Have you noticed that more and more people don't want to get married now, especially the post-90s. According to the data of the Ministry of Civil Affairs, the data registered in China in 2020 is 81310,000 tons, marriage registration continued to decline sharply, hitting a new low in 17 years. So why do more and more post-90s generations not want to get married now? In general, the reasons are as follows.
First, there is no time for love. Today's young people are in the stage of hard work, tired like dogs at work every day, busy dealing with customers on the one hand, and busy dealing with bosses on the other. I just want to lie in bed and pass out after work, and I just want to brush up on my mobile phone to relax and relax, and I really don't want to spend time and energy to manage my feelings. Second, I don't have money and don't want to spend my parents' money. Now the cost of marriage is too high, and the cost of falling in love to getting married is already unbearable, let alone after marriage
In case it is more difficult to have children again, and getting married and buying a house is basically a rigid need, how many of the post-90s can buy a house on their own? Parents are getting older day by day, I really can't bear to let my parents get old and worry about buying a house for themselves, third, I don't want to get married for the sake of getting married, in this era, everyone sees divorce very clearly, but takes marriage more seriously. If you can't grow old, then it's not interesting to get married
In the eyes of the post-90s, there is no age to get married, only the feelings that should be married. 30 is not standing, 30 is just that, it is not that you have to have children when you reach the age, you have to get married, but after you are ready, you will carefully choose to get married and have children. The post-90s generation always talks casually, and they will leave if it's a big deal, but from the bottom of their hearts, they still look forward to the inseparable feelings of the white head. They hope to be psychologically, materially and careerly prepared, and then calmly enter the marriage hall
I don't want to get married and have children in a hurry. In the final analysis, in fact, it is not willing to make do, nor do you want to rely on the family, and pay more attention to the education of children, in fact, this is a more cautious attitude towards marriage, and it is also a more responsible performance. So what do you think? Let's talk in the comment section. I think it's actually correct to think about not having children now, because many young people don't want to get married.
The first of the three major pressures is the uncertainty of one's own future. In the face of an uncertain future, do we dare to carry such a heavy burden? It's like if you want to climb a mountain, I can climb this mountain, I don't know if I can't climb it, and I still carry a 100-pound thing, how can you be? Our generation didn't have that concept at the time. Because we have a fixed salary, for example. Although I know that I am poor, I am very down-to-earth when I am poor.
He is sure of the poor. I know that if you buy a color TV in three years and a motorcycle in four years, that's all for sure. But now he has 300,000 on him and doesn't dare to move, how does he know how to live next year and next year? Maybe the day after tomorrow you just lie there and can't do anything. Therefore, the first big problem in rushing to give birth is the uncertainty of the future, so everyone does not dare to carry the burden on their backs. The second is that today's young people see this life more thoroughly than we do, what is more thorough? Life wants happiness, not the pursuit that others give you, right?
That is, I first have to find out that I am happy, and then I have to think about the so-called pursuit that you have given me. Because we have pursued it from generation to generation, including inheritance. Should I take this kind of pursuit? I first have to find out if I'm happy or not, and I don't know that. I won't do the second thing, he knows very well which of the two rods is in front and which is in the back. It's not like when we took two batons at once, and he got married in a daze. So they now have a very clear view of life, and he knows that his happiness is very important, so he will do this well first, and then think about other things. The third is that I am really not sure about the growth of the child, and I don't know how to be responsible for the child in the future. In addition to being responsible in material life, there is also training. Nowadays, many young people have long known the pressure of training. He didn't mean adding a pair of chopsticks to the house, our time often said oops, if you have more children, you will add more chopsticks, and it's not a big deal, right? The eldest wears the clothes of the second child, and the children of the third child can wear them. But this is certainly not going to work now. Now he thinks that I can't take responsibility for this child, why should he wear torn clothes, why should he not be able to afford a new pair of shoes? It's not that they are higher than their previous material pursuits, but that they have a greater sense of responsibility than we do, so he can't take on this responsibility. I might as well not take it from the beginning, that is, if you come to the shoulders and don't bear it, that is to shirk responsibility, that is to push responsibility. Now he doesn't take the initiative to take responsibility, those are two concepts. Taking the initiative is not risky to the society, so losing the responsibility will be too destructive to the society. Do you want them to be born inexplicably, and then lose 10,000 children and wander society?
I can't imagine it, isn't this problem? So I think it's actually the right way to think about not having children now. But you have to note that the purpose of hard work is to live a happier life. Why do you think about population growth from the perspective of the labor force? Because now we are talking about the demographic dividend, so we encourage everyone to have children. Your starting point is itself wrong. Make no mistake about it, are you here for everyone's happiness? You're not at all. If he thinks that having a child is a great blessing, you are right to persuade him to have a child. If you consider this problem from the perspective of no successor in human resources, you are not thinking about it for me at all, so will I accept it? Definitely won't accept it. So from this point of view, we should have enough understanding of the fact that young people are unwilling to get married, unwilling to have children, especially unwilling to have children, and should understand that they are the real responsible attitude, so that you will not blame them for what they do. Of course, there is no need to worry too much about the future, because after the future person understands the society better, it is very likely that there will be a peak period of childbirth, which is normal, why not? I don't want you to persuade this thing, don't persuade if you want to be born, don't restrict you from doing this thing?