The family is a child's first window into society, and it is the cornerstone on which they build values and worldview.
Family education is like a seed planted deep in a child's heart, and over time, these seeds will gradually sprout and grow.
Therefore, every parent has the responsibility and obligation to create an environment for their children to grow up with love and wisdom.
There are no parents who are born to succeed
Good parents are learned
Envy other people's children, but are you someone else's parent?
In fact, no one is born a good parent, and good parents are learned.
Li Ka-shing once said:"A person's achievements depend on how much effort he puts in. ”
The same applies to parents.
A good way to educate children is not innate, but needs to be gradually formed by parents through continuous learning and Xi hard work.
Only when parents put in the effort and Xi can they get good educational methods to guide their children.
Next door to my house lives a young couple whose children have just started to get addicted to games as soon as they are in fifth grade, and their Xi performance is not as good as before.
They persuade, scold, and even confiscate gaming equipment, but to no avail.
At this time, they start reading parenting books, attending parenting talks, and seeking advice from experienced parents and experts.
Guided by knowledge, they began to try to establish a better communication environment with the child, understand his needs, and help him realize the importance of Xi.
They use playtime as a reward, and the effects are slowly becoming apparent.
The child's grades began to improve, and the obsession with playing games diminished.
This process has given them a deep understanding that good parents can become better through learning Xi and practice.
Chen Heqin, a well-known expert in children's education, once clearly pointed out:
"Being a parent is not an easy task. Many people mistakenly believe that once they get married and have children, they are naturally qualified to be parents. However, this is not the case. ”
To become a parent, you need to constantly learn and Xi and improve yourself in order to be competent in this role and become a qualified and competent parent.
If you don't teach, it's your father's fault
Good children are taught
We often hear people praise that some children are admitted to Peking University and Tsinghua University even though their parents are uneducated.
The implication here is that it is as if the golden doll-like child fell from the sky.
I don't think so, behind excellent children must be attentive parents.
For example, the world-famous pianist Lang Lang received rigorous piano training from his father when he was a child.
Without his father's careful guidance, Lang Lang might still be just an ordinary child, rather than an excellent pianist who has attracted the attention of the world.
This is enough to prove that every excellent child is deeply guided and taught by their parents, and it is their patient and meticulous discipline day after day, year after year, that has shaped the excellent character of the child.
I once saw such a sentence on the Internet:
"Life can be seen as an unpredictable adventure with the goal of overcoming challenges and achieving success. In this process, good parents are like guardian angels for their children, they help their children solve the problems and difficulties they encounter, and promote their children to build a solid foundation in life. ”
In this world, success is never easy.
Behind every outstanding child, it is inseparable from the silent dedication and full support of parents.
Therefore, if you want your children to have a great future, you need to make them understand that learning Xi is the key to understanding the world, although difficult.
At the same time, as parents, we must also know that our companionship and dedication are important driving forces for our children's success.
We must face challenges and progress together with our children.
Educate your children well
is the most important career for parents
Educating children is undoubtedly a complex and tedious task.
However, as parents, we have silently accepted the responsibility of accompanying them and guiding them in their growth when we decide to welcome this new life into our world.
It's as if the children are standing on our shoulders to explore the world.
Therefore, educating children is actually a challenge and test for parents.
The People** has clearly reminded all parents:Educating your children well is the most important job in your life.
So, how do parents educate their children correctly?
1. Pay attention to companionship
In a fast-paced, high-pressure social environment, many parents regard work and career as the first priority, believing that creating quality living conditions for their children by earning more money is the best love.
However, this notion may ignore the root cause, which is that what children need most is our company.
Parents must not underestimate the key role of family education, and take more time to spend with their children.
2. Be stricter
As parents, we take responsibility for our children's future, which requires us to educate them in the right way.
We don't advocate scolding, but we must respect the child's personality while setting reasonable rules and boundaries, rather than being overt and indulgent.
To educate children, we must be strict and benevolent.
3. Lead by example
Parents play an important role in influencing their children.
Parents need to lead by example, and children will gradually form their self-discipline and self-motivated personality through long-term imitation.
I hope all parents can understand that children are like a mirror to them, and educating children is actually self-education and improvement.
Really smart parents will understand that it is more important to be a role model for their children than to impose on them the belief that they must be somewhere.
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