The newlyweds we are going to introduce, the groom is handsome, handsome and dashing, but the bride is mediocre and even looks a little stupid and silly.
And the marriage of the two of them, after the marriage ** was uploaded to the Internet, also caused many questions and heated discussions among netizens.
In this **, the groom has short and neat hair, wears a white shirt, a big red flower pinned to the shirt, delicate facial features, thick eyebrows, big eyes, and a high nose bridge, and is a handsome and handsome big boy at a glance.
And the hand of the handsome groom officer held his bride tightly.
But on the other hand, the bride sitting next to the groom, although she looks white and fat, her face has always been filled with a smile that cannot be concealed, and her whole body is full of joy, wearing a red skirt, and her short hair is curly against the back of her head, which is indeed very well-behaved and festive.
However, the bride's appearance has been criticized by many netizens.
She smiled exaggeratedly, her eyebrows were thick and dark, and the tails of her eyebrows were raised high, but her eyebrows were tuddled in the center of her eyebrows.
Her eyes narrowed into a slit, and her chubby hands kept holding the groom tightly, and she didn't speak, just looked around curiously.
Because the bride's eyebrow spacing, the distance between her eyes and her eyes is very wide, her nose is collapsed, and her appearance is not very good-looking, and when she looks around, she will look a little sluggish, which causes many netizens to wonder about the bride's intelligence after seeing this **.
*, their new house is also very poorly furnished.
A bed, covered with red sheets, was piled up with a large pile of red balloons, arranged in an irregular manner.
On the closet next to the bed, a big word "happy" was pasted, the scene was noisy and chaotic, and the groom's face also showed a bewildered and embarrassed look, and he was at a loss to do anything, put his right hand on his knee, looked at the crowd who were shouting and drinking, and did not speak.
The bride looks carefree and out of the way.
Her short hair was groomed softly, and she stared at the man with a grin as the others spoke, opening her mouth and raising her hand.
Some netizens noticed that the bride smiled very hard and exaggeratedly, and her mouth was very big, as if in this way, she could express her inner joy.
The bride's smile was a little distorted, and it looked a little weird in this festive picture.
Some netizens discussed that the bride's wide eye distance, thick lips, and flattened nose looked like a patient with "Down syndrome".
The most common physical characteristics of patients with Down syndrome are flat faces, narrow eyes, and a collapsed and wide nose.
The intelligence of this kind of patient will always stay at a few years old, and the body is very weak, easy to get sick, and it is difficult to take care of himself.
If the bride really has this disease, then the groom may only spend the rest of his life taking care of his wife.
In general, it is almost impossible to marry such a patient.
The groom and the bride, such a huge difference in appearance, made many netizens feel strange, and even, some netizens felt a little indignant for him.
They thought that the groom was so handsome that he should marry a gentle-looking and beautiful girl as a bride, but this bride obviously did not match his conditions.
Did the guy encounter some difficulties before he was forced to marry and have children with this bride who didn't look very smart.
Some people feel sorry and sad for the rest of his life to be with such a stupid and stupid-looking girl.
It seems that for a while, all the netizens fell on the groom's side.
Almost everyone thinks that the groom marries the girl and definitely suffers a big loss!
However, a netizen pointed out that the groom may also have a certain reason to make such a decision.
Netizens left a message under the ** posted by the groom, "Have you ever thought that the groom may also have problems in some places, otherwise, how would he agree to marry this bride?" ”
And the author of the original **, that is, the groom, also replied to this netizen, saying that marrying the bride was "urged by his parents", and gave a thumbs up to the netizen's message.
From the groom's answer, although he knew that he was not suitable for the bride, he should have agreed to the marriage and voluntarily married the bride.
Although there is also an element of helplessness, after all, with his appearance, he can find a more beautiful girl, but at least this marriage is his own decision.
Locals in Anhui pointed out that this guy is also popular in the local area.
Because of his handsome appearance, many little girls like him more, but, helplessly, the family's economic situation is very poor, his parents are old, his income is very low, and there are several children in the family.
And the woman's family is a small asset in the local area, because this daughter does have a certain lack of intelligence, and she can't settle the accounts stupidly, but in any case, this child is also the pearl of the family.
So, in order to find a support for their daughter, the family chose a guy with average economic conditions in the family, hoping that while his family gave the guy a generous economic treatment, the guy could take care of the girl more.
In the future, the guy will definitely be able to improve qualitatively in terms of material, so that the girl will have personal care for the rest of her life, and she will no longer have to worry about her family.
In addition, the girl's family also said that the guy was only responsible for taking care of the girl for the rest of her life, and there was no need to think about it too much, and the family would ensure that they had a good life.
After learning the truth behind this incident, many people also shouted, "Now I know why I don't have a handsome husband and a beautiful wife!" It turned out that I lost at home without a mine! ”
This is just some netizens' self-ridicule, but behind the self-ridicule, it actually reflects some social realities.
Everyone knows that marriage is not only the result of the love of two young people, but also the union of two families.
If you want to get married, then you must have a lot of considerations, such as personality, family economic status, personal financial ability, and the city where you live.
In the process of marriage, there will definitely be such and such problems, which test the run-in degree of two people and the personal conduct of two people.
Often many young couples who are about to get married can find their own conflicts with each other in the process of preparing for marriage, and they will break up if they can't solve them.
