Now it has been about a week or two since the start of school, not for a long time, the children are in a warm-up state, and after the warm-up, they are about to enter the "force" stage, which also means that the gap between the children will slowly widen.
I believe that many parents have sent out soul torture in their hearts: why is there a world of difference in the development of children under the education of the same school, the same class, and the same teacher?
Although children in the same class live in the same school education environment, what really widens the gap between children is often those inconspicuous but crucial personal traits, which we can also call "growth code".
These personal traits are not all innate, but most of them are formed under the long-term nurturing and nourishment of the family environment.
Those growth codes hidden in the daily bits and pieces quietly determine the future development direction and life height of children, and also open the gap between them and their peers.
Let's explore these growth codes and learn how to nurture and practice them effectively to ensure that children can go further and fly higher as they grow.
Curiosity is a child's deep desire for the unknown world, and the younger the child, the heavier the curiosity.
It is a window, a light, to guide children in their quest for knowledge and truth.
One of the tasks of parents is to constantly open this window and let the light of curiosity illuminate the child's growth path.
How to observe children's curiosity in daily life?To put it simply, it's about keeping an eye out for their questions and interests.
Your child may ask why natural phenomena are caused, or he may show a keen interest in insects on the side of the road, which are all signs of curiosity.
In the face of children's curiosity, we need to realize that what matters is not how accurate the answers we give our children, but the process of nurturing and encouraging children's exploration.
Nurturing children's curiosity helps to motivate them to learn and think actively, stimulates their desire to explore, and allows them to actively seek answers in their learning, rather than passively waiting for indoctrination.
The effect of active learning is undoubtedly far greater than that of passive learning.
Furthermore, this kind of initiative is the driving force for children's lifelong learning and the foundation for their future society.
Children's curiosity is an innate ability, but many times it is stifled by parents unconsciously.
Here, I'd like to share some practical strategies to help parents create a good environment that nurtures their children's curiosity:
Encourage your child to ask questions
Don't be afraid that your child's questions are "naïve" and "stupid", every question they ask, no matter how "insignificant", deserves our respect.
When a child asks a question, giving the most positive feedback, encouraging them to think deeply, find answers, etc., is a tangible way to nurture your child's curiosity.
Create a stimulating learning environment
For example, you can put all kinds of popular science books, science and technology crafts and teaching aids in your home, which can become a nourishing soil for children's curiosity.
Explore with your child
Parents can accompany their children in a variety of small, easy-to-use experimental exploration activities. In the process of exploring together, children's curiosity will be further stimulated and satisfied.
Praise your child for his curiosity and exploratory behavior
When your child shows curiosity about a topic, praise them for their spirit of exploration, which can help them feel the value of exploration.
Curiosity can bring a lot of "freshness" to children's exploration, and if children's curiosity can be nurtured all the time, this "freshness" will motivate them to be more active in the learning process and lay a solid foundation for a lifelong learning journey.
Self-discipline is an inner strength that enables children to learn how to control their own behavior and decision-making.
In children's learning and life, self-discipline is a cornerstone, supporting them to move steadily towards their goals.
If there is a central role of self-discipline, it is to help children set goals, plan time, and stick to tasks, even in the face of ** and challenges.
Self-discipline is the only way for children to achieve success.
So, how do we build self-discipline in our children?
Parents can build self-discipline in their children with the following tips:
1.Establish a regular routine. For example, with fixed homework time and rest time, children can learn to follow rules and manage themselves.
2.Small tasks, big responsibilities. Assign appropriate household tasks so that children feel a sense of accomplishment when they complete the tasks, which motivates them to show self-discipline in other areas as well.
3.Establish a clear reward system. When children exhibit self-disciplined behavior, we need to give timely and positive feedback, which can reinforce their self-disciplined behavior in the moment.
In practice, there is a strong link between self-discipline and success.
Self-disciplined individuals are able to stick to their decisions in the face of difficulties and **, which is the key to achievement.
To help children further develop self-discipline, we can also follow these action guidelines:
1.Help children understand why they need to develop self-discipline and what their goals are.
2.Develop actionable steps and plans to achieve your goals.
3.Parents should cooperate with teachers to monitor their children's self-discipline behaviors and provide positive or constructive feedback in a timely manner.
4.Goals and plans need to be flexible to adapt to changes as your child grows.
5.Encouraging your child to reward themselves when they achieve their goals can help them feel a sense of accomplishment from self-discipline.
It is undeniable that procrastination is not an isolated case, but a considerable percentage.
Don't underestimate procrastination, it is a destructive behavior that not only affects children's learning and efficiency, but can also have a negative impact on their social skills.
