The Road to Chic Life".
1. Success is given to failure
There are many people who often do not show their true power unless there is a catastrophe coming. Unless the sorrow of disappointment, the pain of losing one's home, and all the other painful unfortunate facts are enough to move the nucleus of his life, the hidden power within them will not arouse action.
The best test of a person's character is when he fails, and what happens to him when he fails?
Will failure evoke more courage in him? Will failure make him work harder? Will failure allow him to discover new strength and summon potential? After failure, is it redoubled in determination? Or are you disheartened?
The most obvious sign of a great and noble man is his tenacity; No matter how far the environment changes, his original intention and hope will not change in the slightest, and will eventually overcome obstacles in order to achieve the goal of hope.
After falling, immediately stand up, and go to defeat to win the battle, this is the secret of the success of great men since ancient times.
Someone asked a young child how he could learn to skate. The child's answer was, "The way to do this is to get up immediately after every fall!" "What makes an individual successful, or an army victorious, is actually due to this spirit. Falling down is not a failure, but not being able to stand up after a fall is a failure.
The past life is probably a painful and heartbreaking history for you, right? When you look at the past, you feel like you're failing at every turn, right? What you have so eagerly awaited to accomplish will not be; Your dear relatives and friends will even abandon you, right? Have you lost your job, or even your family, because you can't support your family? Your future seems to be very bleak, right? However, despite all the above misfortunes, as long as you are unwilling to give in forever, victory is still waiting in the distance, beckoning to you!
This is the place to test the size of your personality; After everything but your own life has been lost, what is left in your life? In other words, how much courage do you have left after your repeated failures?
If, after you fail, you lie down and let go, and are willing to give in permanently, others can conclude that you are just a mortal man. But if you can be ambitious, move forward, not disappointed, and not give up, then people can know that your personality and courage can surpass your losses, disasters and failures.
You may say that you have failed too many times, so it is futile to try again; You've fallen too many times, it's useless to stand up again, right?
Nonsense! For those whose will never yields, there is no such thing as failure!
No matter how many defeats there are and how late they are, victory is still expected.
Often, as is written in the newspapers, or as we have seen and heard, there are many men and women who strive to redeem themselves from the failures of the past, and to strive again in spite of their previous failures in order to achieve victory.
There are tens of millions of people who have lost everything they have, but they are not failures, because they have an unyielding will, a spirit that does not know how to fall.
People with great personalities don't mind much about the so-called successes and failures in the world, and disasters and disappointments come frequently, but they can always surpass. Overcome them, he never loses his composure.
In the stormy attack, the fragile soul of the person can only wait to be killed, his self-confident spirit, calm spirit, still exists; And you can overcome all the circumstances of the outside world and make it not harm yourself.
What is Failure?
If nothing else, failure is just the first stage of a higher position.
Many people succeed because they have been given previous failures.
If he hadn't suffered defeat, he probably wouldn't have been able to achieve a great victory.
For a person who has backbone and achievements, failure is enough to increase his determination and courage.
Yes! For those who are confident in their abilities and do not mind temporary success or failure, there is no such thing as failure!
For those who let others go, and he still insists, and others retreat and he still rushes forward, there is no such thing as failure!
For each fall, stand up immediately; Every time you fall to the ground, you will jump higher like a ball, and there is no such thing as failure.
2. Be a noble person
To be a man is not only to be kind, but also to be noble.
Kindness is compassion, and nobility is to be aware of the dignity of being a human being, and to embody the dignity of being a human being in one's actions.
The most important moral qualities are kindness and nobility, and a person with a good heart and a noble soul is a moral person in the full sense.
A person of noble soul is characterized by self-esteem and respect for others, and it is in respect for others that his self-esteem is most truly and naturally manifested.
Self-esteem is by no means self-respecting, on the contrary, a noble person must treat others equally, and he has experienced the dignity of being a human being in himself, so it is natural to regard others as dignified people.
He sees himself as a human being, so he also sees others as human beings. Those who don't treat others as human beings expose that they don't treat themselves as human beings.
We rarely say the word noble now, or abuse the word, and use it the most in real estate advertising, as if living in a luxury villa is noble, it is supreme. Of course, this is pseudo-nobility.
The nobility of man lies in the soul, in respecting and promoting the divinity in himself. Those who are spiritually weak, those whose souls are not illuminated by the light, who have no inner things, must take external things very seriously, and will value themselves and others with their property, power, and status, thinking that these things represent nobility.
A popular saying, worth trillions and billions, I think it's amazing, vulgar to the extreme, and ridiculous to the extreme. Dignity is priceless, and only the undignified will price themselves with money and material things.
Today, there are many people who really don't take their dignity seriously, sell their dignity for money and power, and rely on money and power to ** the dignity of others.
Whether a person has the dignity of being a human being or not is reflected everywhere.
When I drove a BMW, I felt that I was very remarkable, rampage, drag racing, like entering a no-man's land, and hit people to death.
Driving can especially show a person's morality, whether you respect pedestrians, whether you respect other drivers, your attitude when you scratch, you can clearly see your character and upbringing.
For example, when it rains, we are walking on the road, the road is very narrow, and there is standing water on the road, and you pay attention to this time.
When some cars pass by you, they slow down for fear of splashing the water on you, and then we say to ourselves that there is a soul in the car.
Some cars drive past at full speed and splash you with water, and then we say to ourselves that there is a soulless guy sitting in the car.
He has no one in his eyes, he doesn't treat you as a person, that is, he doesn't treat himself as a person, he is indeed not a person at this moment, he has no concept of the "person" in others and in himself.
"Spiritual aristocracy" is a compliment, people should be spiritual nobles, to be noble souls.
