Nowadays, the evolution of social etiquette is a topic of conversation, and a new and universal trend is becoming more and more prominent: the frequency of salutes seems to be increasing day by day in all kinds of social situations. As a result, people have paid more attention to how to deal with specific situations, and the concept of courtesy has gradually taken root in people's hearts.
Not long ago, my *** asked me a question: If you encounter the decoration of a friend's house, how many red envelopes should be given as an entourage? Obviously, this emerging topic is also testing her social circle.
When decorating your home, should you invite your friends to share the joy with everyone? It's not just a question that has been pondered at a time when house prices are soaring. In contrast, a "housewarming" after buying a house may seem like a big event to celebrate, but in reality it's just a renovation of the old home. Should friends be invited to share the joy on such occasions?
If you think of such an occasion as a favorite occasion for a birthday party, a wedding party, a full moon wine, a graduation party, etc., then it is too much to entertain friends. For example, when your elders are honored to retire and ask you to attend the old man's "retirement banquet", how can you not go? And once you attend, how can you go home empty-handed?
Perhaps your friend Nini has successfully turned her "inverted pear face" into a "melon seed face" through plastic surgery, and she has invited her friends to share this joy with her, so how big of a red envelope do you think is appropriate to give? For another example, the eldest brother of the Xu family installed porcelain teeth, sent out invitations to invite friends to the bone roast shop, and remarked in a humorous way: "Check the hardness of porcelain teeth". Will you go? If you go, how big is it appropriate to give?
The appearance of these occasions has undoubtedly added a new color to social life. Although there is a lack of "precedents" for reference, those who are "famous" in the circle of friends need to consider how much they should give on this occasion when they go to participate?
Is the increase in gifts related to people's relatively affluent living standards? Before the 80s, social occasions such as wedding banquets, full moon wine, and birthday banquets were relatively common, while children's birthdays rarely had any "birthday parties". On my birthday, the family simply boils two eggs, and a bowl of noodles is considered a hearty celebration. **Is there a few layers of cakes like this, and a group of people singing "Happy Birthday" around the pomp?
And now, the decoration of the home seems to have become a "disguise" for attracting wealth. However, do you realize that using this as an excuse to test the friendship between friends is a bit excessive? If a friend is unable to come for some reason, can we understand that friendship is only worth $200 between you and your friend? Or a little bit more, say 800 yuan?
This kind of "banquet" that is clearly marked does not need any meaning, and its purpose is very clear, that is, to hope that friends will come with corresponding gifts. And for those characters who are seen as "unoffended", you have to give as much as they give you, or even a little more. But for those with "unhelpful and harmless" relationships, it doesn't matter whether they go or not, and there is no need for explanation. Not going once may mean that there will be no more similar "hospitality" in the future.
In general, as social etiquette continues to evolve, so do people's expectations and ways of coping with social situations. But behind all this, what we should cherish is the sincere friendship, rather than just paying attention to the number of gifts. After all, the true value of friendship cannot be measured in money.