**10,000 Fans Incentive Program I seem to have found a very magical way to cultivate children's self-confidence and make them confident!
Mr. Lu Xun once said such a paragraph, which is quite reasonable:
The purpose of parents' existence is not to give their children a comfortable and prosperous life. But when you think of your parents, your heart will be full of strength and warmth, so that you will have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties; And because of this, you will get more fun and initiative in life.
Some friends said that in the process of cultivating children's self-confidence, if the scale is not grasped well, it is very likely that the child will be cultivated from self-confidence to conceit.
1. Social attributes.
At every age, at every stage, everyone has a social method that he can integrate into the social environment, and the social attributes of kindergarten children to integrate into the collective are cartoons, Ultraman, and cars, and toys are the social attributes of kindergarten children who can quickly make friends. In primary school, children's social circles will be divided into two, one is those who like to read books and exchange books together after class, and the other is those who like to play games after class to exchange game experience together. I have a period of time often buy Ultraman cards for children, buy cars, other children will buy back for their children, and then I feel that a little brainless and meaningless, when buying cards and toys, I also buy some Ultraman encyclopedias, car encyclopedias, use his interest to guide him to learn to master knowledge, know what it is, and know why, which also makes children in kindergarten because of the amount of knowledge greatly increased confidence.
2. Conquer difficulties.
True self-confidence is not something that comes from boasting. "You're awesome! "You are the smartest and most beautiful! These pure boastful self-confidence will eventually turn into self-doubt and collapse in the huge gap between reality and the evaluation of the outside world. Looking back at my age, true self-confidence must have been gained after going through hardships and tremendous growth. True self-confidence is a kind of calmness that is not afraid to retreat in the face of difficulties, and believes that as long as you can work hard, you will definitely ride the wind and waves and overcome obstacles. How can we cultivate this quality in our children? One is to praise him for his process, persistence, and not being afraid of difficulties, and the other is to learn him something and let him experience the process of conquering difficulties. When he was going through difficulties, she kept encouraging him and making him believe that he had unlimited potential.
3. A skill.
Must have a skill, whether it is language or art, sports, to let him have what he is good at, and be able to show at a critical time, if you want to be proficient in any skill, talent is not enough, it must be the result of hard work, practice, and persistence. I started my child's English language when he was 2 years old, and now he can speak English fluently, which has given him a lot of confidence in learning.
Fourth, be willing to share.
When I used to be in the bank, there were several children of big leaders who were very positive and confident, and their children all had a common trait that they were generous and willing to share. This logic is also very easy to understand, sharing and caring is the behavior of the strong, the weak are not confident enough or lack of resources, and they are too busy to take care of themselves, and only the strong have spare strength to share and take care of others. And every time you share and take care of others, you will get a thank you from the other person, which is a powerful positive feedback. Of course, you can say that the children of the leaders are willing to share only if they have good economic conditions, and ordinary people are not allowed to do so. I still hope that the children will learn more about this method, even if it is not a material sharing, if they reach out in time when others need it, they can quickly gain popularity in the group.
5. Unconditional love.
We love you not because you are obedient, not because you are sensible, but because you are you. If you don't get good grades, we work hard together, and if you make mistakes, we will help you correct them together, as long as you are positive and optimistic, have a positive outlook, and have a good character, your parents will always love you. Unconditional love will be a source of strength for a child's life, because he knows that no matter what time it is, home is her eternal haven. A loving child must not lack self-confidence. 