Dictation: Sister Du.
Author: Xiaoya.
I am a 48-year-old middle school Chinese teacher who lives in a third-tier city with my husband and daughter.
A week ago, my mother's phone call broke my peaceful life: "Girl, your dad is gone." ”
My dad is 78 years old, and although he is not very old, he was diagnosed with stomach cancer eight years ago. With the full support of my eldest brother and me, my dad had surgery. Over the years, relying on the careful service of my mother and eldest brother and sister-in-law, my father has only lived for another eight years.
Half a year ago, I heard that my eldest brother said that my father's condition had deteriorated, the cancer cells had spread, and the doctor said that there was no point in **, so let the family take it back, and serve it with good food and drink.
My mom told me that my dad left at around 2 a.m., walked peacefully, and left in his sleep. Because it was sudden, I didn't have time to inform my second brother and his family.
After hanging up**, I couldn't cry, and after my husband learned the news, he immediately arranged everything, asked for leave for me, himself, and his daughter, and drove me back to the funeral. When our family of three arrived, the second brother and the family of three also arrived, and the eldest brother and sister-in-law had already arranged the funeral scene.
Under the arrangement of the eldest brother, my father's funeral was carried out in an orderly manner, I was responsible for accompanying the grief-stricken my mother, and my husband helped the eldest brother to entertain the guests.
My father was escorted to the funeral home by his sons and daughters for three days, and I watched as my loving father was finally turned into a small box and buried in a cemetery that had already been bought.
In fact, my dad always had a wish to be buried, and he wanted to be buried next to his grandparents, but we didn't allow it here.
When my dad was in the ground, the eldest brother presided over the thank-you banquet again, and our family and the second brother's family kept following his buttocks, and everything was arranged by the eldest brother.
When everyone was full of wine and food, and the vacation I invited was about to end, I proposed to my eldest brother to leave, and my eldest brother agreed.
But just as I was about to leave, my sister-in-law grabbed me and said, "Sister, don't worry, sister-in-law has something to explain to you and my second brother." ”
My second brother and I looked at each other, not understanding what the sister-in-law meant, the eldest brother seemed to know something, and asked the sister-in-law very unhappily: "My father's bones are not cold, do you want our brother and sister to have unpleasantness?"How do you become a sister-in-law?”
The sister-in-law sneered: "You know that you are the eldest son of the Lao Du family and their eldest brother, have you ever thought that you are still my husband and the father of two children?"When will you be able to take our mother three seriously?When can we consider our feelings?”
Seeing that the couple was about to quarrel, I hurriedly persuaded them: "Okay, it's all a family, and there is something to say." Sister-in-law, what's wrong?You have something to say. ”
My sister-in-law pointed at my mother and said, "Second brother, sister, it's not that I'm not filial, it's not that I'm selfish, but my parents gave birth to three children, right?"Since we have given birth to three, why should we have a family to support the elderly?Is there such a truth in the world?”
Hearing this, I lowered my head and recalled the events of all these years.
My parents gave birth to two sons and a daughter, the eldest brother is 55 years old, the second brother is 52 years old, and I am the youngest daughter, 49 years old.
Growing up, in my memory, life has always been difficult. Although the whole family loves me very much, especially the eldest brother, the family's financial situation is not good, and we have been living a life of worrying about the next meal after eating.
Although my parents have a meager income, they adhere to the principle of studying to make a living, and do their best to provide for their three children to study, hoping that we can be admitted to university.
However, the family's financial situation is too bad to support the three of us, relatives and friends persuaded my parents: "Let the girl drop out of school to provide for my brother, anyway, she will get married sooner or later, no matter how good she is, it will be cheaper for other people's families." ”
Hearing this, my parents hesitated, and I also accepted the fate of dropping out of school to work after crying for a long time, after all, in those days, it was too common for my daughter to become a victim of the family, and I couldn't ignore the life and death of my parents and two older brothers for myself.
Before I could tell my parents about my decision, my eldest brother made the decision first, gave up his studies, went out to work to earn money to support his family, and left a letter before he died, encouraging me and my second brother to study hard.
With the full support of my parents and eldest brother, my second brother and I completed our studies and were admitted to junior college. After graduating from junior college, I became a people's teacher, had a stable job, met my husband, and lived a happy life.
After graduating, the second brother chose to engage in business, and with his efforts, he successfully bought a house in Shenzhen, and lived a happy life with his second sister-in-law and little nephew.
On the other hand, when the eldest brother chose to drop out of school, he was in his first year of high school, and he was only 17 years old at the time. After going out to work, due to his young age and low education, he suffered a lot and could only move bricks on the construction site and do hard work.
In this way, the eldest brother is still frugal, and he is reluctant to eat well on weekdays, so he sends all the money home for us to study.
The second brother couldn't stand it anymore, and proposed to drop out of school to work, and I also had to give up my studies, and after the eldest brother found out, he wrote back and scolded us: "I am the boss, I should pay for my younger brothers and sisters, what are you two doing together?".I tell you, if you don't get into college, don't call me brother in the future. ”
After we succeeded in our careers, we wanted to help the eldest brother, and the second brother wanted to take the eldest brother to do business together, but the eldest brother refused: "I'm not that material, I don't have that ability, and the past will only add to your blockage." You just take care of yourself and leave me alone. ”
10 years ago, the three of us got together to discuss my father's pension, at first my second brother and I wanted to take away our parents, but the eldest brother refused us on the grounds of "the second brother needs to work and take care of the children, and there is no time" and "what kind of mess are you doing as a married girl".
In desperation, I discussed with my second brother that I would give my parents a total of 1,000 alimony every month, 500 each, but we turned around, and my eldest brother didn't accept it, which made us feel very headache.
Speaking of this, the sister-in-law was very angry and yelled at the eldest brother: "500 a month, is it more?"Can't they take it out?Why do you have to be this saint?Don't your brothers and sisters want to be filial?Have you considered their feelings?”
As she spoke, the sister-in-law's voice whimpered, and she couldn't cry"We are 55 years old, the eldest girl is 30 years old, we have two children, we are still living a rented life, our son is 27 years old, and we can't marry a wife, you feel sorry for your younger brothers and sisters, why don't you know how to feel sorry for our mother and son?”
Seeing my sister-in-law crying, my second brother and I felt very guilty and hurriedly stepped forward to comfort my sister-in-law.
The sister-in-law shook us off, wiped her eyes and shouted: "I don't care about anything today, I don't want face, it's really not good, and I don't want a man." You either pay 100,000 yuan in alimony for the past 10 years according to the original agreement, or take your mother away for the elderly, I can't wait, I really can't wait. ”
The relatives hurriedly broke the siege, let us sit down and discuss, and finally we reached an agreement, my second brother and I each paid 100,000 yuan as the alimony of our parents for the past 10 years to compensate the eldest brother's family. My mother was taken over by my second brother for the elderly, and when I retired and my daughter got married, I was idle, and I was responsible for taking care of my mother.
Before leaving, we apologized to my sister-in-law repeatedly, hoping that my sister-in-law would not blame my eldest brother, and my sister-in-law held my hand and told me to take care.
In fact, I can completely understand what my sister-in-law did, over the years, the eldest brother is a filial son and a good brother, but he does owe too much to his sister-in-law.
end.Today's topic: Do you have any good advice for Sister Du?Feel free to share your views in the comments section.