Contemporary Women's Choices: Love and Reality.
Nowadays, women's marriage choices seem to be becoming more and more unpredictable. Two examples around me, my sister-in-law and my best friend, both made unexpected decisions. My sister-in-law resolutely divorced my brother and chose an ordinary plumber master as her new partner. My best friend, on the other hand, parted ways with her boyfriend who had been living together for more than a year, and even said that she would only be willing to fall in love and not get married in the future. These choices seem to ask: Is love still attractive? On this question, my sister-in-law and best friend gave a similar answer: love itself has not changed, but the social environment, personal needs and mentality have changed.
It's been three years since my sister-in-law divorced my brother. She waited until their son's college entrance examination was over, and then impatiently filed for divorce. This decision was a source of confusion for both families, especially my brother. My sister-in-law said that over the years, she has tried her best to give to her family, but she has not felt my brother's support. Although my brother bears most of the family's financial expenses, he often spends his free time playing cards with friends or socializing with other women, and is indifferent to his sister-in-law and children. So, my sister-in-law soon found a new partner, a plumber master, and although his appearance and income were not as good as my brother's, their relationship lasted for more than two years, which was surprisingly stable. This hydropower master not only took care of the housework, but also doted on her sister-in-law, making her feel the happiness of being cared for.
At the same time, my best friend Xiaoting works in Guangzhou and has experienced three relationships in the past four years, one of which has been living together for a year. However, in the end, she chose to end these relationships. Xiaoting sighed: "We may no longer need love, but in fact, it is because in love, both parties cannot meet each other's needs. As a woman working in a large Internet company, Xiaoting often works overtime and earns more than her boyfriend, so she basically bears the cost of living. She and her boyfriend, who had been living together for more than a year, eventually broke up, and her boyfriend was a community fitness trainer and started contact because of the fitness card, but as time went on, the differences and dissatisfaction between the two gradually emerged. Although Xiaoting provided her boyfriend with material security, she could not be emotionally satisfied.
These examples provoked me to think about contemporary notions of love. For many modern people, love seems to have become a luxury, especially for those who are on the go, who are more concerned with material security and ignore emotional needs. When we see the less and less optimistic attitude of the people around us towards love, and the declining birth rate in the news, we can't help but think about the root of the problem.
Perhaps, the changes in modern society have made people have a different understanding and pursuit of love. Any relationship is a social exchange, and the relationship between people is essentially one of taking what each needs and taking what he needs. When a relationship is stable, it often means that the needs of both parties are met. However, when one partner is unable to meet the needs of the other, a rift can arise in the relationship. Therefore, in today's society, more and more people pay more attention to their own growth and fulfillment, and no longer put love in the first place.
On this Valentine's Day, I wish all those who have loved ones a happy marriage. But at the same time, I also hope that everyone can find their own happiness, whether in love or on the road to realizing personal value.