As the saying goes: "It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage." ”
Indeed, fate is rare, and marriage needs to be cherished.
It is precisely because of cherishing that it is important to polish your eyes and see the true face of the other person before entering into marriage.
1 Always pretend to be single
If a person never takes the initiative to talk about or even avoid having a partner when he has already established a romantic relationship, and still considers himself single in the outside world, it is conceivable what his purpose is.
In a relationship, how one expresses one's identity in social situations reflects how serious a person is about the relationship and plans for the future.
When you find out that your partner is denying your relationship in public or even lying about being single.
It means that he is waiting for a better opportunity, which is not only disrespectful to the other half, but also implies that he is not happy with his current relationship.
It's a normal psychology to want to find someone with good conditions and good appearance, but the behavior of "eating in the bowl and looking at the pot" is not so moral.
Assess the true value of the relationship as early as possible and decide whether or not to continue investing.
2 Always implies that you will not get married in a short period of time
I've heard a saying that the longer you are in love, the greater the probability of breaking up.
There are many couples around me who have been in love since college, struggled together after graduation, and have been together for ** years, but have not gotten married.
While envying others for having a long-term and stable relationship, I can't help but be faintly worried.
Because I often hear about who broke up with whom.
Two people are together, one year or two are still in the run-in period, and it is normal not to want to talk about lifelong events, but they don't want to get married after five, six, or nine years.
Maybe one party has no intention of entering into marriage with the other party at all, but can't find a better one for the time being.
The purpose of being in love is not only for the pleasure and satisfaction of the moment, but more importantly to find a partner with whom we can spend a lifetime.
Nor should love be an endless wait and suspicion, it should be based on shared future planning and commitment.
If in a long-term relationship, the other person always avoids the topic of marriage or makes it clear that they will not consider marriage in the next few years.
If you are always unwilling to commit to the future, then your wait will be in vain sooner or later.
3 Likes to brag about their family conditions
In a relationship, the other person's family background and values are important factors that cannot be ignored.
A truly mature and confident person will not be overly dependent on family background, but will attract the other person through their efforts and character. People who excessively flaunt their family background, lack the ability to stand on their own feet and mature emotions are a negative factor for future relationships.
What's more, he often hints to you that "parents like boys, so they don't have to do anything when they get married in the future, just take care of the children."
Girls should be more careful, most of these families are patriarchal, and if they don't give birth to a son after marriage, they don't know what the result will be.
A sexist family environment can influence a person's values and behavior patterns.
People who have grown up in such families may have traditional and conservative views on marriage and family life.
A person's family environment and upbringing can profoundly affect their personality and behavior.
If you find that the other person's family background and values are seriously different from yours, then you need to seriously consider whether these differences will affect your future relationship.
4 Likes to use "cold violence" to avoid problems when arguing
Many people like cold violence without knowing it, thinking that they just want to escape the current problem for a while, and don't think too much.
But the party who is cold and violent will only see, and you deliberately can't see her when she comes home; She talks to you, and you no longer respond so enthusiastically; She shares fun with you, and you only reply with an "oh".
When you are cold and violent, it is like being treated as air but you are powerless to change it.
They struggle emotionally, but the other turns a blind eye.
If your partner often uses cold violence in an argument, this is actually a very bad and cruel way to deal with it.
This behavior not only shows that the other person lacks the ability to resolve the conflict, but also shows that they are not willing to invest time and energy in maintaining the relationship.
Cold violence can gradually erode the foundations of the relationship, leading to estrangement and mistrust on both sides over time.
Cold violence is also a kind of violence, and if you are treated with cold violence for a long time, you may become easy to doubt yourself, and have an inferiority complex, and the psychological damage brought to people is huge.
If the other person realizes that this is not the right way and is willing to change, then the relationship may be saved.
But if the other person continues to use cold violence and is unwilling to change, then you really have to consider whether the relationship continues.