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There is a saying that we all understand the truth, but we still can't live this life.
When we fall in love, most of us cross the river by feeling the stones, and it is luck and ability to go ashore smoothly.
At the beginning of the relationship, after the vertigo above, they began to enter into each other's temptations, is he my future other half? Is it the right person to get married?
Both sides entered into each other's thorough investigations.
The first thing to look at is character.
First of all, whether the three views are correct or not, regardless of men and women, the consistency of the three views is the premise. With common values, there will be a common language, after all, it is not a two-day day. Getting married once, for girls in the past, is to change the fate of a life, of course, it may not be so exaggerated now, but the painful lesson of divorce, no one wants to experience, so there are some principled things that cannot be ignored, and they really have to be on the line.
The second is economic conditions. It makes sense for the older generation to say that the couples who fall in love freely and grow up savagely, if the economic conditions are not equal, sooner or later they will not be able to live this life.
Each other's consumption level is different, and the family status is different, which will directly lead to the economic imbalance of the two people, and thus the imbalance of mentality. Once the hormones of love have passed, the rest is a piece of chicken feathers.
Third, it is the influence of the family of origin. How much does the family of origin affect a person? There is a saying that a happy childhood can be **a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood needs a lifetime**. If a person's original family is unhappy, this will lead to when he grows up, when dealing with intimate relationships, he will also unconsciously bring these factors to the new relationship, such as avoiding things, not liking communication, and liking cold violence, these behaviors are likely to be caused by a lack of love since childhood, because in the shadow of his childhood, it seems that without speaking, he can cover up the problem, trying to escape the problem in this way, instead of solving the problem, doing so, will only make the contradiction of the problem like a snowball, rolling bigger and bigger. Exacerbate contradictions. As a result, the relationship between the two fell to the freezing point and was on the verge of breaking up.
Fourth, enterprising. He may not be a potential stock, but he must be aggressive. Now that the competition in society is fierce, everyone is rolling in, and many people want to lie flat, but to see if they have the capital to lie flat in their pockets, they have to work hard and be motivated. You can not be excellent, but you can't be unmotivated. Enterprising spirit is to keep pace with the times and not be eliminated by society. It is good for wives and children to have hot kang heads, but the premise is that they can enjoy themselves if they are full and warm, otherwise, they don't even have the most basic bread, so what can they talk about idealism.
At the same time, the enterprising spirit is not unilateral, but the common progress of both sides. Because either party stands still, after a long time, it will be disliked. Even if it is a loving couple, there will be times when the pace is inconsistent, so it can last for a long time.
Fifth, emotional stability. This one is becoming more and more important. Why is emotional value now so valued by couples?
Only with a stable energy can a stable emotion be output outward. We all have times when we are tired, and at this time, a comfort, a hug, a caring look, and a warm word from a couple can turn into a force and give great comfort. However, if your him doesn't know how to be considerate of your sensitive emotions and can't send care in time, it's like a chicken talking to a duck, he can't catch your emotions, can't get your needs, the frequency of two people is not equal, and they will never be on the same channel, and after a long time, they will be particularly lost. You don't understand me, and you have become the biggest estrangement and fetters between each other.
In addition, the stable emotional value also includes not having an emotional breakdown, you are already very broken, and the other party is even more crazy than you, how can you live this life?
A stable mind is really important, and with such a person, difficulties can be resolved. This is why in the TV series "Don't Come to Your Hometown", Xie Yang became popular, he can take anything he can, he is calm, calm, and never panics, this kind of character with a strong sense of husband, I'm afraid everyone wants to have a Xie Yang!
No one is perfect, while we are looking at the other half, we are also accepting each other's considerations, only when we are equal to each other, can we live comfortably together.
Some people also say that if it is appropriate to fall in love, you only need to travel once, and you will see the difference. This is also the main reason why, after a long holiday or some holidays, couples like to be single and become a part of the "post-holiday breakup tide".
Because travel will show the trivial side of love to the fullest. Travel can be seen as a "condensed reality", and in just a few days it can be found out if the two have the same important ideas.
After a long time, you will find that there are not many couples who can withstand "understanding", and understanding is likely to become the most direct way to break the illusion of love and wear off the novelty.
A relationship can't wait for "the mountains and the earth are together" to prove it, and it will ......disappear in small problems such as "you know that the other party is clean, but you are wearing dirty clothes**".
As the so-called details, defeat love.
In the end, those who can survive the details are mutually tolerant of each other. Has your significant other passed the probation period?
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