How to learn a language?
It can be discussed in two sections.
The first section is the learning of knowledge and the improvement of skills.
The second section is the enlightenment of wisdom and the cultivation of morality.
The first two articles discussed: the first section, the learning of knowledge, the improvement of skills.
This is the third article, which will discuss: the second section, the enlightenment of wisdom, and the cultivation of morality.
In the second half of 2023, Zhejiang Province will carry out a balanced education inspection, inspect the education and teaching of each school, and inspect the implementation of the five educations of morality, intelligence, physical education, art and labor.
Five education at the same time, moral education first. Moral education is the foundation of intellectual education, physical education, aesthetic education, and labor, and it is also the foundation of life.
So, how to improve children's moral education?How to cultivate children's moral character?
At present, all schools in the system also offer moral education courses and actively carry out moral education, but in terms of effect, it seems that it is not enough.
In society, there are also many educational institutions and cultural groups, which are also actively exploring moral education.
For example, the promoters of the "* Rules" faction, they are keen to apply the moral requirements and behavioral norms in the "* Rules" to children, and they are happy to promote to children, in fact, they are not only promoted, but more appropriately described by supervision, and finally evolved into a "police catch thieves" model, teachers, parents are very tired, and children are also very tired. My teacher, Mr. Boyi, once said: "* Rules" is not necessarily suitable for children, because the moral code of conduct in it may not be suitable for children, compared to adults, teachers and parents are more reasonable. Because teaching by example is greater than words, when parents and teachers talk hard to their children, the effect is very small, far less than the effect of parents and teachers themselves, the child is very clever, you do it, live out, he will admire you from the bottom of his heart, otherwise, he will not listen to you, to put it bluntly, he does not admire you, and even he looks down on you.
Another example: there are many institutions in the society to hold summer camps, winter camps, study camps and other study camps, in the study camp, vigorously advocate "gratitude education", promote "filial piety culture", let children wash their parents' feet, write confession letters, and even kneel down ......I have a friend who once vividly described the final effect as: the child cries a lot, the child thinks he is wrong, the parents also cry a lot, the parents also think they are wrong, the parents and the child, apologize to each other, repent to each other, hug the head and cry, and finally hug each other. Camp ends, ends. This kind of form often treats the symptoms but not the root cause, and it is effective in that "three-minute heat", but when the child returns home from the study camp, returns to school, and returns to the environment he is usually familiar with, he is often beaten back to his original form, as if the study camp has not happened, and there is no trace. At this time, some people may say, I planted a seed for him, and this seed will sprout sooner or later. It is true that a seed may have been planted, but the harsh environment often kills the seed, and the soil, water, light, nutrients, etc. are not enough, and even harsh and poisonous, so what is the use of such a weak seed?
So, how exactly do you educate your children about morality?How to treat both the symptoms and the root causes?
I would like to provide you with a method for your reference and discussion.
In order to fundamentally do a good job in moral education, there are two points:
First, the external environment.
Let's start with a simple external environment. As we all know, parents are the first teachers of children, parents are also the guardians of children, the ultimate person in charge, the family is the root of children, family education is the background color of children's lifelong growth, parents teach their children better than words, children are indeed fighting fathers and mothers, parents' ability and cultivation is the starting line of children, parents' ability and cultivation come from real exercise, from what parents can really do, from the true appearance of parents to live, we advocate that "chicken baby is not as good as chicken itself", Parents change 1%, children change 100%", parents grow themselves first!Grow yourself authentically!At the same time, it also includes the layout of the family environment, the atmosphere of the family, for example, remove the TV in the living room, and arrange the living room as a study, and the atmosphere of the scholarly family will be slowly created.
Second, inner self-cultivation.
Inner self-cultivation is fundamental. How to nurture the inner soul of a child?The ancients said that "everything is inferior, but reading is high", "the first thing in the world is reading". The old man Bingxin said: Read well, read more, read good books. Gorky said: Books are the ladder of human progress. Countless sages, predecessors, and giants tell us that reading is the only way for us to cultivate ourselves and cultivate our hearts. What books do you read?We advocate reading more classic books, and there are classic books in the East and the West, such as the Analects, Mencius, Laozi, Zhuangzi, I Ching, Book of Songs, ...... in the EastWestern "Shakespearean Sonnets", "Spencer Sonnets", "A Midsummer Night's Dream" ......What is the greatest value of classic books?The classics are the books that record the most noble conduct, truth, goodness and beauty!And there is no one!Classic books, through thousands of years, are still shining and fresh, if you don't read more books like this, what more books should you read?Parents read it themselves, teachers should also read it, and children should also read under the influence of parents and teachers
Children who read the classics are blessed, families who read the classics are blessed, and the society that reads the classics is blessed