Love happens out of people's hands.
When we are young, we crave love so much that we can't have it, and when we reach middle age, we can't have love anymore, but it just appears.
Many people have already had a family in middle age, and they must adhere to their responsibilities and morals to the family, but they have met someone who makes their hearts flutter.
It is a dilemma whether you should give up everything to pursue true love, or return to your family and abandon love.
When we are young, we still have time to think, but in middle age, there are only two paths for women to take, and I hope you can understand.
01: Distinguish between interests and disadvantages and remain rational
When people reach middle age, many people's marriages are like a pool of stagnant water, without any waves, without any surprises, only two points and one line day after day, three meals a day.
It is precisely because we are tired of the present life that we can be keenly aware of any trace of affection outside of marriage.
Under the long-term suppression, anyone's heartbeat will be so brilliant and dazzling, which makes people unforgettable.
It is for this reason that many people will have no scruples about associating with people outside of marriage, even if they lose their families.
But such a choice is undoubtedly impulsive, and when you really give up everything, you will understand that the relationship outside of marriage is fragile, and it is even more difficult to return to the family at this time.
When people encounter love in middle age, they must remain rational and distinguish between interests and disadvantages.
Having such love is contrary to responsibility and morality, it is not what we expect, but it is despised.
What's more, the people who are willing to destroy your family and walk with you may not be trustworthy, but our momentary heartbeat has cast a filter on it.
It's true that everyone needs to fill their lives with freshness, but freshness can not only be obtained from outside of marriage, but can also be created from within marriage.
Why do some people's marriages have been so hot and beautiful for decades?
It's nothing more than because they are still willing to surprise each other and often spend time running their marriages and trying to make each other happy.
On the blank paper of marriage, what kind of image you paint, what kind of color it will present.
As long as we are willing to join hands with our lovers to build a better marriage, we will enjoy countless sweetnesses in it, and there is no need for people outside of marriage to disturb the situation.
In short, instead of breaking responsibilities and vows for the sake of extramarital feelings, it is better to return to marriage and find the true love that has been lost for a long time.
People outside of marriage are not reliable, and people in marriage are the easiest to ** each other when they meet for half a lifetime. Knowing how to cherish the people in front of you is the most profound true meaning of love.
In this way, after the years have passed, we will not only have love, but also the sincerity of never giving up, the righteousness of mutual support, and a more indestructible relationship, which is more fascinating than a temporary **.
02: Stop loss in time and be kind to your lover
No one's life is perfect, and at a crossroads, we have to make trade-offs in order to move forward.
Tempting someone outside of marriage means that there is a problem in the existing marriage, and if the two can no longer reconcile the old relationship, end the marriage in a more dignified way, and find true love.
But if both parties are still in love, just because of some inconsequential issues, and hope to find someone outside of marriage to make up for themselves, it is a big mistake.
Betrayal is the biggest blow to a marriage, and almost no one can restore it to its original state, and we will have to pay for it for the rest of our lives.
At this time, we not only violated our original intention, but also hurt our lovers and children, causing immeasurable impact, which is the result of a lifetime that cannot be mitigated.
Love may not be impregnable, it may only exist for a moment, but responsibility is the most important quality that people need to adhere to in this life. We must be responsible for everyone who loves us in order to receive a steady stream of love.
In any case, please be cautious in the face of mid-life emotional crises and don't make mistakes.
There is no turning back when you open the bow, don't let the rest of your life live in regret, it will be too bleak.