The responsibilities of parents are significant, and their words and demeanor have a profound impact on their children. Even when we are angry or angry, we need to stay calm, control our words, and avoid hurting our children's hearts. Today I will share with you the "three don't say" compiled by Sister Lei, even if we are angry, these words must not be spoken. Let's take a look at the negative effects of these words and change our attitudes and behaviors.
When we are disappointed or angry with our children, we sometimes say such things without thinking. However, this sentence can cause a huge psychological blow to the child. As a result, they can feel inferior, unconfident, and even doubt the meaning of their existence. As parents, we should be aware of the negative impact of such words, and no matter how angry we are, we must never say such hurtful words to our children.
On the contrary, we should give our children the right self-esteem and self-confidence. By encouraging children to develop their own strengths and interests, they can achieve a sense of accomplishment in their areas of expertise. Only when children feel affirmed and supported will they be motivated to pursue their dreams and goals.
When we feel that our child is not doing as expected, we may say such words to express our disappointment and dissatisfaction. However, this phrase can make children feel abandoned and helpless, and they will have a negative self-evaluation of themselves, feeling that they are incompetent and useless. As parents, we should stick to our children's side and give them unconditional support and love.
We need to understand that every child has their own pace of growth and trajectory. They may need more time and effort to reach their goals, but that doesn't mean they aren't worthless. We should encourage them, help them find their own learning and development style, and make them feel supported and trusted.
In the process of educating children, we often evaluate our own children by comparing them to other children. However, this kind of comparative evaluation will only make children feel stressed and frustrated, and they will gradually lose their self-confidence and motivation, and even despair of their own efforts.
Instead, we should encourage children to discover their strengths and strengths and help them improve on their weaknesses. We can learn from the story of Tian Ji horse racing and help children learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses with a positive attitude. It is only in a positive, motivating, and tolerant environment that children can truly reach their potential.
As parents, we should be aware of the impact our words and actions have on our children. No matter what the situation, we must remain calm, control our words, and avoid hurting the child's heart. By giving children support, encouragement and understanding, we can help them build healthy self-esteem and confidence to become independent, positive individuals.
Every child has their own unique development trajectory and strengths, and we should respect and care for their individuality and needs. Parenting is not a simple matter, but as long as we understand and accompany our children with our hearts, they will definitely thrive and achieve their own achievements.
It can be said that as parents, our responsibilities and missions are great and noble. We should always remain calm, control our words, and guide our children's growth with love and understanding. Let's work together to create a positive, warm and happy environment for children to grow up.
It is important to understand the challenges and confusions of parents in the parenting process. We need to reflect on our words and deeds and fundamentally change the wrong way of education. Only by abandoning those three taboo words that hurt children can we become truly competent parents.
In my personal experience, I have made similar mistakes before. I realized that it is important to exercise restraint in your children's words and attitudes, and to guide them with understanding and encouragement. I began to pay attention to my words and actions so that my children could feel my love and support for them. Gradually, I found that the children became more confident, cheerful and positive. I sincerely hope that every parent can learn from my lessons and create a positive and healthy environment for their children's growth.
The above is the "three don't say" compiled by Sister Lei, I hope to bring you some inspiration and help. Parenting is a difficult and important task, but as long as we adhere to the right educational philosophy and methods, we can guide children to the path of success and happiness in life. Let's work together to grow together and create a better future for our children. Thank you!
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