Procrastination in learning can cause children to miss important learning points and not be able to complete assignments on time, which in turn can affect academic performance.
When it comes to socializing, procrastination can affect the development of interpersonal and social skills by allowing children to miss out on opportunities to interact with others.
To help children build the habit of refusing to procrastinate, we can do this by:
1.Help your child set reasonable expectations
Avoid setting too high or too low expectations of your child. Reasonable expectations can motivate children, while unreasonable expectations can cause them to avoid tasks.
2.Work with your child to develop plans and goals
Parents and children discuss and set achievable goals together and develop a detailed plan to accomplish them. This increases the child's sense of engagement and responsibility for plans and goals.
3.Check in on progress regularly
By regularly checking your child's progress and task completion, we can identify problems in time and provide appropriate help or adjust the plan.
4.Use time management tools
Teaching your child to use ancillary time management tools such as calendars, reminders, or timers to help them manage their time is a good strategy to combat procrastination.
5.Reward timely action
When children complete tasks on time, give appropriate rewards and recognition, which can be verbal praise or actual rewards, as a way to reinforce their self-disciplined behavior.
A child's growth cannot be smooth sailing, and there will always be times when there are setbacks and failures.
In the face of setbacks and failures, whether to collapse with one blow or to maintain enough "resilience", different choices mean different future lives.
Resilience refers to the ability to maintain a positive attitude in the face of difficulties and adversity, and to persevere until challenges are overcome.
Resilience is not only a key factor in academic success, but also an important support for children to be able to stand up in the face of stress and challenges in life.
Specifically, academically, resilience enables children to remain calm in the face of difficult problems or failed exams, self-recuperate, analyze problems, and work to overcome these obstacles.
In life, resilience can help children cope with relationship challenges (such as peer pressure or the loss of a good friend) and changes in family circumstances (moving, changing schools, or parents divorcing).
To build resilience in children, we can try to do the following:
Design challenging tasks for your child that they can overcome on their "tiptoes" so that they can feel a sense of accomplishment after completing each small task.
Through role-play or storytelling, show your child how to analyze a problem step by step and find a solution to it.
Teach children how to cope with failure through positive self-talk, such as "I didn't do well this time, but I can learn from it and do better next time".
Tell your child stories of failures and setbacks from successful people so that they understand that everyone experiences setbacks and failures and that the important thing is how to get back from them.
Through breathing exercises, meditation and other methods, help children learn to manage their emotions when they encounter challenges.
Through simulation exercises, such as simulating real-life adverse situations in team activities, help children learn to stay calm and focused under pressure.
For children's personality development and future careers, creativity not only helps them excel in a competitive environment, but also enhances their ability to solve complex problems.
There are ways to stimulate your child's creative potential:
If your child is still young, you can stimulate his imagination by providing him with a variety of play materials to encourage him to play freely. For example, using building blocks, drawing tools, or theater props.
For older children, a series of problem-solving challenges can be designed to encourage creative thinking, such as programming robots, designing bridge models, or creating their own sci-fi stories.
Encourage children to participate in projects such as science experiments, art creations, or community service to discover and solve problems through hands-on activities.
After children's creative thinking is stimulated, creative thinking training is also needed to achieve the purpose of consolidating and improving creative thinking.
One is brainstorming:Teach your child to brainstorm and quickly list as many ideas as possible.
The second is the problem of dismantlingTo put it simply, it is to break down big problems into small problems, so that children can learn to explore problems from different perspectives step by step.
The third is the Lenovo game:Engage in word or image association activities to encourage children to make new connections between different concepts.
Fourth, reverse thinking trainingGuide your child to try to think backwards, such as "How do you make a good thing bad?" "This kind of training can open up the inherent mindset and stimulate innovative thinking.
Fifth, role-playingThrough role-playing games, children can think from the perspective of different characters and promote the development of multi-perspective thinking skills.
Sixth, artistic creationThrough art forms such as painting and drama, children are encouraged to freely express their personal feelings and ideas.
Seven is to draw a mind map:Teach children to learn to use mind mapping tools to organize and expand their thoughts.
Eight is innovation in daily lifeEncourage your child to find opportunities to improve things in their daily lives, such as reorganizing their rooms, designing a personal learning schedule, etc.
Through this approach, we provide children with an environment full of curiosity and creativity that meets their needs for continuous exploration and innovation in their daily learning.
The cultivation of children's creativity is not an overnight process, but requires continuous practice and constant encouragement.
When children become accustomed to thinking creatively, they will build a strong foundation for future academic and professional development.
The magic of education is to tap into each child's unique talents and traits and shape them into self-disciplined, collaborative, critical, emotionally rich and creative individuals.
Let's work together to create a world of possibilities for children to thrive on their journey.