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Google engineer kills wife?
Tsinghua Xueba has a hidden ** tendency?
Is this another "disappearing her"?
Some time ago, a sensational marital "** case" in China and the United States caused a stir on the Internet.
It is the Google Tsinghua man murder case on the cusp.
As we progress, the man has not yet been heard for five hearings, and he has been in the hospital for almost a month.
The family also rushed to the local and hired the best and most expensive lawyer. And the girl's parents are still trapped in the country because of visa issues (it is rumored that the boy's family is superior, the father**, the girl's ordinary working family. ）
Probably already playing the "psychological" card(A post saying that Chen Liren's matrilineal family is mentally ill has been proven to be a rumor, and that was the case of another Chinese student many years ago.) ）
Here are a few points that Xiao Xi wants to discuss about this case.
1. Long-term contradiction or passion killing?
There are three reasons why this matter has attracted so much attention.
First, the two parties are too young and too good. Both graduated from Tsinghua University, studied in the United States, and after graduation, they entered the world's top companies, and only got married last year. There are still wedding photos of the two in the woman's circle of friends, which look incomparably matched.
Second, the resumes of both men and women are undoubtedly the dream children of every parentThe murder suspect is even more in the marriage market, the kind that can be robbed of his head. Their accident gave the parents of the chicken baby a heavy blow to some extent, and it turned out that the results not only could not keep the peace, but even the life.
Third, the man's criminal methods are too cruelIt's not **, a knife cut, but a heavy punch to the opponent's brain to kill. Chen is 190cm tall, and the woman is about 160cm smaller than the visual inspection, in this kind of confrontation, the physical conditions of men and women are very different, and the woman has almost no room to resist and fight back.
Investigators arrived at the scene and noticed that the suspect, Liren Chen, was "extremely swollen and purple" in his right hand, with blood on his clothes, legs, arms and hands, according to records.
Local prosecutors tentatively characterized the case as a case of death caused by domestic violence, and evidence at the scene showed:
At the time of the incident, Chen Liren punched his wife in the head with one punch after another, beating her to death, showing a high degree of cruelty, viciousness, and indifference.
No murder weapon was found at the scene, and his wife was punched to death with his bare hands!
It's hard to imagine a height of 1Yu Xuanyi, who is 65 meters emaciated, is facing 1How helpless and frightened her husband was when he was violently violent.
There are three sayings circulating in local Chinese circles:
1 is that Chen Liren is too controlling, which leads to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife. People familiar with the matter said that Chen Liren has a strong desire to control, and he is always afraid that his wife will stay away and betray him.
For this reason, he even asked his wife to quit her job at Amazon and come to Google to work with him, usually following his wife inseparably. Such an excessive approach made his wife very disgusted, and the relationship between the two had problems.
2 is jealousy of his wife, which leads him to the point of no return.
It is said that when she worked at Google with her wife, she performed very well, even surpassing Chen Liren. Coupled with some unverifiable rumors, Chen Liren fell into the jealousy of "his wife is better than himself", and then became angry.
At the Google Tsinghua alumni reunion, the two had a quarrel and had a very unpleasant quarrel.
3. The wife filed for divorce, but the husband could not accept it and committed a murder.
According to people familiar with the matter, because of various conflicts between husband and wife, the woman filed for divorce three weeks before the incident. Her education and knowledge made her choose to stop losses in time. But this made Chen Liren unacceptable, and the relationship between the husband and wife became worse. Before the case, the conflict broke out again, and Chen Liren was angry and killed.
2. A high degree of education does not equal a healthy personality
The halo of a prestigious school is often associated with high IQ, and high IQ is not linked to high EQ, let alone personal morality.
These "elites" who can "roll" to the ceiling, IQ and diligence are beyond doubt, they have worked hard all the way in life, but they seem to be missing an important lesson in personality development.
Because of his work, lawyer Liu Longzhu is very familiar with the Chinese circle in the United States, and has also been involved in cases of Chinese engineers from major companies such as Google, Facebook, and NVIDIA.
The engineers in these cases are all top students, and many of them are top students in the college entrance examination from various provinces and cities in China, and their careers are also developing very smoothly.
However, a considerable number of them have a high IQ and low emotional intelligence, and they act very radically and have extremely low emotional management skills.
