their lives, face the ups and downs of life together, build a better life together, and share joys and sorrows together. However, the ideal is the ideal, the reality is often very different from the ideal, how much the two people love when they fall in love, and enter the firewood, rice, oil and salt in the real marriage, and the test of each other really begins. Some people have withstood the test and are happy together to the point of whiteness. But some people are not so lucky, they can't stand the test, and in the end they get married and go their separate ways. Whether a couple can accompany each other until they grow old is actually destined for a long time, and it can be seen from the bits and pieces of getting along after they enter marriage. Marriages that can be accompanied to old age have the following characteristics. 
First, we share joys and sorrowsSharing weal and woe, it seems like a simple eight words, but it is difficult to do. The reason why many couples go to the later and get separated after walking is because they can't get along with each other and share weal and woe. Because this is indeed a great test of personal character, especially when there are some relatively big tribulations in your life. It's more that they fly separately when the catastrophe comes, and they don't care about each other's life or death at all, just thinking that they don't want to be implicated, and there is no way for such a marriage to go to the end. There is also a kind of can't share the joys and sorrows, he will share the hardships with you, when the two of them have a hard time, they will suffer together, but once the life is better, he will immediately take the money he earns to enjoy his own life outside. And couples who are able to get along with each other and share weal and woe will be able to successfully get through all kinds of ups and downs and twists and turns in life, and then accompany each other to old age. Because in our life, we will indeed encounter a lot of difficulties, it may be that our career is not going well, it may be that we may encounter an economic crisis, or we may be in a physical condition, and we need someone to accompany us to get through these hardships at this time. And it must be mutual, no one will leave each other, so that it can last for a long time, once one party can't do it, then it is possible to separate. 
2. Appreciate and praise each otherThose couples who can last a long time, they both appreciate each other very much, although each other will have some shortcomings, but will not only stare at his shortcomings, but will see each other's appreciation more. There is no perfect person in this world, everyone has some shortcomings to a greater or lesser extent, even if he is the richest man in the world, he will definitely have unbearable shortcomings. If you only stare at each other's shortcomings, only see his shortcomings, and then always get along with him because of his shortcomings in life, and be a bad critic in the other party's life, then such a couple will have to break up sooner or later. Only the kind of couple who can see each other's strengths and then appreciate each other can go on forever. He admired her diligence and wisdom, her organized and planned work, and her kindness. She admired his motivation and admired his affection and righteousness. People who appreciate each other will be willing to become better people for each other, and they will also change their shortcomings, and then become better and better, because they all want each other to see their perfect selves. Then they will praise each other, praise each other's strengths, praise each other's things for themselves, praise each other's dedication, praise will make people better and better. 
3. The strength of the husband and wife is in one placeWhen two people become husband and wife, live together, and form each other's new families, they must work hard together. You have a common goal, a common direction, and work together for the goal, so that the family will get better and better, everything will get better and better in the future, and life will get better and better. In this way, the effect of 1+1 greater than 2 can be realized. I'm afraid that those husbands and wives don't work together, and a person works very hard to make money, wanting to live a better life in the future, move into a better house, buy a better car, and live a better life. And the other person lies flat and then only thinks about enjoying life every day, squandering all the money he earns, and doing what makes him happy. Such two people are typical of not working together, and the consequence is that people who work hard will become more and more tired, more and more unable to see their heads, lose their expectations for the future, and gradually lose their expectations for this marriage. Only couples who work hard in one place can manage their lives well, maximize their interests, and make the family better and better. Whether husband and wife can grow old together is really destined by God, what kind of fate God gives you, what kind of person comes to you, and whether this person can reach a consensus with you on the above three points determines whether you can grow old. Because marriage originally belonged to two people, it takes two people to work together to manage the marriage well, if there is no way to do it, it is easy to fall apart. End article illustration "Kim Ji-young born in 82" stills.