- If you want to be happy, you can be happy now.Have you ever wondered why people seem to lose all joy and joy when they grow up?
If you look at the older faces around you, are they very gloomy and tense, always elongated and not smiling at all. If you go and ask them "Why?" The answer is usually "There is nothing to be happy about." ”
Reminiscing about childhood, in the sound of joy, I often hear adults shouting: "What is there to be happy about, play so crazy!" Thus I vaguely learned that there is nothing to be happy about if there is nothing particularly pleasing to be happy about; If someone in the family is unhappy or unhappy, they can't or shouldn't be happy. Happiness seems to have become a "taboo", and one must reach a certain ideal state in order to be happy, otherwise one should not be happy.
So, when we grew up, we began to set a "taboo" for happiness - we must first be admitted to a certain school, we must first find a good job, we must first buy a house, we must first find a significant half, or how much money we must save first, and how much weight we must lose before we allow ourselves to be happy. That's why people lose joy and joy.
Because we need some time, a year, two years, or more before we reach our goal; Because things don't always work out as they should, we have to make a lot of efforts, and during this time, it's going to be hard for us to be happy, right? Happiness is like a carrot in front of a donkey, always out of reach.
It reminds me of Sisyphus in Greek mythology. Destined to push the stone up the mountain, and then unable to stop the stone from falling again. Someone once wondered: Sisyphus was stupid, if he had known that this was a joke, would he have continued to carry the stone stupidly?
I suspect that Sisyphus is not only stupid, but also boring and brainless. Because even if it is predestined to push a stone up the mountain, he can admire the texture of the stone, look at the wildflowers on the roadside, listen to the insects and birds, or sing and whistle, and he has not heard of these "taboos" in the punishment project, right?
In fact, no matter what state we are in now, whether in good times or bad, we all have the right to make ourselves live well and happily now. Who says you can't go shopping or go to a hot spring in a bad mood, the two don't conflict at all.
Whether you want to be happy or not is a decision for yourself, you can be happy when you are sick, you can be happy when you are poor, and you can be happy even when you die, why should you be dominated by the external environment?
If you can't catch a rabbit, there is still warm sunlight and faint fragrance of leaves; If you can't catch a fish, there is also the riverbank scenery and the glowing dew on the grass. Why limit yourself to being happy only if you catch a rabbit or catch a fish? Who prescribes?
Think about it, when you achieve your goal, you are happy, then who wants you to be happy? It's all you, right?
I asked a student, "Are you happy?" ”"I'm working on it, and one day I'll be," he said. ”
I said, "You should be happy all the time, why wait?" ”
After graduating, I asked again, "Are you happy?"
"When I make a fortune, I'll be happy," he said. ”
I said, "Why don't we skip that level and start having fun now!" ”
He laughed! If you want to be happy, you can be happy right now, is someone in your way?