Every truth in "Know" is worth learning, and I have summarized the educational concept that I want to tell us in the play, the child's growth process is most influenced by the mother, and it is generally impossible to escape these three rules.
A strong mother produces a weak child
Speaking of the strong mother and weak son, the first thing that comes to mind is Xiao Qin's family. The serious eldest lady of the Hou Sect of the Xiao Qin clan, if she was not affected by her sister, she should have a good life.
She is a woman with both wisdom and scheming, courage and strategy, even if she is not favored by the Hou Ye, she can still calculate people's hearts and stir up the situation in the Hou Mansion for decades, but she will not fall.
But it is such a woman who gave birth to a son who spends all day drinking and has no ambitions.
In order to plan far-reaching for his son, Xiao Qin's family overcame all difficulties and played a big game of chess, but the pig-like teammates couldn't take it, and finally ended up in a sea of fire.
She really worked hard for her son. Although the three sons of the Gu family are three mothers, they are all sons-in-law. In terms of seniority, the position of marquis is not the turn of Xiao Qin's son, Lao San Tingwei.
Xiao Qin's family calculated the family in order for his son to be able to attack the knight. calculated the Gu family's eldest man, stirred up the relationship, and let Gu Tingyu, who was already in poor health, be in the company of hatred all day long, consume his mind, and die early.
Erlang adopted the principle of "praising and killing", connived at it since childhood, and when Erlang grew up, and one day broke into a catastrophe, she immediately turned her face and put Erlang to death.
If it weren't for Erlang's luck, she would have succeeded.
But on the other hand, her son is not interested in the title at all, and he knows every day to recruit cats and dogs, sleep flowers and willows. It's a puddle of mud that can't hold up the wall.
Xiao Qin's family was so angry that he said: "In vain, I have worked hard for you, but you are a person who can't stand up!" ”
Before Xiao Qin's death in the sea of fire, he shouted: "Son...""It's full of unwillingness and helplessness.
But who can be blamed, they are all used to it, and the reason is still on themselves.
The mother is strong and the son is weak, and the second group is the lord of Pingning and the little grandfather.
Needless to say, the identity of the county lord of Pingning, who was raised in the palace, married to the duke of his mother-in-law's family, can be described as illustrious.
And the grandfather is also a very good man, and he loves the lord of Pingning very much. Therefore, the lord of Pingning is a character who speaks the same.
But because she was too strong, she raised a weak son like the little grandfather. The weakness of the little grandfather is different from that of the son of the Xiao Qin family.
The little grandfather has a good character and is also motivated to read, but he is not responsible and can't bear things.
From the fact that he can't marry Minglan, can't protect him, can't fight King Yan, and can't fight Gu Tingye, it can be seen that although he goes out of the noble family, he is cowardly in his bones.
And all this is thanks to his mother, the lord of Pingning.
When he wanted to marry Minglan, he was opposed by his parents, but his attitude was not hard enough, and the matter dragged on and on, causing his henchmen to die innocently, and he was finally taken by the county lord of Jiacheng, the daughter of King Yan.
The Yanwang family arrested his father as a threat, Gu Tingye said, fight hard, you also go to arrest their family, but he didn't fight, but chose to obey and marry the county lord of Jiacheng.
After he gave up Minglan and the palace changed to King Yan's family was killed, he became a widower. At this time, he still didn't think about marrying Minglan in the past, but he wanted to take the imperial examination, and when did he go to Minglan when he won the list.
dragged to the end, Minglan was married by Gu Tingye. Every thing, every move, hesitates, drags mud and water, thinks too much, and can't solve the problem decisively.
The little grandfather is like this, a big reason is that the lord of Pingning sees it too closely, gives too little freedom to the child, and makes too many decisions for the child, which eventually leads to the formation of this character.
A weak mother produces a strong son
The typical representatives of weak mothers and strong sons are Wang Da Niang and Changbai. Although Mrs. Wang has a good background, she is a simple-minded person. After getting married, not only could she not hold her husband's heart, but she even rode her concubine on her head and bullied her for more than ten years. It's just a weak explosion.
But she gave birth to a king's son, Changbai. Pure to filial piety, square and square. Not only has a good character, but also talent, the first scientific examination on the list, into the dynasty as an official, and later served the emperor of the three dynasties, as the prince's teacher, after his death to enjoy the temple.
Minglan said that the eldest lady often said that she gave birth to a son like her father, but in fact, this is not a joke.
is because the eldest lady is relatively weak, so Changbai has known to worry about his mother since he was a child.
This formed his responsible character.
There is no mother out of the king fried
The typical representatives of the motherless king are Gu Tingye and Minglan .
Gu Tingye lost his mother when he was young, and it was not easy to survive in the Houmen mansion, and the Gu family was a Longtan tiger's den, the relationship was complicated, and all the members were calculating.
His mother's maiden family coveted his property and killed him several times.
Without his mother's protection and his father's support, Gu Tingye is trying to survive in the cracks, in this case, how can he not think of a way?
So he is also a lord, but his path is much wilder than that of the little grandfather.
In the end, he relied on himself to solve the Bai family and protect his property. And relying on his military exploits, he made steady progress, and he didn't dare to make a sound when he overwhelmed the Gu family.
married such an excellent Minglan and gave birth to a son, and his life was complete.
And Minglan, who lost her mother at a young age like him, also lived to become the king of women.
Minglan was raised by the old lady since she was a child, and if it weren't for the old lady's protection, she would have been unable to survive in the Sheng Mansion. Even with the support of the old lady, he still lives cautiously and struggles.
In such an environment, in order to protect herself, she also had to make herself mature and adapt to the environment.
It can be seen from her silent use of the eldest lady to bring down Lin Yushuang to avenge her aunt. Not only these, but she also has a sober view of mate selection, which no other woman has.
Even if you marry a Gu family like a wolf's den, you can still see the tricks and live with ease.
This is not something that ordinary people can have. In the end, she became the happiest woman in the whole play, with dignity and love, and she was an out-and-out winner.
These examples, both positive and negative, tell us a very important truth, in the parent-child relationship, you can't make decisions for your child in everything, and grow flowers in the greenhouse. Only children who have experienced wind and rain since childhood can grow into towering trees.