In the long process of evolution, human beings have lived in groups for the most part. However, with the continuous development of society, people have begun to crave their own private space, and the solitary lifestyle is gradually becoming mainstream.
As Dou Wentao said: "Data shows that 80% of married people say they want to be able to live alone, and living alone is becoming a new trend. ”
One idea is deep: as people's minds rise, so does the desire for freedom. Living alone is a way for people to live more freely. When alone, people can enjoy their own world, and more and more people want to get a short period of peace and comfort by living alone after busy work.
In the program "Round Table Pie", Dou Wentao discussed that more and more people choose to live alone, and he asked the question: "Choose to live alone, do you choose freedom or loneliness?" ”
In his view, a person's life can also be full of affairs, busy, and not even have time to experience the feeling of loneliness. However, if you live a single life all the time, you will feel lonely one day.
The solitary lifestyle mainly refers to a long-term, one-person life, without the company of an object, and with one's own space. The term solitary living first appeared in the Nordic countries, and with the development of the times, the trend of living alone in China is also rising, especially young people, who are more inclined to live alone.
Even when married, people still seek to have their own independent space. According to statistics, there are currently more than 77 million adults living alone in China, of which young people account for 20 million.
This means that more and more people want to have their own space when buying or renting a home. Because everyone is unique and has their own ideas and needs, it is easy to create contradictions and frictions when living with others.
As a result, they have an urgent desire for an independent home that fits their wishes and lifestyle perfectly.
From the initial animal group dwelling, to the clustering of families and clans, to the common family of three or two-person dink family, the form of human life has continued to evolve, which is not only a manifestation of social development, but also a symbol of human progress.
Nowadays, more and more young people are pursuing a solitary life, which reflects a profound shift in their thinking and their lifestyle choices.
Therefore, when conditions permit, many young people prefer to choose to live alone, and even if they have a partner, their ideal living state is that "their partner lives next door".
They are happy to maintain a relationship that is not far away, where they can meet and satisfy their longing, but also when they need to be alone, they will not disturb each other. Ideally, one can be an island that stands alone and can be connected to other islands.
When you need to socialize, you can share the excitement; And when you want to be alone, you can always be an isolated island, undisturbed by the outside world. The economic prosperity brought about by social development has greatly improved people's living conditions.
When conditions permit, everyone aspires to live freely and comfortably, meeting all the needs of the individual. Living alone gives them great freedom and comfort, especially in today's era of the Internet, where they can easily access the goods and services they need, reducing the need to go out.
In our lives, we often need to maintain a certain image in the crowd, and when we are alone, we can really be ourselves, free from any constraints, and enjoy freedom at any time.
As Schopenhauer said, "A person can only be truly himself when he is alone". In our busy lives, we often need to wear masks, and over time, this state of life can be exhausting.
Therefore, we crave a space that is completely our own, where we can vent our emotions without fear and then heal in peace. It is a secret place where we can feel at ease and at ease, and it is a safe haven when we are tired.
In your own world, you can do whatever you want, without any need to consider the emotions and opinions of others. Close the door of your heart and enjoy the silence alone, undisturbed by anyone.
This has become a lifestyle that more and more people aspire to. Here, you just have to be your true self, no pretense, no need to pander. However, in this fast-paced society, it's not easy to be true to yourself.
Some people may question, doesn't it feel lonely to be alone? No one takes a hand, no one responds, eats alone, watches dramas alone, and is in a daze. However, it is these moments of solitude that give us the opportunity to know ourselves better, find ourselves, and become a better version of ourselves.
A person's life is not the same as loneliness, as Dou Wentao mentioned in "Round Table Pie", he is very busy every day, and he can even not go out for two weeks in a row.
Time flies quickly, getting up in the morning to have breakfast, reading a book, watching a painting, and so many dramas to chase, etc., the day is full and busy, so he doesn't feel lonely.
There are currently more than 200 million single adults in our country, and there is a high possibility of being alone. Some people enjoy solitude, while others don't. For young people who crave the warmth and companionship of family, they reluctantly accept living alone, mainly because they cannot afford to buy a house and social fear.
These are the biggest problems that young people face when they don't like to live alone but have to live alone. Living alone is not the same as freedom, it can be a helpless choice, or it can be a way of life.
Either way, we should cherish our alone time and learn to enjoy our lives, while also not forgetting the warmth and companionship we crave.
Although living alone can bring a sense of uninhibited comfort, living alone for long periods of time can also bring deep loneliness. After all, what makes humans different from animals is that we think, and we crave communication.
At first, days without communication can feel light, but over time, loneliness can flood in from all directions. Some people may think that living alone is a symbol of freedom, but in fact, living alone is not the same as freedom, it is only a temporary feeling of freedom at a certain time and place.
Living alone is a choice, but it cannot become the norm in life. Because of the lack of social interaction due to prolonged solitude, it may lead to social difficulties, making people introverted, inferior, autistic and even depressed.
Freedom does not simply mean living alone, but finding a balance between respect for others and self-independence. So, we should have enough when we need to be alone and have someone to keep you company when we want to socialize.
We can respect each other's living habits, give ourselves and others a certain amount of personal space, and at the same time make a good agreement not to disturb each other for a certain period of time. In this way, we can enjoy the benefits of living alone while avoiding the invasion of loneliness.
Although he pursues the freedom of living alone, he is alone in his old age, sitting alone at the dining table, talking to himself, how sad it is. Therefore, while enjoying solitude, don't ignore the importance of socializing and let yourself be in the lively atmosphere at all times.
Even if living alone becomes mainstream, we must not forget that it should be socialized, and living alone is not an absolute freedom.
Freedom is actually a state of mind, and we can feel relative freedom and comfort in a specific time and space. However, excessive loneliness may only lead us to the abyss of loneliness in the end, unless we can afford to be lonely day after day, otherwise, we should properly control the time and space of solitude.
Therefore, we hope that when you are tired, you can have your own time and space to rest and relax; And when you feel lonely, you can also integrate into the lively life anytime and anywhere, and enjoy the interaction and communication between people.
There are many choices in life, may you follow your heart to choose and live as you wish.