Knowing such a young man, he chose to take the exam, and his original intention was to be respected.
In his own words, with the establishment, the identity is different from everyone else. As long as you lie flat in the establishment, your social status can rise and you can easily win a respectable state.
Later, the young man, disappointed.
After entering, he realized that the reality was different from what he imagined.
I can't walk if I want to, and I can't adjust if I want to. begged people everywhere to find connections to transfer, but there was no response at all.
In fact, his current state could have been predicted a long time ago.
We don't judge his gains and losses, and we don't need to ridicule his professional failures. The key question is, why did he make such a mistake? Why would he make a bad prediction about his career?
After observation, I found that all those who regret it have one thing in common:
Expect passive reverence.
What is Passive Reverence?
It is to rely on the strength of the organization and society to improve one's status under the assumption that one will do nothing.
You see what I'm talking about is so complicated, but in fact, it can be summed up in the four clichés: "get something for nothing".
It's just that this kind of thinking of getting something for nothing is often cloaked in social values, and is often unknown or even unknown to oneself.
Once a Jinshi, he will eat the people and profit for life. ”
After being admitted to university, the carp jumps over the dragon gate. ”
As long as you are admitted to the establishment, you don't have to worry about it for the rest of your life. ”
All of the above ideas belong to "expecting passive respect" and "getting something for nothing".
The person concerned is completely unaware of the inner essence.
They tend to think that exams are also an effort. Passing exams to gain status, and then jumping up the ladder, this is the reward you deserve.
It's actually quite difficult to change this.
I like a quote from Karl Popper:
At all times we are prisoners in our own cognitive framework. We don't reflect, we don't think of ourselves as prisoners, and the reason for that is that we don't know what we don't know.
Socrates said the same thing: The only thing I know is my own ignorance.
Countless sages and philosophers have already expressed the predicament of ignorance in various forms. As it is said in the Vedas:
There is only one truth, and the saint lives in the name. ”
People who look forward to passive reverence, they often don't know that the so-called collective reverence relies on the sacrifice and dedication of everyone in the collective.
However, from the perspective of self-interest, individuals are sacrificed and dedicated, have no power and no money, and there is respect in the secular sense?
Therefore, "passive reverence" generally exists more in the spiritual space than in the material space. If you like to use material measures to measure the gains of "passive reverence", you will definitely be disappointed in the end.
Instead of looking forward to passive respect, it is better to take the initiative as soon as possible.
In life, be kind to every little thing. If you keep doing what you love, you will definitely achieve something.
There's an old guy who did *** a few years ago
In the beginning, there were few followers and low traffic, and there were only a dozen reads for an article, but it took several hours to update the article every day.
Such a thing, if measured from the perspective of cost and benefit, is obviously worth the loss.
But he chose to persevere.
In his own words: "I don't know how many readers I can read today's article, but the only thing I know is that I can write and post today, which is the only thing I can do on the *** platform." ”
Indeed, whether an article can be popular or not, many times depends on luck.
But those who persist can always meet their luck.
After three years of perseverance, he finally met the traffic and suddenly became an Internet celebrity V, with a sense of achievement, harvest and material benefits.
Such a person will never bother with the topic of social status. Because they all know that status is earned by themselves, not by others.
The same civil servants, the same teachers, some are respected, some are spurned.
There is no collective or identity that can assign you a lifetime of carefree respect.
Everything must rely on yourself, find the right direction, and work hard, one day, you will harvest a strong self, which is a kind of happiness that surpasses the respect of the outside world a hundred times!