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How hard is it to find an emotionally stable boyfriend?
Yesterday, a small incident quickly spread to the hot search list like ripples:
When a couple was traveling, when they were about to leave the car, the girl was shocked to find that she had forgotten her mobile phone and did not bring it. At this time, the boy's response is exemplary, establishing the image of a considerate boyfriend.
Unexpectedly, this incident has aroused the attention and imitation of a large number of female users on the Internet, and they have used this topic as a topic to test their other half.
What kind of story is this? Let's dig deeper and reveal the warmth and enlightenment ......
The story goes like this, a girl sets off with her boyfriend and girlfriends on a pleasant journey, but encounters an unexpected situation in the crucial 12 minutes before the high-speed train is about to depart.
It turned out that the girl accidentally left her mobile phone in the underground garage, and at this moment the ticket check-in process was already halfway through, which made her instantly fall into a panic.
However, her boyfriend did not blame her for her negligence before leaving the house at this moment, but quickly and calmly evaluated the follow-up itinerary plan to confirm if there was an next train available for rebooking.
In order to ensure that the three of them could enjoy the trip to the fullest, he decisively decided to let his girlfriend and girlfriend board the bus first.
Without saying a word, the boy turned around and ran to the underground garage, going all out to find the lost phone for his girlfriend.
Despite the pressure of the time, he managed to make his way back to the platform at the last minute before the train started.
The most touching scene for the majority of netizens appeared: the boy was sweating profusely and panting and rushed back with his mobile phone, not only did not complain at all, but took into account his girlfriend's emotions thoughtfully, for fear that she would blame herself for her carelessness, and even worried that the smell of sweat caused by running would affect his girlfriend.
As soon as this news was released, it immediately attracted the attention of tens of thousands of netizens, many of whom received rave comments: "Quick thinking, calm emotions, full of physical energy, and caring care, this is the performance of a real man!" ”
Seeing her boyfriend so desperate, a warm current surged in the girl's heart, and she deeply felt that at a critical juncture, her boyfriend was always a solid support that she could fully trust.
But at the same time, in addition to the blessings for girls to have such a gentle and considerate partner in the comment area, there is also a kind of "alternative way" tentative comments, which are quite puzzling-
Suppose I find my phone in the underground garage when I check in and there are only 12 minutes left before the departure, what should I do? ”
During an emotional test, a girl asked her boyfriend a preset question in a unique situation: if he could give a satisfactory answer, she would be willing to run back and get her phone herself. This kind of performance is defined by her as a qualified boyfriend, which is enough to be entrusted for life.
Another girl warmly expressed before the temptation: "I am lucky to meet you, and I hope you are also such a person." ”
However, instead of giving a "standard answer" as expected, her boyfriend asked with concern: "Can you still pit ten minutes ago?" ”
Although in my opinion, his question is actually full of reason and care, but his girlfriend is disappointed because of it, and this momentary emotional change has also resonated with some people in the comment area: "Since it has happened, there is no point in denying it, dear, stop the loss in time." ”
It turns out that there are people who judge their partners by things that have not happened and ignore the actual efforts of those around them day in and day out.
One of the most regrettable misconceptions between men and women is that one party unconsciously erodes the foundation of trust with unfounded questions about the other's commitment to the future.
There are different opinions in the comment area, and many netizens said that they can't understand this approach: "I'm afraid this boy's future emotional road will be full of hardships, looking for a partner rather than an ancestor, you can't expect the boy to be able to cover everything for you, if one day he can't do it, does it mean that you have to break up?" ”
Someone else bluntly said: "I can't resonate with this, imagine that if the boy loses his mobile phone, it is estimated that the woman will be anxious for a long time." ”
Regarding this matter, I think that this boyfriend behaved quite steadily and appropriately, and his behavior is worthy of recognition.
At the same time, I also hope that this girl can be more careful in the future, after all, no one can always bear everything for another person, in case one day he no longer chooses to cover for you, how to deal with it?
It is not difficult to notice that whether it is the ** heroines who have been on the hot search, or countless netizens who empathize, they are affectionately talking about their partner's thoughtful and true care for themselves.
These individuals' emotional cognition of their partners is undoubtedly more subjective and realistic, far from being defined by a superficial temptation.
This reminds me of the "orange peel test" that was all the rage: simply put, it's about judging the depth of love by asking your partner if they'd like to peel an orange for you.
However, can we really measure the purity and depth of love by the act of an orange peel?
There is a profound description of "malice" in literature: "There is no greater malice in the world than to put your hand to the mouth of a rabbit and test whether it will bite." ”
Similarly, in the emotional world of men and women, the biggest crisis is precisely the endless temptation of each other's love, just like trust, once there is a rift, it will follow you like a shadow and be difficult to bridge.
Love should be the purest and most beautiful existence in life, and trust is the indispensable cornerstone to maintain this beauty.
When the survival of a relationship depends on the results of various tests, it has quietly lost its original texture and has become unrecognizable.
It is really unwise to try to use all kinds of tests to verify the sincerity of your boyfriend.
Finally, I would like to send a message to all those who are looking for love, that your sincerity can meet another sincere heart, instead of being tempted and questioned.
Because true feelings will be confirmed in the precipitation of time and the tempering of life, rather than from deliberate temptations again and again.