In the original work of "Do You Know", the Sheng family has four daughters, three of whom married into the Gaomen, and only the five girls from the family, Rulan, choose"Low marriage"To the Wen family. Such a marriage choice does not seem to match Rulan's always competitive personality. Although Rulan insists that she is because of love"Low marriage"to Wen Yanjing, but after reading through the entire original work of "Know", you will find that Rulan had it before she met Wen Yanjing"Low marriage"ideas.
As the daughter of the Wang family, Rulan has lived a life of fine clothes and food since she was a child, and her mother Wang has always instilled in her the concept that the daughter is more noble than the concubine. Therefore, when getting along with Mo Lan, Rulan's heart naturally revealed a sense of superiority. However, in the environment of the Sheng family, it is difficult for Rulan's sense of superiority to be truly displayed. After all, Sheng Hong, the head of the Sheng family, is a concubine himself, and he has experienced hardships due to identity problems in the process of growing up. Therefore, when he took the helm, he tried to prevent his own children from suffering the same.
In this process, Sheng Hong has a natural preference for the children of the concubines, believing that they have incomparable advantages in terms of identity, and they should be humble to the children of the concubines. In addition, the Sheng family also has Aunt Lin and Mo Lan's mother and daughter to win Sheng Hong's love as concubines. And the scheming Rulan has been repeatedly frustrated in the confrontation with them, not only can she not take advantage, but she will even be blamed by her father.
In such a predicament, Rulan could only withdraw gloomily, secretly swearing in her heart that she would definitely do it in the future"High marriage"went to a prominent in-law's house to crush the sisters, especially Mo Lan. In a conversation with Hua Lan, Rulan clearly expressed her superiority as a concubine and her expectations for the future.
For ancient women, the fate before marriage depended on their parents, and the fate after marriage depended on their husband's family. Among the Sheng family sisters, the pre-marital pattern has been basically determined, and if they want to win in this competition, they can only compete with the status of the husband's family. Therefore, such as orchid"Low marriage"Behind the choice of the Wen family, in fact, her thoughtful thinking and ambition for the future are hidden. When she was young, Rulan was convinced that only by climbing a family business like her dear sister Hua Lan could her identity be worthy. Therefore, at a young age, she will have a trace of Qi Heng's heart, but she will feel lost because of Qi's mother's tactful refusal to marry the Sheng family.
With the passage of time, Rulan's concept has changed. People's thinking always changes with the precipitation of years and the growth of knowledge. These inner changes also led her to take different actions and lead to different endings. And the key to Rulan's change of thinking is her in-depth understanding of her sister Hualan's life.
After Hua Lan got married, Rulan visited Hua Lan with her elders and witnessed her sister's difficulties in her in-law's house. Hua Lan was bullied by her mother-in-law at her mother-in-law's house, but she could only endure it silently; was robbed to marry, but he didn't dare to resist; Even when you are pregnant, you still need to bow to your mother-in-law. Rulan saw this scene with her own eyes, and she was both indignant and sad in her heart.
Rulan once told Minglan in anger: "The mother-in-law in the world is vicious, if I want to live a wronged life like my sister, I would rather be an old sister-in-law for the rest of my life." After this visit, Rulan's original vision of "high marriage" began to waver.
She is well aware of the gap between herself and her sister: "I know that since I was a child, I can't compare to my sister's glory and wealth, not as good as Mo Lan's ability to stammer, and not as likable as Minglan . Neither my father nor my mother took me very seriously. Since such a glorious and wealthy sister can only swallow her anger in the days after marriage, where will she go? Rulan firmly believes that her situation in her in-law's family cannot be better than Hualan.
Instead of pursuing the ethereal aura of "high marriage" and bearing those unspeakable sufferings, it is better to find someone who truly loves and pampers himself. It doesn't matter what the other party's family background is. Since then, Rulan's concept has changed dramatically.
Later, when Rulan learned that she had missed the opportunity to marry her favorite "Prince Charming" Qi Heng and the prince of the Wang family because of Mo Lan's negligence, she did not feel angry. She has understood the true meaning of life and is no longer obsessed with fame, fortune and status. She once ignored Wen Yanjing, but the desire of her heart and the flow of emotions could not be stopped. In the brilliance of love, she threw herself into it without reservation, and happily married into this cold family that she once looked down on. In their married life, Rulan and Wen Yan are very affectionate and affectionate.
In the face of her mother-in-law's difficulties, Wen Yanjing always stood in front of Rulan and shielded her from the wind and rain. If the mother-in-law's harsh rebuke is too harsh, Wang and Rulan's father and brother will also appear in time to give hints and tips to ensure Rulan's happiness and tranquility in the marriage.
Looking back on "Do You Know, Do You Know? It should be the original work of "Green, Fat, Red and Thin", Rulan is among the daughters of the Sheng family, although she is not conspicuous, but her life is comfortable and satisfied. What made her find her own happiness in this bustling world?
The answer lies in her self-knowledge. She understands her shortcomings and does not set too high standards for herself. She can calmly face her limitations and bravely admit: "I can't compare to the honor of the eldest sister, not as good as the ink girl's stuttering, and not as likable as Minglan ." This openness, this truthfulness, has made her wisdom.
So, she chose the path that suited her, gave up the obsession of marrying high, and found the color of life in the choice of marrying low. This is not an accident, this is Rulan's life strategy.
For those of us who are on the road of life, Rulan's story provides a profound enlightenment: we should always be vigilant, clearly understand the environment we are in, and clearly know our strengths and limitations, so as to find the most suitable lifestyle for ourselves and welcome the best in life.