Men can see sex and love separately, while women tend to see sex and love as inseparable. This is the biggest gap between men and women in terms of sexual attitudes.
Women believe that women will only be willing to have sex with men if they reach a certain level of emotional intensity, there is an emotional bond, and they believe that men can give them enough security.
Men tend to become impulsive as long as they see that a woman's appearance meets their expectations. As a result, in the early stages of a relationship between a man and a woman, men are more likely to have sex drives, while women tend to have slower sex drives. If a man rashly proposes a relationship before the woman is psychologically prepared, most women will resist.
Men feel frustrated in the face of a woman's sexual rejection, and may even think that it is shameful to hurt their self-esteem, and will completely deny the feelings of the other person. In fact, this misjudgment is only because men do not understand the "sexual" psychology of women. So, what are the differences between women's "sexual" psychology and men's?
01 A woman's desire stems from love.
Women are not the same as men. When a man sees a beautiful woman on TV or in a magazine, he has a sexual urge. But a woman's desires are not so easily aroused. Men can be sexually aroused instantaneously, while women slowly enter the state.
When a man describes his vision for the future in front of a woman, expressing love and approval to a woman, the woman will develop a sense of dependence on the man. Women develop a stronger attachment to men because of the accumulation of time, resulting in a sense of security. A woman's desires will also be stimulated at this stage, so a woman's desires stem from love. Without dedication, it is generally difficult to have strong impulsive desires.
02 Women need romance to maintain their desires.
In life, if a woman comes into contact with a good-looking and capable man, she will have a preliminary liking for him, but she will not immediately have desire.
Foreign experts believe that women's sexuality is desired. If a woman can be recognized by the man she likes, it will make the woman feel that she is recognized and desired by the man, and the woman will have sexual desire.
But once in a stable relationship, men tend to neglect the management of emotional relationships and become more concerned about whether women can continue to meet their sexual needs. Because men have such a mindset, they are not good at managing emotions in stable relationships, which can make women feel left out.
It is only when a man gives a woman sustained romantic feelings that it is easier for a woman to devote herself to it. This romantic feeling will also make women continue to have passion and desire for men.
03 Women need to wake up.
Women's libido needs male stimulation, but in real life, few men can do that. Most men will only focus on their own needs. Men need women to work with them. They even believe that as long as they have experienced ***, women must feel the same way.
Actually, it's just a man's concern. It takes longer for women to go from foreplay to orgasm, while it takes less time for men. Some men don't need *** at all but they forget that just because they don't need *** doesn't mean women don't need *** either
Most women want their partners to give them foreplay so that they can orgasm more easily. This kind of ** is what women need most. Therefore, whether a woman is satisfied with sex is directly related to a man's ability to arouse sex to a woman.
04 Women need to get rid of their burdens in order to devote themselves to it.
Many couples can enjoy ** before they get married, but they can't devote themselves to it once they get married. Women, in particular, tend to be very resistant to men's demands. This is because after marriage, both men and women need to take on some family responsibilities. Women usually have to work, and when they get home from work, they have to do laundry and cook. These trifles can be a distraction from a lot.
In this case, if a man has sex with a woman just to vent his desires, the woman will be very resistant, because in the eyes of the woman, she is physically and mentally exhausted and really can't cope. Even when there is a relationship, men are often not satisfied, so both parties complain.
If a man wants a woman to devote herself to sexual relations, he first needs to create a comfortable atmosphere for the woman, so that the woman can enter a state of no pressure and burden, so that the sex life can be full of pleasure and comfort for both parties.
05 Women think that sex is just a part of life.
Women have a different understanding of sexuality than men. Women believe that sex is only included in love, while most men believe that love and sex can be separated. This is why men can want women at any time, regardless of their emotional state, and women often need to be in a good emotional state to have sex.
If a man ignores a woman's feelings and always forces her to meet her needs, the woman will think that the man does not pay attention to his feelings, that the man is too selfish, and may even have negative emotions. In this emotional state, it is not conducive to maintaining a relationship with each other, and naturally it is not conducive to sexual experience.
Therefore, the man needs to make the woman feel valued in her daily life, and she has the same status as him. Especially when in love, if a man can take care of a woman's emotional feelings, the woman will also reciprocate, thus improving the quality.
06 Women believe that sex can be a way to reciprocate.
Many women will try their best to reciprocate when a man asks for it, but only if the woman is already in love with the man, so the woman will be willing to cooperate with the man, even if she is not physically ready. Spiritually, she is willing to give.
This is because women believe that sex can be expressed in a reciprocal way, which is also seen by women as an expression of love for each other. If a woman finds that a man always only cares about her feelings and does not care about what she thinks, she will not feel love and will naturally not give more sexual feedback to men.
Therefore, a woman's sexuality needs to be awakened and nourished. In life, many men think that their other half is boring. In fact, this is just a reflection of the inability of men to inspire women's passions.
Therefore, men need to understand the differences in "sexual" psychology with women, so that they can enjoy each other in a sweet atmosphere and enjoy the romantic experience brought by sex.