2024 Chinese New Year Outlook Each of us may have encountered the shadow of childhood. What's even more terrifying is that these childhood shadows do not disappear with time for a long time, and even if the memories are blurry, the body still remembers them.
Happy people can be childhood** all their lives, while unfortunate people have to spend their whole lives **childhood. Most people can understand that psychological trauma in childhood is related to introversion, depression, and social phobia in adulthood
1. Think about things in the worst way, be very pessimistic, and be very vigilant about things.
Second, guess the thoughts of the people around you, be extremely insecure, and protect yourself through such behavior.
3. Seeing the worst side of things and lacking the ability to perceive positive content.
Childhood trauma will still deeply affect all aspects of our life, work, wealth, and family after we grow up, making us constantly fall into the limitations of trauma and repeat the pattern of trauma.
In fact, it is not so difficult to heal childhood trauma and heal injured inner children, we only need to open the door with a little patience, a little love, and a persistence, see the problem, face the problem, and solve the problem.
In order to heal the trauma of childhood, we must first acknowledge and see the injustice and difficulties we experienced back then. We want to rehabilitate the injured and aggrieved child at the beginning. Even the Buddha Shakyamuni, when he was young, he also suffered from the unfairness of his parents, we don't have to suppress anger and resentment, sadness will come in, anger to the extreme is sadness, and when sadness comes, acceptance begins.
Appreciating and thanking yourself for surviving, imagine that child, who endured so much, was wronged so much, suppressed so much, was lonely so much, suffered so much, and finally lived until now, having the opportunity to be aware and healed, and having the opportunity to be himself, this is the great achievement of that little child. We can appreciate that little child is so tenacious and persistent, and thank him for his hard work and efforts along the way.
There is no limit to the amount of forgiveness for parents. Believe that they love us in the deepest places, believe that they don't mean to hurt us, and believe that they themselves are in pain and limitations. Forgive them for not having the opportunity to understand the true meaning of love, forgive them for not being loved well enough, we don't need to ask them for love like a child, but as an equal person to give love, give understanding, give down.
The second is to forgive oneself, forgive oneself for not being able to take care of oneself at the beginning, not being able to give oneself security and freedom, forgiving oneself for not knowing or daring to speak for oneself at the beginning, and forgiving oneself for one's limitations as a child. Forgive yourself for not being able to recognize, perceive, and get rid of those difficulties, loneliness, and fears; Forgive yourself for not being able to learn self-love, self-esteem, and self-comfort in that environment, often opposing yourself, and often criticizing and even harshly criticizing yourself. Forgive yourself for being unfair to others because you can't digest your emotions, causing stress, anxiety, and pain to others. Forgive yourself for your inner disharmony.
Unhealed childhood trauma can keep us trapped in trauma as adults. What we need to do is to take the initiative to help ourselves heal the trauma of our past childhood and live a new life!
You also have the right to see yourself as a mature and responsible person, to respect yourself, to accompany yourself, to love yourself, to comfort and support yourself. You can get diamonds from pain, transform from difficulties to maturity, and become a better version of yourself is an unshirkable rush, even if you are not used to it, you are not familiar with it, you can learn it, you can do it, as long as you want to.