Wen Xiamo. A good marriage, like fertile soil, can make a woman bloom like a flower.
A bad marriage, like a storm, will devastate a woman like a flower.
A woman's different circumstances in marriage will make her fate completely different.
Whether a woman has status or not, you will know in the New Year.
Chinese New Year is a festive day, but it is also a busy day at home. The Chinese New Year is like a mirror that can reflect the happiness of a woman in marriage.
I remember when I was a child, every Chinese New Year was the time when my mother was the most tired.
There are many relatives in the family, and my grandmother lives with us, and everyone will come to the house for Chinese New Year's Eve dinner.
At that time, I didn't understand why my mother always sighed, how lively the house was.
After I got married, when I made dumplings at night and had back pain, I felt a little tired when I saw the plates and bowls removed from the banquet that had not yet been brushed.
My mother was still cleaning up outside, busy wiping the table and mopping the floor, and suddenly realized how much toil and exhaustion she had endured.
Later, I proposed to my father that I go to a restaurant outside for Chinese New Year's Eve dinner in the future, so that my mother could also have a good New Year.
Since then, during the Chinese New Year, my mother can finally have a relaxed smile on her face.
At home, the more hard-working a woman is, the more tired she is during the New Year.
Moreover, the family is used to letting her work alone, no one understands her, and no one is willing to help her, and all the trivialities are pressed on her.
Women of low status, often lowly women, work hard in marriage.
A dinner party for the New Year, she came from morning to night, and she had to be busy for a moment.
During the Chinese New Year, a large family gathers together to have a reunion dinner, and a large table of meals needs people to go to Zhang Luo. After eating, someone needs to clean up the dishes and chopsticks. And these things are actually very tiring.
In some families, it is natural for a woman to take on the chores.
Osamu Dazai once said, "I please everyone, but I still can't live this life." ”During the New Year, some women have no time to rest, they always work non-stop, no one helps, and no one feels distressed.
No matter what she does, she takes it for granted in the eyes of her family, and her family has no gratitude to her. She will also be aggrieved and sad.
In fact, women really want to get praise and encouragement from men, and want to hear him say, "You have worked so hard for me and this family."
But the reality is that women give a lot, but what they get is disrespect from their husbands. On the contrary, what ushered in was a man who found fault with her, poured cold water, and disliked his wife for not doing well.
A woman who gives something that is not seen has a very low status in marriage.
No one cares for it, all the trivialities are borne by only one person, and there is nowhere to talk about the pain in my heart, and I often can't feel love and warmth, and I am physically and mentally exhausted.
Sheng Changbai in "Do You Know" loves his wife Hai very much.
In that era, Shulan was a low-married woman, and she had to go to her mother-in-law to make rules.
After Hua Lan and Rulan got married, they also suffered a lot of idleness, and when they returned to their parents' homes, they would cry and beg their mothers for shelter.
And on the second day of Changbai and Hai's wedding, it should have been the mother-in-law who set rules for her daughter-in-law. Unexpectedly, before the mother-in-law could say a word, she was choked back by her son.
Let her not trouble the Hai family, there are so many mothers-in-law and maids at home who can serve her, and she still needs to be taken care of by the Hai family.
The matter of prolonging the heir is not something that a woman can do alone, and she is not allowed to put pressure on her mother.
With her husband's protection and love, her mother-in-law's family did not dare to embarrass and bully Hai's, and her life would be much happier.
When a man gives his wife respect and affection, he will not dare to slack off his in-laws.
A famous person said, "The one who really admires you is the one who appreciates your pride, not the way you pretend to be humble or pretend to be likable." ”The more important a woman's position in her husband's heart, the higher her status in the family.
During the Chinese New Year, women with high status will not be bothered by endless housework. Because, the family will share the responsibility, and the atmosphere will be very warm.
When a woman has a high status in marriage, she will feel full of happiness.
Women must learn to love themselves, instead of blindly pleasing and giving.
Many things are earned by oneself, and if you don't blindly treat others well, you will get love.
When you are too tired in the family, you must know how to resist.
The chores should be shared, not supported by yourself. The family is for two people, and the affairs of the family also need to be taken care of together.
The Chinese New Year is not about one person paying, others enjoying. Rather, it should be a family that pays together, and the atmosphere is happy.
A woman's position in marriage also needs to be fought for.
Don't give, don't please. Only with self can we have more status. Let everyone understand your feelings and learn to respect, so that you can live a more relaxed life.
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