You do a lot of things to get back together with your ex, but no matter what you do, the other party doesn't appreciate it. Because you are so afraid of losing the other person, you do all kinds of flattering things. You feel that you have moved the other person, but in fact you have exposed your own sense of need. You've made the other person feel uncomfortable.
Some people have a misconception of "comfort" when they get back together. They feel that comfort is to please each other and meet each other's requirements without a bottom line. True comfort is the ability to be yourself without constraints, without flattery, without pretense, without pressure. A relationship needs comfort, and only when there is a light-hearted experience in a relationship can two people have the motivation to persevere.
But many people ignore their inner feelings and experiences in order to please others in their relationships, and have lost themselves, and this sacrifice is not cherished. Whether it is getting along or getting back together, the essence is the process of building comfort. Harmony can create a subtle connection between the two people, increase the comfort of the two, and be of great help to those who want to get back together or have a cold relationship!