Many years ago, Professor Qian Liqun of Peking University said that some of our universities, including famous universities, are cultivating refined egoists.
The excessively smooth schooling, work experience, and aura of prestigious schools have become a "disguise" for some potential criminals who go to extremes and are emotionally unstable.
These people have a very superior IQ, but they are extremely cruel at the core, and even have *** personality.
When success is the only value, quick success, indifference and selfishness will follow.
Children who have been praised too high by their surroundings since childhood can't stand the setbacks, and it may not be a good thing to become famous at a young age.
Excessive comparison, desire to control, and anger when encountering setbacks are essentially panics about their own failures.
Because of the "fear of losing", he couldn't accept the reality that he was gradually disappearing from everyone, and he couldn't bear the problems that were difficult to solve in his studies and work, and finally broke out into the extreme behavior of killing others.
Just like the core of the Zhu Ling case in Tsinghua University, it is also a person who is accustomed to winning and cannot bear the evil of human nature that others are better than himself.
So, I really don't want to have any filters about academic qualificationsExams can filter the scum, but not the scum.
All the people listened, tooThe purpose of education is to make people human, not to be human.
The fault tolerance rate of elites is too low to accept the change of career, marriage and family upward path; But without a healthy personality, prestigious schools, wealth and success do not guarantee happiness.
No one can always be emotionally stable, and no one can always be smooth and free from setbacks. Therefore, what we should learn more is to have a strong enough heart to accept any change that happens.
At the moment when the pressure of involution is accumulating, letting go of oneself and accepting failure is a more important ability than participating in competition.
Take a long-term view, look for more possibilities from life and work, allow life to be flawed, and embrace the joys, sorrows and sorrows of reality.
The first sentence at the beginning of "The Road Less Traveled" says that life is full of suffering.
Life is to experience that everything is possible, and the brave acceptance and perseverance are the real strong people.
After all, any external aura will disappear one day.
Only sincerity and kindness will bloom with lasting charm.
3. The desire for control triggered by extreme environments
Orange is orange born in Huainan, and orange is born in Huaibei.
In fact, many people do not understand the various pressures that come with living abroad.
The circle is small, the life is closed, and it is difficult to integrate into the local social ......There is a strong sense of isolation in an unfamiliar cultural environment, especially when two people support each other and depend on each other.
In such a place where there are no relatives, people are isolated and helpless once they are in trouble.
If the relationship breaks down and you can't find another person to confide in [emotional fulcrum], it is easy to have psychological problems and go to extremes in the trial and error stage.
Let's look at the Fudan high-achieving students who used to be physicists who were wandering on the streets before, a group of people are anxious to go out to wash dishes, but they don't know how much pressure they still have to bear even if they go out through formal channels with high education and high income.
It's like a small tree that has been growing in the shade and can't get sunlight, and it snaps and breaks.
Moreover, the Chinese community in the Bay Area is originally more men and fewer women, and boys have such conditions as a lot of grabbing, and girls who can form a two-code family are more sought-after.
It is true that women are more likely to integrate into local society than men.
A friend who once attended a party with them said that the man had been staring at the woman very closely, almost never leaving, and the woman was not allowed to go shopping with a few female classmates.
And the woman was doing a good job on Amazon, but the man felt that the woman was not at ease under his nose, so he had to push the woman into Google.
The woman doesn't want to go to Google. It was the man who pestered her, stared at her, spying on her, and pushed the woman into the same company as him. The woman was very angry. But for the sake of family harmony, I endured it and went to Google.
But after the two were in the same company, the man's suspicion of the woman did not improve, but intensified!
There was also a gathering of Google's Tsinghua department, and the two had a quarrel in public, and many people have seen the two quarrel.
So half a year ago, the woman began to think about divorce; About three weeks ago, the woman officially filed for divorce.
Not surprisingly, the man firmly disagreed, and he began to be extremely emotionally unstable, showing some symptoms of dysphoria.
Finally, just last week, the two had a big quarrel, and one of the crazy men went crazy and beat the woman to death at home.
What is incomprehensible is that some people tout the criminal's appearance, background and resume, saying that he is the ceiling ...... the marriage and love world
Who is a good person who can beat people to death with one punch?
Even if the husband and wife fight, the first punch can be said to be instinctiveBut every punch after that is a distortion of human nature and a moral degradation.
