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In East Asian cultures, Confucianism has had a profound impact on education. Emphasizing concepts such as filial piety, respect for elders, and following rules can lead some parents to believe that their children should be unconditionally obedient and hardworking. Children, as natural subordinates, have naturally become the target of parents' intentional or unintentional attacks.
Some parents believe that too much praise can make their children complacent, so they choose to use derogatory ways to motivate their children to work hard.
Other times, adults may choose to be humble by belittling their children for fear that praising their children too much will make others feel uncomfortable. This is a social strategy, but it will inevitably take a toll on a child's self-esteem.
In East Asian cultures, the idea of trying to change is always fulfilled by means of punishment and restrictions. Education is also always willing to use punishment as a means to carry out, believing that children should have unlimited subjective initiative. Punishment and belittlement are certainly effective in regulating behavior, such as teaching children not to do illegal things or not to mingle with unscrupulous people. However, if the slightest thing has to be demeaning, then how can children understand the world? He will feel that there is only suffering and no happiness in this world. This psychological stress may also translate into behavioral and physical symptoms in the future. It's just that when the time comes, parents will no longer have the ability to help them.
The lessons of Yuzhang Academy are not far away. Every child who has been hurt, the hurt they have suffered will always be inflicted back in some form.
Building a culture of respect and understanding starts with less devaluing your own children. It's not that hard to say a few words to your own child. In the current environment in East Asia, any pressure from home, if reduced, will only make the child's life better.
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