It is said that the New Year is a "demon mirror" to test marriage, and whether you marry well or not, you will see the New Year.
Yes, who to go back to, how to go back, and how to go back has become a problem of the century, especially for people who marry far away, going home is no longer a matter of air tickets.
The relationship between husband and wife, whether it is sincere or improvised, was taken out during the Chinese New Year.
After the New Year, the quality of a marriage can be exposed.
If a person can give you these things during the Chinese New Year, it means that you have married the right person.
1. Give you "respect" and discuss with you how to live
When you are not married, the Chinese New Year is a ticket to your hometown, with parents, siblings, relatives and friends.
Eating Chinese New Year's Eve dinner together, watching the Spring Festival Gala, playing cards, and chatting about home affairs around the fire.
And after getting married, home has become an unattainable poem and a distant place, even if you have money, you can't afford to buy that ticket, if you don't have money, you will be told what to do when you go back, and it's the New Year everywhere.
Later, I found out that it is not difficult to want to go home, but the difficult thing is that I always can't help myself.
In many places, it is the first day of Chinese New Year's Eve at my mother-in-law's house, and the second or fourth day of junior high school, accompanied by my husband and returned to my mother's house.
However, some people, for the sake of their lovers, marry far away, but they can't go back once a year.
People who don't love you trap you with children and distance, and then later, it becomes a matter of course, and they don't want to travel long distances to accompany you back for the New Year.
And the person who loves you will discuss with you to go back to your parents' home at a fixed time every year.
He will discuss with you what gifts to bring back, how many red envelopes to seal, and how to do so without losing the number of courtesies, so that the etiquette is thorough.
After going back, he will also take the initiative to help, cook and do housework, accompany your parents, chat and laugh.
A man who can take care of both parents is not only mature and steady, but also someone who loves you deeply.
2. Give you protection and don't let you be wronged
Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and even if you get married, there will still be many problems that cannot be escaped.
For example, giving birth, having a second child, a child studying, or the in-laws can't get used to you, embarrassing you, deliberately making things difficult for you, etc.
A man who understands your difficulties will praise you in front of relatives and friends in a timely manner, and will also help you answer questions that you don't want to answer, or that you can't answer because of your identity.
For others to ridicule you, he will help you speak, and in the face of others' criticism of you, he will immediately stand up and defend you and not let you be wronged.
He will not turn a deaf ear, nor will he pretend to be stupid, let alone look at his own family.
Instead, he watches you from time to time, your discomfort, your embarrassment, your silence, he sees it in his eyes, and will pretend to help you talk inadvertently, so as not to embarrass you.
3. Whether the marriage is good or not, you will know after the New Year
If you say, whose house you go back to for the New Year, it shows the state of your marriage, whether you are preparing for the New Year's ceremony, and exposes the temperature of your marriage, then if you don't care about you, you will know it after the New Year.
In the final analysis, the Chinese New Year is not just a holiday, but a time when everyone gathers together to test one's emotional intelligence.
It is at this time whether he can do everything in terms of human face, decency, and affection.
During the Chinese New Year, although you can't define anything at once, you can see the feelings between husband and wife.
Husband and wife, who are one, form a small family, and while running a small family, they do not forget everyone and each other's parents.
But in filial piety, it is respect for one's partner, and it is no longer only thinking about oneself and one's original family, but heart to heart, hand in hand, and facing everything together.
As the saying goes, marriage is never a battlefield, and husbands and wives are not rivals.
Only by knowing how to respect can we tolerate and cherish each other.