A person's desire to control is too strong, proving that there is only oneself and no one else in the heart. He's likely to go crazy when he's out of control.
A sensible person, even if he quarrels, will always maintain a degree of proportion, argue with reason, and be emotionally stable; A person with violent tendencies is prone to raise his fist and look hideous when he disagrees with three sentences.
Stay away from people who are controlling, both men and women.
People need to have their own circle and social interactions, no matter how intimate the relationship between husband and wife, must be measured and fully respected for each other.
Also, in intimate relationships, it's important to stay calm and keep your eyes open.
Sometimes, quarrels and contradictions are the best lie detectors.
If you notice that you are in an unhealthy relationship or that there is a problem with the person around you, you must respond appropriately and seek help in time.
After all, all relationships, in the end, are all about character.
4. Why is it always the husband?
In fact, after reading so many social cases, I have always had a question, why are there few girls who are naturally considered emotional animals who can't get out after breaking up and still commit crimes, but the male treasure who is considered to be the second to countless things in his life is always unable to accept the woman's departure or break up and abuse others?
So much so that there is a famous sentence in the ** case detective world for women.
"Always the husband."
After this news fermentation, there was once again a "myth" that discussions related to gender-based violence cases often fall into, that is, the woman "made a mistake" and provoked the man to "kill with passion".
But it is common for men to commit violence against their partners, causing them serious physical, mental and psychological harmWhat we should think about is not what women do wrong, but why do men commit violence?
There are rumors that the girl cheated, but in fact there is no evidence - it's just that the man is paranoid and jealous, insisting that the woman cuckolded him.
The core of this case is naked emotional problems + violent crimes.
I have seen too many people who say benevolent, righteous and moral, but do things that are unconscionable.
Sometimes, we are always full of admiration for those so-called "elite men".
They have academic qualifications, careers, and are top in a certain field, so we automatically optimize their other qualities, ignoring their character and morality.
But as everyone knows, sometimes, the knowledge they have learned is just a sharp sword to arm themselves and harm others.
Knowledge has brought them to a high position and gained more economy and resources, but too low a moral bottom line and too many ** make them unable to support this halo, so they will fall more completely than ordinary men.
Really, I'm afraid that hooligans are literate.
Such a man is unwilling to find someone worse than him, probably because he feels that marriage is also one of his successes in life, and he has low self-esteem when he finds someone better than him.
It is better to be better than him, so that he can have face outside, but can always listen to him, worship him, and please him. This is probably the ideal type for such people.
Hello, that's why I married you and didn't marry anyone else; But you can't be better than me, better than me. Otherwise I will destroy you.
In fact, in addition to physical strength, many women are obviously stronger than men in terms of intelligence, social and emotional intelligence planning and ability, but they still have to be cautious for the sake of marriage, and they can't be stronger than this man.
Otherwise, it will stimulate his sensitive, fragile, and inferior self-esteem, and if he can't get it, he will be destroyed.
What is regrettable is what happened to the victim, but the proud daughter of the sky was trapped in an unhappy marriage, and she lost her life in vain.
Some girls will say, then I don't need academic qualifications, what should I use to distinguish them?
It's so simpleSee if you're getting better or worse with him.
Notice that I'm talking about the spiritual level, not the material level.
All the girls listen, whether the other party is familiar or unfamiliar, strong or weak, handsome or ordinaryIf he truly respects you and loves you, he can't bear to hurt you.
On the other hand, if he doesn't love and just wants to control everything, then no matter what he looks like or what his family background is, he will hurt you.
When you haven't entered the marriage hall with him, find out the other party's attitude when you're at a low point and when you're frustrated.
If he doesn't get angry with you in the most difficult times and doesn't hurt you, then you are safe with him.
Otherwise, if that person can only accept good times and cannot accept bad times, then any kind of consequences can happen.
Excellent boys too, if you can't stand that your partner is better than you, don't look for a strong one, find someone who looks up to you and is extremely secure and emotionally complementary, you will be happier.
Because men and women are not in a comparative relationship, but in a complementary relationship.
Men and women also have their own roles and roles in marriage, and as long as everyone does their own good, they will be happy.
Sadly, today's values have completely distorted the relationship between a man and a woman and the way marriage should be.
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