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Cherish the purest treasure in your heart
When we were young, we celebrated the New Year, pursuing festivity and liveliness, and enjoying the ritual and atmosphere of the festival.
At that time, the Spring Festival was a time for children to laugh and elders to bless them, and it was a lively scene for family reunions and friends.
The Spring Festival is not only a festival, but also a state of mind and attitude to life.
It is lively and noisy, but also a kind of precipitation and understanding.
There is an old saying: "When people reach middle age, family affairs come first, and festivals are supplemented." ”
I couldn't agree more. We are no longer burdened by face, no longer bound by tedious social interactions, but pay more attention to inner peace and family harmony.
In the traditional concept of Chinese, the word "face" is deeply rooted in the cultural soil.
The face of the Chinese is not just a skin, it carries dignity, honor and self.
The dust can be washed away, it can be lost, it can be fought for, it can be guarded, and even at some moments, people are willing to give everything for this face.
The Spring Festival, a festival that symbolizes reunion and hope, is also the moment when many people who are struggling abroad return to their hometowns.
"Returning home" is not only a tradition, but also an expectation, and resources and identity seem to have gained additional value at this special moment.
No matter what you're out and about, people want to put their best foot forward in these few days and don't want others to look down on them.
As a result, the Spring Festival has become the moment when Chinese pay the most attention to "face".
This year's Spring Festival, there is still a week before the day I go home, and I have received more than a dozen ** from my mother.
* On the other hand, she repeatedly mentions one thing – gift-giving.
She said, I haven't returned for a long time, and I am in an important position in the company, and this time I go home, the gift must be prepared thoroughly, and I can't lose face.
Then, she sent an exhaustive list of gifts.
From close relatives to distant relatives, from the elderly to the immature children, there are as many as 20 people whose names and corresponding gifts are listed.
Tobacco and alcohol, fruits, snacks, toys, and ...... for the childrenThe cost of these gifts alone is enough to drain a month's salary.
And the highlight of the Spring Festival, as well as those successive banquets.
In my house, the reunion dinner of relatives lasted from the second day of the Lunar New Year to the eighth day of the Lunar New Year.
Whether you choose to have a dinner in a restaurant or a banquet at home, every banquet is like a competition.
The decoration of the restaurant is more upscale than others, and the dishes are more exquisite than others;
And at home, those gold-trimmed tableware, imported red wine,
The ingredients transported by air have also become the object of competition.
After a round of visits from relatives, not only did the stomach eat round, but the wallet also became empty.
Someone once said that the grade of gifts and the specifications of treats during the Spring Festival
The size of the red envelope determines how others perceive you.
It is normal for people to pursue success and decency, but if they slap their swollen faces and become fat for the sake of face, or deliberately show off, then this "face" will lose its true meaning.
Standing on tiptoe to meet the high standards of others, you'll only experience the taste of "shyness in your pocket" after the holiday season.
Ms. Yishu once said: "Face is the most useless and difficult thing to put down." ”
Because in this world, what really evaluates your value is always your inside, not your external pomp and show-off.
Those who genuinely care about you, whether you are successful or not, will leave you a pair of chopsticks and a bowl of soup just to share a home-cooked meal with you.
On the eve of the Spring Festival, I returned to my hometown and met up with a few close friends in a tavern.
We sat around under the warm yellow light, sharing the bits and pieces of the past year, and also talking about the plans and visions for the coming year. From time to time, interesting stories from childhood are mentioned, and those innocent and immaculate laughter seem to travel through time and space and echo in the ears.
As the topic deepened, the wrinkles between our brows gradually unfolded like a lake blown by the spring breeze.
Time flies, and everyone tacitly avoids the bustling and noisy class reunions and drinking parties.
In their forties, they are all running for life, and they have the leisure to participate in those games that find a sense of existence.
We have come to understand that no matter what kind of social situation, there is a hidden essence of value exchange and power contest.
Even if you are a high-ranking classmate in the past, or a relative or friend of the wealthy party, if you have no achievements yourself, then no amount of pushing the cup and changing the lamp will not be able to exchange for substantial help and support.
When we have insight into the warmth and coldness of human feelings, we are no longer keen on frequent dinners and cocktail parties
Instead, we prefer to spend time with those who are in touch with our hearts and minds.
As we get older, the way we socialize gradually shifts from complex and cumbersome to simple and pure.
In the new year, the social state we crave is:
Everyone treats each other with sincerity, speculates on topics, gets along freely, and communicates sincerely.
It is only in the time we spend with those who have similar souls and three views that we can find true growth and nourishment.
In life, there are many things that are difficult to give up: money, power, status, career, love, ......
However, all of this adds up to a word that is full of warmth and tranquility – home.
Many people struggle for their careers and wealth when they are young, but they owe debts to accompany their families.
Some people are impulsive, give up their families, and wait until half of their lives have passed before they realize that they are already alone in this world.
When Wang Shuo was fifty years old, he once said with emotion:
Those who don't have the warmth of family are really pitiful.
I used to destroy my home, but now I yearn for the warmth of that home. ”
Family is a causal relationship.
When a person shirks family responsibilities, his old age may be filled with bleakness.
Only by accompanying with heart and carefully managing can we have a harmonious and warm family.
Although the great director Ang Lee has many honors, he prefers to dedicate his time to his family.
He once said that no amount of awards can be worth a smile from his wife.
For him, spending time with his family and enjoying the tranquility of life is the truest happiness in the world.
Home is our eternal reliance and our constant harbor.
When we look back on our lives, we will find that wealth and fame will fade with time, and it is the warm moments spent with our families that can really soothe our hearts.
This Spring Festival, let us let go of the hustle and bustle of the outside world and spend more time with our families.
Listen to your mother's nagging, have a few drinks with your father, and see the satisfied smiles of your wife and children.
The person we miss is in front of us, and the person we love is by our side, which is our deepest comfort and our most solid support.
Therefore, the most correct way to open the Spring Festival,It is to put aside all the glitz and distraction and focus on the family and yourself.
At this special moment, we can accompany our families and enjoy the warmth of family affection;
You can also think alone and reflect on the growth and harvest of the past year.
This kind of Spring Festival is a festival that truly belongs to us, and it is a good time for us to spend with our families and talk to ourselves.
Follow it, share it with friends, and encourage your family.