Why do some women not get married in their 30s? In fact, the reasons are none other than the following.
First of all, it's not that they can't get married, it's that they don't want to get married.
No one can say no to a relationship unless it's not what they want. The purpose of their waiting is to meet a more suitable person, not to marry a random person.
They don't want to settle, they don't want to make a living, they just want to find someone who can make their heart move. However, I haven't met such a person for a long time, and waiting or not waiting has become the most difficult choice.
It's easy to marry improvised, it's easy to marry life, but it's hard to marry true love.
True love is an ethereal thing, we all want to marry true love, but what exactly is true love?
True love is not vigorous, but the most sincere and warm companionship in ordinary life.
Secondly, they are too ambitious and always strive for perfection.
I know a friend who has been picky since she was young and has been picky until her 30s, and even when she meets someone she likes, she is still not satisfied. In addition to love, she also wants to be gentle, rich, careful, family background, work, temper, character, and so on.
Later, she finally admitted that there are no perfect people in this world.
When she finally wants to get married, her boyfriend chooses to leave her because he can't stand her pickiness.
Those older leftover girls who keep saying that they will change and marry just someone will find them, when others ask her what standards she has, she always says no.
What she doesn't know is that no standard is actually the biggest standard. If the conditions are not good, I don't feel it, and if the appearance is not good, I don't feel it. It seems that you don't ask for anything, but you actually want everything.
Third, they are unable to face up to their own shortcomings.
I know that I have a lot of shortcomings, but I never correct them, but I am proud of them. They would always say that if a man really loves me, he will tolerate all my shortcomings.
This sentence is true, but tolerance is not only the responsibility of the other person, in the relationship, some flaws are fatal. Women who are too contrived are generally not easily accepted. They are arrogant, aloof, selfish, vain, contrived, and so on.
The most typical example is that they clearly say that they love snacks the most, but when you give her a piece of candy, she dislikes it too sweet, and if you don't give it to her, she will say that you don't love her.
They never face up to their own shortcomings, nor are they willing to correct them, but they blame all the blame on men.
Fourth, both money and love
A sentence circulating on the Internet: "Women always like to talk about money with the poor and feelings with the rich." ”
There are women who want both love and money and always make others pay.
Marrying someone who is true love may not be happy, but you don't know how lonely it will be to marry someone who lives in the end.
Fifth, they have been emotionally hurt and have been shadowed ever since.
An injury can make a woman lose trust in people, and it will also make her lose her expectation of a good relationship. They feel that the whole world is dark and that all men are unreliable.
The shadow in their hearts will always affect their kindness. Most importantly, they have lost the ability to love and be loved because they have been hurt.
They are innocent and don't want to be such people, but no matter how hard they try, it is difficult to trust someone 100% anymore.
At all times, you have to believe that the only one who is truly self is yourself. Don't complain, try to take responsibility; Don't be afraid to be lonely and try to mature.
Sixth, the obstruction of the family and the only opportunity was missed.
Some people miss it for a lifetime. Some women, who have never had their own opinions, always care too much about their parents' opinions, forgetting that there is no fixed standard answer to feelings.
What they like, their parents don't like; What parents like, they don't. In the end, there is only consumption. Before I knew it, I was in my 30s.
By the time parents finally stopped interfering, they had already missed the opportunity. When it comes to feelings, although parents have experience, it doesn't mean that they are necessarily right.
A person must first have his own opinions, and then refer to the advice of his parents to make a choice, rather than letting his parents make decisions for you.
I would like to conclude by sayingIf you want to get off the single, you must face these problems and correct them, if you don't want to get off the single, then be a big mouth.
Finally, I wish those who want to get rid of their singles can get married as soon as possible.