Going home for the New Year, for Chinese, there is nothing more important than this matter. Traditional Chinese society relies on blood and kinship. We can see the acquaintance society outlined by family, kinship, various kinship.
But now, this family relationship is deconstructing and collapsing. In the morning, my father's two cousins came to the house, both of whom were already in their prime. They are similar in personality and appearance, and at first glance they are sweetness linked by blood.
Since my father's father died, they have basically seen this time a year. There is no need to greet each other, no need to be polite, report on their respective family situations, and greet their respective families. The annual meeting became a ritual, a bond. My cousin said, "To meet is to kiss, to sit together, to talk, to cheer up, this is a relative." At this point, he began to speak of an older sister in his hometown, "When the young man went, he put down his wine and his milk, and then he went away with a puff of smoke." "After the young man left, the old man chattered, didn't sit down to eat, didn't talk, what's the use of coming, do I lack your wine and milk?
For this reason, my cousin said that in the past, relatives walked with family affection, and contact was affection, but now when relatives go through the motions.
Indeed, in the past, during the Chinese New Year, every relative's house had to go, although there was no gift, even if it was to wrap a few steamed buns with a bag and put a piece of meat, it was the best gift to go to relatives. Everyone is drinking openly, talking and laughing, happy and hateful. Even a lot of people started to drink and drink, but it was a manifestation of true temperament. Many people are drunk and staggered, riding their bikes, or walking home with their bags on their backs. So much so that on the road, I can often pick up steamed buns and meat. Some people even lie drunk on the pile of firewood. In that era of material poverty, people's family affection was the greatest. Everyone can not eat enough for themselves, and the rest of the things can help relatives, they can help their neighbors with their hearts and lungs, and they can tell their parents about their shortcomings without reservation. Even your family has a few pigs, and your family has given birth to a few lambs in a few years, and you know everything.
Later, the living conditions improved, and the New Year's gifts began to change, and there began to be biscuits and peach crisps. I started to have better dim sum. But it seems that everyone's time is becoming more and more valuable. From going from only one relative a day, to two relatives in one day. Later, the suspensory in my hometown began to become fixed, and began to become a case of wine, plus milk or cigarettes. The means of transportation have ranged from walking to bicycles to cars. However, while transportation saves time, people feel less and less time-consuming.
Powerful people will visit seven or eight doors a day. So much so, without getting up in the morning, people came. I didn't say a word, I didn't even take a sip of tea, and immediately said, I'm going to *** and left. It's like seeing an important person back, and after leaving in a hurry, people leave infinite emotion. Hey, I forgot to ask how the is doing? But it can only be saved for next year. Now most people are in a state of going to a relative in the morning, a family in the morning, a family in the afternoon, and a family again in the evening. Going to relatives, exchanging information, and contacting feelings has become a temporary reception, and it has become a hurry.
Rural China is a family society. The exaggeration and frequency of social interactions devalue the role of family affection and make the circle of friends important. Coupled with the various considerations of the money society, only the rich and powerful will have a surplus of customers, and the utilitarian social value has further weakened the bond of family affection.
Seeing Linyi, the big family took it together to kowtow to the New Year. No matter how old I am, when the big family kneels and kowtows together, I actually burst into tears. This is our China, this is our etiquette society, and our society is inherited in the **?
Uncle Cousin said, when we are old and can't walk, your next generation may not even know each other. This is true, in the busy daily life, we rarely take the time to visit relatives and friends, our energy is focused on our own personal development, personal wealth accumulation, and our patriarchal society, but we slip between our fingers. In the past, my grandmother's family, my aunt's family, and my father-in-law's family were the three main relatives, but now with the development of society, they are also changing. I went to see my grandmother and grandfather in the second year of junior high school, and now I go to see my father-in-law in the second year of junior high school, and the status of relatives such as father-in-law and uncle has risen significantly, while the status of paternal relatives is declining. In fact, this is directly related to the development of society and the improvement of women's status.
Society is developing, some relationships are changing, and all family affection is also rising and falling in the tide of society, but rural China, family society, will inevitably return to itself, return to family affection, and return to true human nature after the material hurricane.
I hope that one day sooner, we will wipe away the material dust of our squinting eyes and return to the clear rural China.