In the past, when people were scolding, they said, "The incense in your house has been broken, which means that your family has no children or grandchildren." ”
Nowadays, when we hear the term "extreme", we don't think about what it means, we think about it as normal.
Why do we think this way? Because the reality is so cruel, we can't bear the many contradictions and pressures, and can only accept the fact that there are no children and grandchildren.
For example, there is a person named "Gone with the Wind" who went to work in other places. Since they don't have a home of their own and don't have a stable job, how can they find a partner?
Nowadays, there are many such "drifters".
In 2021, there will be 95 million "young empty nesters" in China, and this number is said to exceed 100 million by 2022.
What does "empty nest youth" mean?
In other words, they are single young people living in a rental house. Without marriage, more than 100 million families will have no offspring.
Most empty-nest youth are migrant workers.
Every year, many college students graduate and head to big cities in search of work.
The places I want to visit most are Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Shenzhen and some developed provincial capitals.
Why don't they go back to their hometown? They believe that there is hope only in the big cities, and if they go back to their hometowns, their university education will be in vain.
Some people are lucky enough to be able to get a job in an internet company or a big company. It's a little tiring, but the salary is high, and you can live a very comfortable life.
Some people are unlucky, incompetent, and have a miserable life because they work in a small company and work hard without getting paid well.
At present, our company implements the "996" work system. This means starting at 9 a.m. and leaving work at 9 p.m., with only one day off per week. In this case, how to find time to fall in love?
If you don't have money, you don't have time to love, let alone get married and have children.
Empty nesters have little desire in their daily life, in their repetitive lives.
Many people think that the young people who work hard in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen are very talented and will definitely succeed in the future.
In fact, this is not the case. No matter how big a city is, it can't accommodate so many people. Competition takes place where resources are limited. How can an ordinary person with no background and no connections defeat others?
For example, if you want to buy a house, an old house in Guangzhou costs 3-4 million, and in Beijing, Shanghai, Shenzhen, etc., it is even more expensive, 6-7 million, and even 2-3 million young people with an annual income cannot afford it. Affordable.
An annual income of 200,000 or 300,000 yen is considered a high income, but I can't afford to buy a house. As a result, young people, let alone young people, don't even have the motivation to have children.
This is true for people with an annual income of 200,000 or 300,000 yen, let alone people with an annual income of tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands of yen.
Some people say it's not okay to go back to your hometown? Unfortunately, I couldn't find a high-paying job in my hometown, and housing prices weren't cheap.
As a result, they prefer to stay in the big city rather than return to their hometowns.
Empty nesters may be excluded from the marriage and relationship market.
Now everyone knows that marriage is a transaction, a business. Children with money in the family can find someone they like. Children who have no money in the family can only look at other people's eyes.
Marriage is originally love, why is love replaced by money now? Because we are a materialistic society.
Emotions are useless because we all value material things and don't care about emotions. Ten years ago, someone said something like that. "I'd rather cry in a BMW than laugh in the back seat of a bike. "Since then, marriage and love life have changed.
Once upon a time, marriage was based on personality and mentality. In modern society, the most important thing in marriage is a house, a car, your parents' pension, a stable job, a stable income, and finally your character and way of thinking.
The worse the economy, the more distorted the requirements of marriage become. In fact, everyone wants to live a better life, so there is nothing wrong with the person who makes the request. However, for young empty nesters, marriages with high material demands result in no offspring.
The consequences of not having offspring are very serious, and there are three risks.
1: The number of young people having children is decreasing, and the number of older people is increasing. If that happens, it will be a big problem in 10 or 20 years.
2: There are more and more quarrels between men and women. Recently, there have been people talking about misogyny, misogyny on the Internet. Coupled with problems such as money, houses, and bride prices, the relationship between men and women is becoming more and more discordant.
3: Something happens when there are too many singles. People who don't have family, lovers, children, parents have nothing to fear. And the large number of single people is a factor of social instability.
Don't think that homelessness is only about you. Perhaps due to the butterfly effect, the damage caused by the disappearance of families affects society as a whole.