Controversy Project
In romantic relationships, quarrels are inevitable, and who apologizes first often becomes a matter of great concern. In the latest episode of "Half-familiar Lovers", Tang Yixin gave her unique insights. She insisted that the person who apologized first was not the loser, but the real winner.
Tang Yixin believes that in quarrels, the two sides are often in an irrational state, emotional and fierce. At this time, if one party can calm down and bow their heads and apologize first, then it can effectively ease the relationship between the two parties. Such a move will not only prevent the quarrel from escalating further, but also create an opportunity for rational communication or deeper understanding later.
Tang Yixin's views have sparked extensive discussions on social **. Some agree with her that it is a mature way of dealing with it, showing respect for the other person and confidence in oneself. Others disagree, arguing that the party who apologizes first is showing weakness and may embolden the other party even more.
For Tang Yixin's view, I think there is reasonableness. In a romantic relationship, quarrels cannot be completely avoided, and how to deal with them is particularly important. Tang Yixin's suggestion is that after the quarrel, the person who apologizes first is not the loser, but shows his generosity and rationality. This way of dealing with it is conducive to communication and understanding between both parties, and also helps to maintain the stability and healthy development of the relationship. Of course, this does not mean that every time there is a quarrel, one party must apologize first, and the specific situation needs to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis. In some cases, if one party is really at fault, then it is appropriate to apologize first; In other cases, both parties may be responsible, and both parties need to work together to find a solution to the problem. In short, for quarrels between lovers, the key is how to deal with them properly.
In love, apologizing first does not mean losing, but rather a sign of maturity and sanity.
In the fast-paced life, people are like spinning tops, and they are involuntarily pulled forward. Emotional problems can be exhausting, and negative or overly aggressive coping can cause harm to the other person.
Both parties may be angry during an argument, and if someone can bow their heads first, they can avoid further escalation of emotions and lay a good foundation for future communication. However, each pair of lovers has a different personality and way of getting along, and the way and timing of apologies also need to be decided according to the specific situation.
When both parties are very emotional, it is not possible to communicate effectively. Even if you bow your head and admit your mistakes first, it may not solve the problem perfectly.
Chilling can be a good option to give each other some time and space to calm down. However, cold treatment is not the same as avoiding problems, let alone cold war, so it is necessary to actively find the right time to calm down and communicate effectively.
When an argument involves some sensitive topics, such as values, principles, etc., which may require more time to think about and deal with, or when both parties feel tired and can no longer continue the argument, they can also be treated coldly and wait until both parties have rested before talking.
If you want to make better use of cold treatment to alleviate conflicts, you can try the following methods.
1.Be clear to the other person: Let the other person know that you need some time to calm down and not ignore her feelings.
2.Set a time limit: Avoid cold treatment for too long to avoid worsening the problem.
3.Reflect on your own problems: During your cooldown, think about your own opinions and behaviors and identify the reasons that may be causing the conflict.
4.Find the right time to communicate: Give the other party some space and time, don't be overly entangled or intrusive, and wait for both parties to calm down, find a suitable time and place to communicate calmly.
5.Learn to listen: When communicating, listen carefully to the other person's point of view and understand the other person's feelings.
6.Seek common ground: Try to find some common ground from the other person's point of view in order to better solve the problem.
During cold treatment, try to avoid these behaviors.
1.Avoid pointing fingers or attacking each other, which will make the conflict worse.
2.Don't completely ignore the other person, there is still room for proper care.
3.Don't act aggressively during cold treatment, such as offering to break up or break up the relationship.
4.Don't delay the cold treatment for too long, as this may disappoint or make the other person feel disappointed or sad.
5.Maintain basic politeness and concern, and if you feel that you may lose control of your emotions, avoid contact with the other person for a while and wait until you have calmed down before communicating.
6.Cold treatment is only a temporary solution, and ultimately the problem is solved through communication.
Blame, neglect, excesses and procrastination should be avoided during cold treatment. Be careful not to make cold treatment a habit, but to proactively solve the problem at the right time. It is necessary to maintain respect and understanding for the other person, after all, the purpose of cold treatment is to ease the conflict, not to hurt the other person's feelings.
Cold treatment is not applicable to all interpersonal problems"**For some more serious or urgent problems, it may be necessary to communicate and solve them in a timely manner.
Moreover, different people have different levels of acceptance of cold treatment. Some people may prefer to solve problems as soon as they arise, while others need some time to think calmly.