The most painful thing in the world is not to love without believing, but to get without hesitation.
People are like this, what they don't get, they think about it, and once they get it, they don't hesitate to get it. For relationships, it is also applicable.
We often give our good temper to strangers; But he gave the bad and ugly side to the people closest to him. Often, the closer you are, the more it hurts.
I will never forget the midsummer of '09, when I was in the college entrance examination. The whole person is more sensitive, and his temper is more irritable, and he is more restrained at school, and when he gets home, he completely explodes in the small universe.
My grandmother pampered me as always, and brought me delicious sweets and biscuits. I saw that the outer packaging of some of the candy was cracked and partially melted, so I shook her hand and told her to go away, don't bother me.
As everyone knows, it was the last of our grandparents. Before that, when my grandmother got up at night, she fell down, and although the rescue was timely, there was blood stasis in the brain, which could not be completely removed.
The doctor's advice is to go home and observe more and spend more time with the elderly. When I came home again, I heard the sad news of my grandmother's death, and my grandmother was lying peacefully in the coffin, and I knelt beside her, crying profusely.
Thinking of the past, my grandmother's love for me, and compared to my previous coldness towards her, I really want to pump my mouth. I was brought up by my grandmother, she loved me, and I was filial to her.
I never thought that my grandmother would die of an accident, but I promised her that when I graduated, I would take her to the outside world to see the scenery beyond the mountains.
Although my grandmother doesn't know a few big words, her three views are super positive, and she will not be patriarchal, and she taught me since I was a child that I must study more to get ahead in the future.
I also took my grandmother's expectations, fought all the way, walked out of the mountains, and settled in the city, which can be regarded as the fulfillment of my grandmother's wish before her death.
It's a pity that I can't keep the promise I made to my grandmother, which has become the biggest regret of my life. If I can do it all over again, I will definitely talk well, don't lose my temper, and make a good impression on each other.
If you also have elderly people around you, please pay more attention to them, whether there are the following 3 signs, if there is, it means that there is not much time left, and you should spend more time with them.
, unclear thinking, preface does not match the afterword
We all know that human body organs fail. There may be elderly people who have no pain, but they often do not match the words before and after, and their thinking is relatively unclear.
This shows that his brain has begun to shrink. Or you have a form of Alzheimer's disease, commonly known as "Alzheimer's disease". I can't remember what happened a second ago, and I can't even call the name of someone close to me.
Severe mental deterioration to children, even worse than children, say some inexplicable things, and do some strange behaviors. At this time, you must take the elderly to seek medical treatment, don't ignore it, and worry about spending money.
Although this disease can't be **, it can at least reduce the frequency of the disease, or slow down the rate of deterioration, so that the elderly can live a normal life for a few more years.
Some families know that the elderly are sick, but they have no money to go for economic reasons. If this is the case, accompany the elderly more and give them enough tolerance.
Strange to say, in reality, many elderly people with dementia are often not treated well, most of them are disliked, and their children are left to fend for themselves.
This is not right, the old man's today is your tomorrow. Your behavior towards the elderly will be doubled on you in the future, and you must treat the elderly with kindness and preferential treatment.
, poor appetite, don't want to move around, and very sleepy
In our rural areas, there is an old saying that "people always depend on the amount of food". It is to the effect that if you eat well when you are old, your health will be good. In layman's terms, as long as the elderly have a good appetite, it is a good thing to eat Ma Ma Xiang.
On the contrary, if the elderly have a bad appetite, they do not want to eat anything, they do not want to move around, and they become very sleepy. That means that the old man is approaching, and there is not much time left, and the children should spend more time with them.
Some people may wonder how people become sleepy when they are old and have little sleep. Under normal circumstances, when people reach a certain age, their sleep time will be reduced, but they will be sleepy.
Because the body has a self-protection mechanism, it can repair itself through sleep. When we don't have much appetite and our physical condition is relatively low, we also want to sleep.
If the elderly show this sign, they must take the elderly to the doctor to check that their health is okay before they can be relieved. Some elderly people are particularly resistant to going to the hospital, even if they are uncomfortable, they have to choose to carry it hard.
As children, we must do the ideological work of the elderly, and do not lose our temper at every turn. When people grow old, they become children, and their temperament is no different from that of children.
Be more tolerant and caring, spend more time with the elderly, and make good food for the elderly, just like when you were young, you couldn't eat, and your parents would change the way to make you happy and let you eat.
, suddenly energetic, in good condition
If the old man goes first, the whole person is not in a good state, and suddenly becomes energetic and in good condition. This is also to be careful, it may be a "return to the light".
The old man has the ability to sense his own limits and know when to leave. At this time, the old man will call his family members to his side and explain some things.
The process is very ordinary, just like a normal family meeting. There may be children who don't take it to heart, and even rejoice that the old man finally cheered up and resumed his role as the head of the family.
Actually, it's just a flashback. The old man clearly knew that his limit was approaching, so he explained everything he should explain, so that he could leave without regrets.
If you are too busy with work to take care of it, or if you turn a deaf ear in front of the elderly, you will be left with a lifetime of regrets. Don't wait until you lose and can't be traced before you regret your indifference.
If we have a place for the elderly in our hearts, even if we are busy with work, we will take time to accompany the elderly.
Even if it's just a walk together, it's good to talk. The family has a lot of money, so it is better to accompany it at all times. When the old man reaches this age, he already looks down on fame and fortune, and they just want their family to be happy and healthy.
Sometimes, people are paranoid about pursuing the wrong things. For example, give up the time with your family to accumulate as much wealth as possible. naively thinks that as long as you have money, you can give your family a decent life, and you can have no regrets.
Regret will not disappear because of the amount of wealth. It's always been there, it's just a matter of degree. Some people, who have a lot of money, can't get it back, and the deceased old man who loves you can't get it back.
There are some things that are more important than money. We need to constantly adjust the order of our priorities in life. When you are young, you can chase the accumulation of wealth. When you reach a certain age, you have to adjust your focus and take care of your family and the elderly.
We work hard not only for wealth, but for the smiles on the faces of those around us. If it were to be at the expense of their pleasures, it would be better not to have such wealth.
Time is cruel and fair. The amount of time you spend on it will give you how much you will be rewarded. There are some regrets in life, which can be avoided as long as you have a heart.
Finally, I wish the elderly all over the world a long and healthy life, and wave goodbye to this world without regrets.
Do you have any regret when your loved one left? If you could turn back time, what would you do? Feel free to leave a message in the comment area
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