Many leaders are very polite and tactful when assigning tasks, and you should not take it as "polite". For example: "Xiao Li, you are a serious person, Xiao Wang does things roughly, I don't worry, so-and-so work, from today on, you help Xiao Wang take it, I believe you can do it." "This tone is so polite, and the purpose of belittling Xiao Wang is to praise you and coax you to take over this job. It's not that you "help" Xiao Wang do things, and it's not that Xiao Wang is really inferior to you. This is just an expression of leadership, and it has no real meaning.
You know, that's the task assigned to you, and you're not really "helping" someone else. A portion of your salary is earned for the work. If you feel like you're helping someone else and show it, just wait to be fixed!
Luo Li is in her early forties, with a secondary school culture, and has been doing administrative work for nearly 20 years. There is no technology involved, but it is trivial and needs to be serious and responsible.
As the company's business shrank, there were fewer and fewer daily tasks. The boss walked back and forth all day long, looking anxious. Due to personnel changes, everyone else is multi-tasking, and some people are overloaded.
In order to break down the pressure of other employees, the boss lined up Luo Li's time and talked to her: "Xiao Luo, you have worked carefully and meticulously in the past few years, and you have never made a mistake." Now, with a batch of important documents in so-and-so's hand, she is too busy and needs assistance. Those documents can't be supervised by no one in her hands. I don't feel at ease when I hand it over to others, so I want to give it to you. In the future, you can help her take care of it! You will hand over these two days. ”
This is the normal assignment task. But Luo Li grabbed the word "help" and took over the job for five or six years, and that person was gone, and she still felt that she was helping others work! I went to the boss at the end of three days and asked to divide the work, but I always said that I couldn't be busy because I helped so-and-so manage the batch of documents.
Later, the boss asked the head of the department to remind her euphemistically: "Everyone has been gone for a few years, and you have been doing this work for a few years, so don't think that you are helping others to work, and the salary increase that was given to you later is not because you are given this work?" I once divided your other work to others, all because of this! Luo Li didn't understand.
After that colleague left, another person surnamed Zhao took office, and she felt that she was helping Xiao Zhao later. In fact, the job responsibilities of people are very clear, and there is no such one. She doesn't think so, and usually shows Xiao Zhao's face at every turn, which makes Xiao Zhao inexplicable. Once the two of them faced each other, Xiao Zhao counted her down for a while, and she couldn't speak. I cried and went to the boss.
This time, the boss agreed to divide the work, but the 1,000 yuan that year was given to her, and at the same time it was given to the person who accepted the job. Reducing money, she is not happy about this, how can there be such a beautiful thing. The boss made a quick decision and divided the work and salary, and she became the lowest-paid person.
The most important work was divided, there was nothing to do, and I played on my phone all day. When the company's business is tight and the business is sluggish, which boss will raise idlers!
I usually think that my boss trusts me, I am the busiest, I show off my might, and I command my colleagues. Divide her work one after another and add it to others, and others are not happy. Therefore, I have offended my colleagues in the past few years. This work is assigned to her direct leader to do it personally, can people give her a good face?
Since then, she has been marginalized by her leadership, squeezed by her colleagues, and no one has paid attention to her. What she was supposed to do, her colleagues did it herself, and some people said in a weird way: "Don't you dare to use others, people are busy, and we are all idle, so the work is assigned to us." Don't we dare to instruct others! "A colleague who drove after work took someone away, and no one took her. The key is that she is also timid, afraid of the dark, and afraid of dogs. By the end, no one had spoken to her. This is cold violence in the workplace, which she brought on herself.
Adults, understand yourself correctly, don't think that you can do it, and it is also your ability.
At the end of the year, the company gave a bonus, and did not give her, the reason of the leadership is: your work is all you ask to be divided, and you basically didn't do anything in the second half of the year, and it is already good to give you a salary normally, and the reward is not yours.
At this time, she felt that she really couldn't do it, so she didn't say hello, didn't write a resignation letter, and didn't go to work. If she doesn't go to work, the company calls her ** and sends a letter, but she doesn't reply. The work was not handed over, the last month's salary was not paid to her, and she did not find a company. Perhaps, in such an atmosphere, she is really reluctant to go to the company. So who is to blame?
This is to take the "kind words" of the leader seriously, not to be able to evaluate one's own ability, and not to recognize one's own position.
In the workplace, as long as it is arranged by the company, it is a task for you, how can it be considered as "helping others" to do things. If you can't recognize this, you can't recognize your job, and you don't deserve sympathy when you encounter cold violence in the workplace.
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