The soul and spiritual attributes are the noblest part of the human body, and you have to make it noble in you, and you can't let it be disgraced.
Even if you are an ordinary person in society, but you have dignity in life, you are the person God likes, in other words, your life is successful, if there is a supreme judge, he will put you in the camp of the excellent.
On the contrary, how well you can eat in society and behave very badly, you are just a powerful and rich spiritual pariah, your life is a failure, and God will put you in another book when he reckons the general account.
From the perspective of happiness, being a good person is the highest happiness in life.
3. Live detached
Each of us, throughout our lives, is looking for feelings.
Parents, as adults, mostly have their own wills and philosophies that will think what children should and shouldn't do.
At this time, it is actually destroying the child's feelings.
In the long run, it will be difficult for children to respect their own feelings and let their selves live in this world in many things when they grow up.
And they will still rely on the "what to do, what not to do" code of conduct.
The family introduced the object, knowing that it was not suitable, but felt that it should not be disobeyed by the will of the family, so he still went on a blind date;
A colleague asked for help, obviously it was not his job, but he felt that he should not be so indifferent, so he sacrificed his rest time to help the other party;
A friend came to borrow money, and he finally saved some money, but he felt that friends should help each other, so he gritted his teeth and lent it out;
How bitter and anxious it must be to live like this!
Therefore, if you want to live freely, you still have to follow your feelings.
There is only one kind of success in life, and that is that you live this life according to your own wishes.
If a person can live according to his feelings, he must be a legend.
Unfortunately, the vast majority of people have a hard time doing this.
Because in our culture, we usually tend to deny feelings, whether it's other people's feelings or our own.
It can be found that those very powerful characters also believe in their own feelings very much.
Even when they are a few years old, they are very clear about the question of "how am I going to live".
If a person just lives in a routine and makes choices that everyone makes, it means that he can only live in the shadow of others and live a predictable life.
Therefore, such a person is easily disturbed by the things around him, becomes anxious, and loses himself.
If it is not for useless things, how can it be sent to a lifetime", those who understand this truth can be said to have attained the Tao and can be called wise men.
Most people, on the contrary, always claim to be doing something good, never knowing the end of their lives.
Leisure and casualness are both states of withdrawal from mundane affairs, but the mood is very different.
The fittest return to themselves, wandering in their own world, leisurely, and their hearts are quiet and clear.
The wanderer cannot find himself, so he has to still scratch around in the world of external objects, at a loss, and his heart is troubled and turbid.
You say, you have to live a good life.
I said, you have to live a good life.
Fame and status are clothes, so you might as well get one to wear.
But don't be a cloak for others or for yourself.
Clothes are changed and I am still me.
Stripping off their clothes, men and women are more authentic.
The distance theory "is equally applicable to artists and philosophers."
Comprehension, like appreciation, requires a considerable distance from the object before it can be seen in general.
Without a certain degree of detachment, we must not have a deep insight into life.
When you are sick, you will become more humane.
On the one hand, I am estranged from all kinds of affairs, and my fame is indifferent, even if I am forced to do so, after all, I have a relaxed state of mind.
On the other hand, I am lonely during my illness, I miss my relatives and friends more earnestly, and my taste for love and friendship is more delicate.
Illness makes people lighter, utilitarian and more humane.
Forty and not confused". At the age of forty and halfway through life, a person begins to feel that his days are numbered and that he is aware of the limits of life.
The consciousness of "limit" is enough to make people lift, look down on the gains and losses of honor and disgrace, and maintain a transcendent and tranquil state of mind.
We always think that what we have already received is our own, and once we lose it, we feel that we have suffered a loss.
In fact, everything changes, and nothing can be truly possessed.
Got — cut the person, and when he died, he gave everything over.
It is better to continue to gain and lose in life, get used to it, and maybe face death more calmly.
On the other hand, for a receptive mind, nothing is truly lost.
What I lost and can't get back again.
I still have something to gain, but sooner or later I will lose it.
I was doomed to lose myself irretrievably in the end.
In that case, why should I care about gains and losses?
Everything I have in my hands, including my life, I can test on them, and at most lose them sooner.
All outward deficiencies or losses, including reputation, status, property, etc., should not cause suffering in substance, as long as they do not affect basic survival.
If it hurts, it's just because you care, and the more you care, the more painful it becomes.
As long as you don't care, you can't hurt a single hair.
Persistence is confusion, but pessimism is not confusion?
Because of seeing through the red dust and despairing, misanthropy and even suicide, he is still too persistent in his bones, he can't see through it, and he takes the red dust too seriously.
It's like a passionate lover rushing to run away from a sweetheart who doesn't love him.
The true enlightened person can gain a kind of vision and wisdom from seeing through the red dust, so that he will not be confused by the red dust when he is in the red dust, and he will still maintain a detached state of mind when he enters the world.
Assuming that he is the one who is in love, then now that he is free from love, he is neither bitterly entangled nor far away from his sweetheart who does not love him, but can meet her calmly.
A person who loves life cannot but be persistent, and if he has insight into the truth of life, he cannot but be pessimistic, and the result of the fierce conflict and reconciliation between the two is detachment.
Therefore, detachment is essentially a kind of attachment with pessimistic constraints, and pessimism with persistent constraints.
Careful analysis shows that there are always two factors, pessimism and persistence, but a proper relationship has been formed between the two, and it no longer tends to one end.
There is no "Supreme Enlightened One" who has realized life once and for all, and if there is, he has already attained Buddhahood and does not belong to the world of living people.
From simplicity to complexity, and then back to mature simplicity, the wisdom of the name.
From chaos to sobriety, and then back to conscious chaos, the name is fully realized.
Ding Jungui. February 16, 2024.