Rural worries There are many single men in a village of several hundred households
In Haofu Village, a small village on the Jizhong Plain in Hebei Province, there are more than 400 households with a population of about 2,000 people. Due to its remoteness from the main road and moderate economic conditions, there are no hairdressers, no restaurants, no large bazaars, and the only school is only for grades 1 to 3. Due to the inconvenient living conditions, the girls here are reluctant to marry here, resulting in a large number of unmarried young men in their 30s in this village, and there are about 40 unmarried young men over the age of 30. Based on my recent conversations with my cousins, I learned that there were two families in the neighborhood with two sons, but neither found a daughter-in-law. Some families are financially well-off, and young people are not bad, but they just can't find a suitable partner.
Causes and solutions to marital difficulties for young people in rural areas.
1.Leave.
To solve the problem of not being able to find a wife, we must first dare to go out. Don't just stay at home and wait for a matchmaker to propose, because matchmakers tend to focus only on material things. If the quality indicators do not meet the requirements, or the conditions are too weak, the matchmaker may not even have the opportunity to propose. On the other hand, if you have the courage to venture out into the outside world, you may have more opportunities to cultivate a bond between colleagues. It will be better to talk about feelings first and then consider the material aspects.
2.Improve your competitiveness.
In addition to daring to leave, it is also fundamental to improve one's own competitiveness. As the saying goes"There are plane trees at home, and there are phoenixes nesting at home"。As long as you have your own success, you will naturally be able to attract the attention of girls. If you want to stand out from the crowd of single young people, you must have certain specialties and abilities. Whether it's learning ability, or life skills, you can make yourself more attractive and attractive.
3.Valuing personal reputation.
In rural society, personal reputation is very important. There is an example where the neighbor's husband loves to play mahjong and his wife loves to drink, which means that their children are not married by the time they reach their thirties because they have a bad reputation outside. No one wants to marry into a lazy family. This is not only the case in her husband's village, but also in other nearby villages. Therefore, you must pay attention to your reputation image and be a responsible and responsible person, so as to attract more attention from the opposite sex.
Personal Views and Reflections on Rural Marriage.
Marital problems in rural areas are widespread and not an isolated phenomenon. Judging from the situation in this village, although there are many single men, it does not mean that they are all of them"Leftover men", it doesn't mean they can't find a wife. On the contrary, the young people of this village have encountered some disadvantages from the outside world, such as their general economic conditions and relatively closed living conditions. This has led to a certain amount of hesitation and hesitation among girls about getting married in these places.
However, in the face of this situation, we cannot stand still, nor can we simply blame external environmental factors. We must be proactive in changing ourselves, changing the environment, looking for opportunities and possibilities for marriage. When it comes to solutions, I propose three aspects, namely, going out, improving competitiveness, and valuing reputation, all of which are to increase the competitiveness and success rate of young people in the marriage market.
In addition, I am well aware of the influence of traditional ideas and values in rural areas on marriage. In rural society, the consideration of marriage is not only limited to affection and mutual attraction, but also takes into account family background, economic conditions, family status, etc. This can create greater challenges and difficulties for unmarried youth. Therefore, it is also an important task to change these perceptions and ideas and make more people accept the diversity and individuality of marriage.
In short, solving the problem of marriage and love in rural areas requires not only personal efforts, but also social attention and support. I hope that through the joint efforts of all walks of life, we will give single men more opportunities and possibilities, so that they can find their own happiness. At the same time, it is also hoped that the society can be more open and inclusive, and form a more diverse and freely chosen marriage environment, so that everyone can find a sense of belonging and happiness in marriage.