Qian Zhongshu said:
Marriage is like a wall, the people on the outside want to get in, and the people on the inside want to come out.
This sentence reflects people's different attitudes towards marriage before and after marriage.
Someone once interviewed nearly 100 married people and found that both parties were not very satisfied with their marriage.
And then argues a sentence:
Marriage, no matter how you choose, some people will regret it.
Trivia is the beginning of grinding away feelings
A netizen said that he and his wife had been in love for many years and proposed marriage twice before his wife agreed to marry him, and he was very excited.
But I didn't expect that after getting married, I kept arguing over various trivial matters.
His wife cooked, so she had to let him wash the dishes.
His wife mopped the floor and asked him to do the laundry.
After the two had a child, his wife asked him to learn how to change diapers and read bedtime stories to the baby.
He felt that these things were originally women's affairs, and men only needed to be responsible for making money to support their families.
He said that he really misses her when she was in love, gentle and sensible.
Now she complains and makes noise all day long, like a shrew.
Now he doesn't want to go home more and more, and he doesn't want to face her.
Marriage and love, the difference is really big.
When two people live together every day, it is easiest to be worn out by daily trivial matters.
In fact, many times, the small things in the eyes of men are often the big things in the eyes of women.
In fact, many times, a woman's blame and dissatisfaction are just hoping that a man can care more about her and share it for her.
In the eyes of men, she has lost her former charm because the daily chores have hollowed out and exhausted women.
Between husband and wife, they should understand each other, communicate frequently, and don't let the little things in daily life wear away the warmth of the past.
Perfect fantasy is the shackles of marriage
I have a friend's wife who is a strong woman who started her own company and is doing well.
They bought a big house and drove a luxury car.
However, the shrewd and capable wife who is outside knows nothing at home.
Can't cook, can't do housework.
For a while, he caught a cold and asked his wife to cook him some white porridge, and as a result, the white porridge was boiled into a pot of rice.
Once, he went on a business trip and asked his wife to help him take care of the fish in the fish tank, but before he could come back, the fish all died.
My friend said that I would rather find a gentle and virtuous wife and keep the house in order than be so shrewd and capable outside.
Human nature is always greedy, and men are often prone to dislike what they have and think about what they don't get.
But there is a dilemma in the world, let alone people, and it is normal to be imperfect.
After all, marriage is not a fairy tale, and no one can be perfect.
Only by breaking the perfect illusion of marriage, letting go of obsession, and cherishing the person in front of you can we embrace the happiness of marriage.
In marriage, the ordinary is the real happiness
I have a friend who met his wife on a blind date. Both of them thought each other was good, and they soon got married.
But after marriage, he found it particularly boring.
He and his wife both have different interests and hobbies.
My friend likes to read books, and his wife likes to follow dramas.
Usually, after two people have eaten together and done housework, they are busy with their own things, and there are few common topics.
My friend felt that this was not the marriage he wanted.
It wasn't until later that he failed in his investment and went into debt.
He borrowed wine every day to kill his sorrows and slept at home, but his wife not only did not blame him, but also comforted him and said: It's okay, the money, we can pay it back slowly.
During that time, his wife worked overtime day and night, just to earn a little more money.
She went home to tutor her children with homework, busy with housework, and after a while, everyone was tired and thin, but she never complained.
With the support and encouragement of his wife, my friend finally cheered up and later worked hard to get out of the predicament.
After going through the wind and rain, my friends realized that the dullness and companionship in marriage are the warmest reliance and the truest happiness.
He was tired of the ordinary life, but later he realized the value of this plainness.
Married life is so dull, two people all year round, three meals a day.
Those days that you think are the most dull and boring, but they are the most sincere romance in marriage.
I once saw such a sentence:
The best love is two people, be each other's companions, don't bond, don't entangle, don't occupy, don't desire to dig meaning from each other, that's something that is destined to fail.
Perhaps, she beside you has a different outlook from you, and often quarrels with you.
But she has never left, and has always been very determined to accompany you against the chicken feathers of life, which is the best interpretation of a good partner.
I hope you and I can cherish the people in front of us, live up to what we meet, and live up to this life.