There are two types of pressure:
In the first case, if there is no deadline for the task, most people will not do it, and there will be pressure if there is a deadline.
The second is responsibility, the greater the responsibility, the greater the corresponding pressure, and the managers also have pressure, because the goal of the managers is to make their subordinates do good things, and the subordinates will take the blame if they don't do good things.
People can't be without any pressure, people are too bored without pressure, many people will play games without pressure, pass the time, these people are caused by no pressure.
People can't be too stressed, too much pressure is too much responsibility, everyone relies on you, middle-aged men, there are four old people, there are children, once unemployed, there will be no return, many such people choose to jump off the building. Why do you want to jump off a building? It's because the pressure of money is too great, and suddenly there is no income, and there is no one in the family to make money, is it possible to receive a subsistence allowance?
If any of these four old people had a pension, he would not be so desperate.
So when I'm stressed, I need to learn to decompress, how did I relieve stress before? I play games, eat good food, or go hiking.
Recently, my stress has come mainly from **? It is to write every day, and the pressure of 1000 words a day is still there, so in order to write 1000 words better, I will prepare materials in advance every day, and find more materials for the topics I think of.
Chapter 6 of Self-Control talks about the idea that when something doesn't go as you should, do you blame yourself or forgive yourself?
People who blame themselves will fall into a vicious circle, breaking jars and breaking, for example, if the person eats too much one day, he will think that he failed today anyway, I am a waste, it is better to eat a big meal, and as a result, he will eat back for several days a day.
After eating, they will blame themselves, and when people blame themselves, the pressure will increase, and then a vicious circle.
If you want to**, remember that appetite is a human instinct, **is to fight against instinct, it is normal to eat too much occasionally, you have eaten fat for a few years, it may take a few years to succeed, so it is normal to fail occasionally, learn to forgive yourself to go further.
*Don't just rely on dieting, exercise more.
There is also a way: studying, learning is also an activity that consumes energy, and if you can quench your appetite through learning, the road will be smoother. Find a way to make yourself addicted to learning and you won't eat too much.
I now occasionally have times when I'm in a bad mood, I don't want to do anything, it's not stressed, it's just emotional ups and downs, what do I do at this time? The method I choose now is to put on headphones and listen to music, go for a walk in the neighborhood, and generally walk for 20 minutes to feel good.
The book "Self-Control" said that the American Psychologists Association has done a national survey on stress, and the most commonly used ways to reduce stress are usually ineffective, such as eating, some women like to eat chocolate to reduce stress, and after eating, they will blame themselves and have a huge sense of guilt, making themselves more stressed.
Wrong ways to decompress: gaming, TV, overeating, alcoholism, smoking.
The right way to decompress: running, walking, meditating, reading, writing.
40 Studies to Change Psychology" told an example, Samantha's parents committed suicide because they were both unemployed and had huge debts, and Samantha blamed herself for not taking good care of her parents, so she gave up on herself, overate for 3 months, and directly gained 30 pounds.
There is also pressure under great changes, and at this time, I think it is okay to go with the flow, overeating like Samantha, and then reconsider the new life after removing some of the stress.