The most comfortable relationship between people I don't change you, and I don't change because of you
The relationship between people is complex and changeable. Sometimes we try to change the people around us to meet our expectations and standards. However, the one that is truly comfortable is the one that does not require the other person to change or change oneself because of the other person.
I have a friend named Amy. She is a girl with a lot of personality and always wears unique outfits with colorful headdresses. When I first met her, I was fascinated by her unique charm, but I was also a little confused.
I tried to persuade her to change her look, thinking it would be more in line with the popular aesthetic. However, she always smiled and rejected my advice, telling me that she liked the way she looked and that she didn't want to change.
As time went on, I came to realize that what made Amy so charming was because she dared to be herself and not be constrained by the eyes of others. She doesn't need to rely on her looks to please others, but by showing her unique personality, she attracts a group of like-minded friends with her.
We often spend quality time together. Sometimes we go to explore the corners of the city, and sometimes we cook food together at home.
No matter what kind of event it is, we are always able to find common interests and topics. Although we sometimes disagree with each other, we both respect each other's independent thinking and never try to change each other's opinions.
At one point, we decided to go to a party together. It was a very solemn occasion, and everyone was dressed in formal dresses. I felt a little embarrassed when I saw Amy show up in a bright red dress. Everyone in the audience looked at her strangely, as if they were doubting her taste. However, Amy didn't care, she stood in the crowd and smiled confidently to communicate with everyone.
I am inspired by her confidence and persistence.
In my interactions with Amy, I learned an important lesson: true friendship doesn't need to change the other person. Each person has their own unique personality and characteristics, and we should respect and appreciate these differences. Changing others only brings short-term satisfaction, and true happiness comes from accepting and being accepted.
Looking back on my own life, I find that when it comes to building relationships with other people, I always try to change them. I have been dissatisfied with someone's behavior or habits and tried to change them through persuasion, criticism, and even threats.
However, such an approach can only create contradictions and conflicts.
From Amy, I learned a more tolerant and respectful way. In my days with her, I stopped trying to change others and focused more on my own growth and development. I began to realize that everyone has their own life trajectory and choices, and I don't have the power to interfere with their decisions.
My friendship with Amy also deepened. We support each other, encourage each other, and help each other in times of need. Although we sometimes disagree, we are always able to communicate openly and honestly to find solutions to problems.
Our relationship has become more and more comfortable because we have always maintained respect and understanding for each other.
Through my association with Amy, I learned that true friendship is based on equality, respect, and acceptance. Instead of trying to change others, we should learn to appreciate what makes them unique. Everyone has their own thoughts, dreams, and goals, and we should give them enough space and support to become the best version of themselves.
In my time with Amy, I found a truly comfortable human relationship. I no longer try to change others, nor do I change myself because of others.
I have learned to respect and appreciate the individuality of others, while also cherishing my own uniqueness more. This relationship makes me feel light, happy, and more confident in facing life's challenges.
Through my story with Amy, I hope that readers will be able to think about whether there are similar problems in their own lives. Are we trying to change the people around us and ignore their unique charm and value? Are we sacrificing our own truth and freedom because of the existence of others? If so, perhaps we can take some inspiration from Amy to learn to accept and respect others, while also asserting our independence and individuality.