I am 27 years old and a secondary school teacher. In this Chinese New Year, I experienced a blind date with two different men. One is a 28-year-old civil servant, burly, handsome, from the countryside, his parents have no pension, but he worked hard to get into the civil service, has a mortgage house and a car.
He cared so much about me and even picked fresh strawberries for me on the weekends, which made me feel comfortable and considerate. The other is a 30-year-old doctor who grew up in the city and has two apartments and a car. Although he is in good condition, his appearance is ordinary, he is busy with work, and he is not good at expressing concern, which makes me feel difficult to communicate and in a bad mood.
Now I'm stuck in a choice. The civil servant is handsome and emotionally intelligent, and he is comfortable to get along with, but if I get married, I will have heavy financial pressure and family responsibilities.
The doctor comes from a privileged family, but he has an ordinary appearance, is busy with work, has difficulty communicating, and may lack common topics in his future life, and I will take on more family responsibilities and caring obligations.
This choice was a challenge for me. For the first time, I found myself faced with such a confused marriage decision, and I didn't know what to do.
Working hard with a civil servant, ten years later is the time to test him, enjoying the present with the doctor, ten years later is the time to test you. It mainly depends on which one likes you more and which one cares about you, and the others are secondary, or secondary!
Marriage is a matter of two families, not two people!
What is Marriage? Marriage is a dynamic social relationship based on sex, economic security, love as the bond, and marriage law as the basis.