The issue of bride price is the most typical of these contradictions.
I believe that many young people who talk about marriage now have disputes over the bride price.
Generally, there are two kinds of situations, the first is that the bride price of the woman's family is too high.
The second is that even if the man has enough economic conditions, he is more stingy.
But in the first case, many couples break up on the eve of marriage.
Some of the parents of girls do not consider the boy's fledgling and financial ability at all.
As soon as you open your mouth, it may be hundreds of thousands of bride price money, these parents, without a correct view of bride price and dowry, keep putting pressure on boys, and regard the bride price as raising girls.
Mr. Wu has experienced such a thing.
Mr. Wu is an engineer, now 40 years old, with an annual income of nearly 600,000 yuan, he has a lovely daughter, and a gentle wife.
Mr. Wu once revealed to us that before marrying his current wife, he and his ex-girlfriend had reached the point of talking about marriage.
The ex-girlfriend's hometown, in a backward rural area, in the fifth year of his love with her, Mr. Wu took the initiative to marry his girlfriend at that time.
The girlfriend was very happy and took her back to her hometown to meet her parents.
After the discussion was quite harmonious, Mr. Wu and his girlfriend at the time asked the parents of both parties to meet and discuss the marriage.
When the two parties discussed the bride price, as soon as the girlfriend's parents opened their mouths, it was a bride price of 660,000, which surprised Mr. Wu and his family.
Because the amount of such a bride price is too high.
Mr. Wu is from Jiangsu, and his parents are both factory employees, and the family's economic conditions can only be regarded as average.
It is impossible for such a family to take out 600,000 yuan easily, and besides, this is just the bride price!
If the two get married, it will cost a lot of money to buy a house and have children, even if Mr. Wu gives a bride price, but the cost of subsequent life is still very large, and if there is no savings, his family will not be able to support it at all.
Mr. Wu was very sad, he didn't want to come to the step of talking about marriage, and the five-year love run with his girlfriend was about to usher in their happy ending, but in the end, he couldn't talk about the bride price, and it ended miserably.
He went to his girlfriend's home many times, trying to persuade his girlfriend's parents to lower some of the bride price, and he also begged his girlfriend to persuade her parents, after all, marriage is a matter of two people.
But his girlfriend's parents were resolute and refused to back down.
During that time, I was under a lot of pressure, the competition in the company was already fierce, plus I was about to get married, and the follow-up expenses were very large, and I had no money, so I could only work overtime constantly.
I've been a strong person since I was a kid, and I don't want to ask my parents for money after working or getting married. ”
When Mr. Wu said this, many of the interviewers present nodded their heads, and they could all understand the pain and exhaustion of Mr. Wu's hard life in the gap between the workplace and life.
Later, we quarreled more and more, and she felt that I was reluctant to spend money on her, and it was not easy for her parents to raise her, so it was okay to ask for more money.
But I really can't take out so much money, I have to live, and later, because I often work overtime, she thinks that I am bored with her because of the bride price, and in the end, there is really no way, the two of us have different attitudes, so that life can't go on at all, only to break up. ”
The "bride price" is an examination of the formation of a new family.
There are too many bride prices, which hurts feelings; The bride price is less, and it also hurts feelings, so many parents and girls must establish a correct view of the bride price and dowry, and ask for a suitable bride price in combination with their own conditions.
Can't hurt the harmony because of the bride price, the two families tie the knot, and it will become a big family, and things like money can't be regarded as the first.
As a man, the bride price should not be procrastinated, and within the scope of what he can afford, he should give a considerable bride price.
This is not only to give his wife the courage to spend the rest of her life with her, but also to be able to afford a family.
The existence of bride price is actually a beautiful meaning of marriage in ancient China.
"Bride price", as the "dowry" of ancient weddings in the past, is also the expectation and wish of a beautiful family.
In fact, after the man gives the bride price money to the woman's parents, the woman's parents will generally return all the bride price to their daughter on the day of their daughter's marriage, as a post-marriage savings, hoping that their daughter will have a happy marriage.
When you get married, do you want to find a partner who is spiritually and mutually attracted to you, or is it to find a partner who makes up for each other materially? And does the appearance of the partner matter?
I believe that each person's different answers will have their own considerations.
In today's society, of course, people highly respect truth, goodness and beauty.
When it comes to whether the appearance of the partner you are married to is particularly important, I believe that most people's answer is that the beauty of the soul and the fit of the spirit are not the first priority.
However, after all, this is only a verbal expression, and when it comes to finally getting married, whether it is an important criterion for consideration or not, everyone's standard is different.
In the same way as material conditions, people may say that material conditions do not determine the happiness of a marriage, but the important thing is to look at the character of the other party.
But when it comes to getting married, only by considering it comprehensively can you tie the knot with each other with confidence, and material conditions are also an important part of it.
Marriage needs to be maintained by two people, not only to make up for each other economically, but also to support each other spiritually, marriage is complicated, but also simple, only two people understand each other, to their own people, tolerant and generous, in order to live a good life.
Everyone's marriage has different needs.
Some people are financially wealthy and just want to find a spouse who is in harmony with their spirit and sympathy; Some people are financially strapped and prefer to find a partner who can make up for their material deficiencies.
Everyone has their own considerations, and we have no right to question the decisions of others.
Marriage is also like a practice, if you don't regret your original decision, you will be together for a lifetime.