Bacon said a word:
Human beings seek comfort, value, and protection in their interactions with each other.Maintaining a long-term relationship is about sharing good things with the other person, rather than finding someone to help you carry the negative energy that is always ready to overflow.
Therefore, a good relationship must be two people who know how to empathize with each other and understand each other's situation, so as to find a way to make the life of two people better.
When you reach a certain age, you will find that emotional stability is a very important thing in love.
In addition to the parents who can't choose in this life, you should firmly stay away from any people and environments that make you feel uncomfortable at any stage of your life, and carefully choose your loved ones in life.
Because some people will make people feel at ease and comfortable when they get along, while others will make people become cautious and fearful. Having a patient lover can really reduce half of life's suffering.
An emotionally stable partner will make people feel secure at all times, and when the love for emotional maintenance accumulates to a certain extent, the fear of life pressure will slowly dissipate.
I watched a variety show before, and He Jiong said a sentence in it:
Things don't crush a person, but emotions do, so don't be kidnapped by emotions, we have to learn to reconcile with ourselves.A truly mature adult is not always swallowing his anger and pretending to be fearless, but he can know how to feel sorry for himself, and he will love himself well, he knows who to get close to and who to stay away from.
Each of us has our own unique character, but being unique shouldn't be an excuse to vent our emotions. If you can't even control your emotions well, it is easy to bring shadowy harm to the people around you.
It is because he attaches great importance to the relationship between the two that he is willing to work with you to lead to the exit of happiness, rather than the wound that you cut at random when your heart is dark.
And the boy is a very rational creature, he can tolerate you out of love, but he also has his own arrogance, and it is only because he loves you that he is willing to choose to accommodate this arrogance.
Although there is no unified standard for good love, at the very least, two people who love each other should be gentle with each other and think about each other, rather than venting their emotions and using cold violence.
Contradictions cannot be avoided, but there is always a time when the problem is solved, and the consumption caused by emotional backlash will take a long time to recover.
Therefore, a good relationship must be based on accepting each other's emotions, and it cannot be maintained by tolerance alone, it requires two people to understand each other, appreciate and support each other.
One person's emotions can be steadily caught by another person, without accusation, perfunctory, or dislike, and at the same time, the original negative emotions can be transformed into positive emotions in a relaxed and optimistic way.
It's hard not to have such a relationship for a long time.