When Rui Xiaodan wanted to learn about **Ying's past, she didn't want to be kept in the dark anymore, so she decided to find **Ying's good friend, Han Chufeng. As a ** Ying who understands people, he never hides his weaknesses, and even he can realize the natural weaknesses of women. In Han Chufeng's lens, **Ying is a person who dares to face his weaknesses, and even he will take the initiative to admit his mistakes, which are all manifestations of understanding people.
Han Chufeng's quote "A higher philosopher is alone, not because he wants to be alone, but because he can't find his kind around him", which also illustrates **Ying's loneliness. In other words, people like ** Ying do not want to present linear thinking in "formal logic" - only taking "me" or "the cognition of individuals isomorphic to me" as the first nature, but are accustomed to using the circular thinking of dialectical logic - "white in black, black in white", "black and white alternately, running without contradiction", that is, "selfless, dialectical, holistic, relatively rational and objective way of thinking", thinking about the difference between other people's thinking and their own thinking.
After being inspired by Han Chufeng's words, Rui Xiaodan knew the reason for ** Ying's reticence - he couldn't understand the logical pattern of women's thinking at all, and he was even more unwilling to pay an unforeseen price for it. "Can't teach, can't fight" has become the natural weakness of women as he understands. Because, the reason for "can't teach" is that women's thinking is inconsistent with the formal logic model, so teaching will not be effective, and fighting is even more meaningless;And the reason for "can't fight" is that the logic of women's thinking is not black and white, it is difficult for him to understand, or even incomprehensible.
* The British view of women is only left with the gully of "formal logic", which can only be as simple as finding a woman to meet physical and psychological needs. He believes that he has escaped the entanglement of thinking and has chosen another way to solve the problem, and instead of "teaching" and "fighting" in pain, it is better to choose to "accept" inclusively. He can also understand his flaws, explain his confusion thoroughly, and at this point, he is a very mature person.
Can't teach, can't fight is **Ying's deep understanding of women's weaknesses. Women are not born with the way of thinking that formal logic thinking has, but more of a dialectical logical way of thinking, and less of the cognitive subject to which they are attached. For the formal logic way of thinking, there is no need to grasp a specific value perspective and cognitive subject, and one's own subjective consciousness can play a sufficient role. However, dialectical logic requires constant change of one's cognitive subject, which requires not only full thinking, but also full exploration and practice.
Han Chufeng's admonition is also very important, "can't teach" and "can't fight" is a compromise for women's way of thinking. Few men can truly understand the female mind, but if men are unwilling to make the effort to understand, compromise, tolerate and accept, it will lead to conflict, hurt and separation between men and women. In contrast, "acceptance" is a more inclusive and mature attitude.
Therefore, men may not be able to truly understand women when dealing with emotional issues, but they can reduce conflicts by compromising and accepting. Rational thinking and emotional dedication, as well as compromise and communication, are good ways to deal with husbands and wives, rather than competing with their wives at every turn. So, we need to learn to listen, learn to understand and tolerate, not to fight relentlessly. Emotional matters, no matter what kind of knowledge you learn, fate is mostly in the hands of women, men will be worse than women, then we should learn how to compromise. If men can achieve these points as much as possible, it can be regarded as showing the greatest respect for women's natural weaknesses.
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