People are often easily driven by anger, which is a very common situation in life. Sometimes, small things can anger us, causing us to lose our minds and do things we regret. At around 10 p.m. on December 5, 2023, at the gate of Yilicheng Community, Licang District, Qingdao City, 54-year-old security guard Zhao Li stabbed more than 20 knives in a row, stabbing 32-year-old delivery man Li Yuekai to death. The two of them do not have any deep hatred, but such an unfortunate thing happened to make people think deeply and sigh. Li Kaiyue's family background is average, and he went to Australia to study through work-study. After graduating and returning to China, I couldn't find a job for a while, so I hid from my family to do food delivery work. That afternoon, Li Yuekai came to Yilicheng for the first time to deliver takeaways, but was stopped by security guard Zhao Li. Li Yuekai had to walk into the community, and when he walked out of the door after delivering takeaways, Li Yuekai scolded Zhao Li a few words. At seven or eight o'clock in the evening, Li Yuekai came to Yili City for the second time, Zhao Li was warming up in the sentry box, and heard Li Yuekai riding a bicycle at the door to insult him, so he chased him out, Li Yuekai took the opportunity to take his hat and threw it in the distance, and then rode away. At around 10 o'clock in the evening, Li Yuekai came to Yili City for the third time and was discovered by Zhao Li. The two had a quarrel, and Zhao Li took out the fruit knife in his pocket and stabbed Li Yuekai to death. It doesn't matter what is right and what is wrong. We just imagined that if Li Yuekai didn't stir up trouble at that time, it would be great if Zhao Li could control his emotions! Anger is really like a burning flame that, once ignited, is hard to control. It not only burns others, but also hurts yourself.
The pace of life in modern society is increasing day by day, and people are facing a variety of pressures and challenges. Imagine that our lives are like an accelerating train, whistling through a tunnel of time. Isn't it? Sitting in the car, the scenery in front of us was changing rapidly, and the only thing we could do seemed to be to try our best to adapt to this speed. Every day, you drag your tired body into the office, and the mountain of work leaves you breathless. The ** ringtones and WeChat prompts at home are always in the ears. The schoolwork of the children, the health of the elderly, the emotional ...... of the partnerEverything is like an invisible thread that holds you tightly**. You open your wallet, and there's a pitiful amount of money inside. You want to give your family a better life, but you find that your power is so meager. You are like a hard-working little bee, busy among the flowers all day long, from sunrise to sunset, constantly collecting, cultivating, sweating, painstaking, and even giving up rest and entertainment. However, when you look back, you don't have much honey in the basket. These make you feel unfair, feel wronged, and seem to be aching in your heart. When others say that you are not good, or even want to provoke you, it is easy to turn all the dissatisfaction in your heart into a burst of anger.
Don't provoke others, learn to respect others. The famous American writer Albert Hubbard once said, "Anger is like a storm, and it's easy to mess everything up." "Yes, provoking others is tantamount to causing trouble. Many people like the character of Wu Song in "Water Margin" very much, and they are also enjoyable to watch. After Wu Song was enraged, he killed Ximen Qing, stabbed Pan Jinlian in his hand, and splashed blood on the Mandarin Duck Tower. Ximen Qing, Pan Jinlian, Supervisor Zhang, and Jiang Menshen definitely didn't expect such serious consequences, and put their own net worth and life into it. Although the real-life cases are not as bloody as those written in "Water Margin", there are many cases that are also very shocking. For a period of time, Zhang Koukou's revenge for his mother was on the hot search. In Sanmen Village, Xinji Town, Nanzheng District, Hanzhong City, Shaanxi Province, there are two families, Zhang and Wang. Twenty-two years ago, because of the poor negotiation between the two companies on the contract for the rice processing plant project in the village, they finally turned against each other. Once, Zhang's mother went to Wang's house to reason, and the three members of the Wang family fought and beat Zhang's mother to death on the street. Later, the People's Court of Nanzheng County, Hanzhong City, found that the other two adults of the Wang family were not negligent in homicide, and only sentenced Wang Zhengjun, the third son of the Wang family who was under the age of 18. The court held that Wang Zhengjun had voluntarily confessed the circumstances, and in view of the fact that Zhang's mother was also at fault, based on the above circumstances, Wang Zhengjun was sentenced to seven years in prison for the crime of intentional injury, and the guardian Wang Zixin compensated the Zhang family for economic losses of 9,639 in accordance with the law$3. The Zhang family expressed their dissatisfaction with this verdict, and wanted the Wang family to pay for their lives, but they were only sentenced to seven years, and they originally claimed 250,000 yuan, but in the end they only paid 1,500 yuan. 13-year-old Zhang Koukou decided to use his own way to seek justice for his mother. Later, Zhang Koukou joined the army. After returning to his hometown after being discharged from the army, his knot of revenge for his mother has always been difficult to open. On February 15, 2018, the thirtieth day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, Zhang Koukou quietly ambushed the Wang family on the way back to the grave, took advantage of his unpreparedness to kill two Wang family members, and then ran to the Wang family to kill another person. Indeed, when the chest is filled with hatred and anger, everyone will become a huge explosive bag, which can directly blow up the sky and shatter, and make life become a scorched earth in an instant. You must not test the bottom line of other people's emotions, because you don't know the ignition and explosion point of other people's anger, especially strangers.
Actually, anger is just a short-lived emotional reaction. It's all about how we deal with it and how we deal with it. The French philosopher Alain said, "The art of living is not to avoid pain, but to know how to ease one's mood when it is angry." "When the flame of anger is burning in your heart, don't let it go out in your words and actions right away. We need to learn to be tolerant and understanding of others, so that we can be more rational. Some people may say that we are too cowardly in this way, but I don't think so! Mo Yan has a collection of works "Listening to the Singing of the Universe", which records an incident in which Mo Yan was beaten by a field keeper for picking ears of wheat when he was a child. When Mo Yan was a child, he lived in the countryside and was very poor in materials. At that time, ears of wheat were an important snack for rural children**. One day, Mo Yan and his friends were playing in the field and saw a golden ear of wheat, and they couldn't help but want to pick up some to eat. However, this wheat field has an owner and is still watched. Just as Mo Yan and his friends were happily picking up the ears of wheat, the field keeper found them. The field keeper was a middle-aged man with a short temper, and he immediately rushed over and beat Mo Yan and the other children indiscriminately. The young Mo Yan was so frightened that he trembled, and he didn't understand why he was treated like this. It didn't end there. Years later, Mo Yan met the field keeper again at the village market. At this time, the field keeper was already old, his back was hunched badly, and his movements became sluggish. Seeing Mo Yan, his eyes widened, obviously remembering the events of the year. When Mo Yan saw the eyes of the field keepers, the anger in his heart was ignited. However, instead of immediately bursting out, he calmly thought for a while. Recalling the hurt and fear he had suffered, Mo Yan felt very painful in his heart. He didn't let anger dictate his actions. Instead, he chose forgiveness and forgiveness. He knew that anger would only make him more miserable, and forgiveness would be truly liberating. So, he nodded calmly to the field keeper, and then turned to leave. When anger comes, we should learn to calm down, or take a lot of deep breaths, divert our attention, think about the possible consequences, and we will stay away from the "tipping point" of anger!
Life always seems to be raining, sometimes stormy, sometimes gentle and drizzling. Either way, remember to bring an umbrella, that is your calmness and rationality.