"Donate bone marrow again? ”
After hearing the news, Mu Yonghai panicked from the bottom of his heart.
But the person lying on the hospital bed was his own sister, and Mu Yonghai finally agreed to donate bone marrow for the second time.
Mu Yonghai. What he didn't expect was that this donation did not save his sister's life. With the death of his sister, Mu Yonghai and his brother-in-law Feng Guiyun embarked on the road of going to court, arguing in court with a red face and a thick neck, not so much relatives as enemies.
So, what's the secret behind this story? Is Mu Yonghai's two bone marrow donations saving or harming people?
The Mu family has a total of 4 sisters and brothers, as an elder sister, Mu Rongying has taken care of several younger brothers since she was a child, even if the four of them grew up and started their own families, but their relationship is as always, and they often gather together when they are fine.
This relaxed and laid-back life changed in April 2009, when my sister, who was in her 50s, was diagnosed with leukemia.
Mu Rongying. After the diagnosis, the three brothers of the Mu family rushed to the hospital to visit their sister and comfort her"Sister, don't worry, now that medicine is so advanced, you will definitely be fine. ”
But it backfired.
Mu Rongying chose to be conservative at first**, but her condition deteriorated rapidly soon after, and now the only hope in front of her is a bone marrow transplant.
The most critical step in doing a bone marrow transplant is matching, so it is generally preferred to choose blood related immediate family members.
After learning the news, Mu Rongying's husband Feng Guiyun found three wives and brothers to discuss with them"Your sister's condition is very serious now, and the doctor said that if the bone marrow transplant can be completed in time, it will be saved, you are her younger brother, and you are the closest blood relative, can you go to try the matching. ”
Mu Rongying. Seeing that his sister was in danger, the three younger brothers agreed to his brother-in-law's request without hesitation.
Fortunately, these three people all met the matching requirements, and the second brother Mu Yonghai had the highest match, which means that if he donated bone marrow, the success rate of the operation would be the highest.
In fact, Mu Yonghai didn't know anything about bone marrow transplantation at this time, he only knew one thing:Now I am my sister's greatest hope
"At that time, I couldn't think about it, I couldn't think about anything else, I just wanted to say hurry up and save my sister's life. ”
With this thought in mind, Mu Yonghai resolutely signed the consent form.
In fact, a small misfortune was buried at this time:Mu Yonghai felt sorry for his sister, so he agreed to donate bone marrow without thinking about it; But his wife, Yang Liwen, was worried about this, fearing that it would cause harm to her husband's body.
Yang Liwen. When it came time to actually donate, even Mu Yonghai himself couldn't help but wonder if this decision was too hasty.
Donating bone marrow was not an easy task, and he had to be drawn by the doctor for several days in a row, and at the same time he had to be injected, which made him groggy all day, and his only thought was to escape from the hospital as soon as possible.
This time, Mu Yonghai donated 1000cc bone marrow, 600cc blood, and 300cc stem cells for his sister, and the final operation was successful.
Seeing that his wife was improving, Feng Guiyun was excited and full of gratitude to his wife and brother, which Feng Guiyun did not deny even after the two broke up:"Our family is very, very grateful to him. ”
Of course, verbal thanks were not enough to express sincerity, so Feng Guiyun chose the most direct way and wrapped a red envelope of 60,000 yuan and sent it to Mu Yonghai's home.
In fact, this is also what Mu Rongying meant:"This time, the second brother suffered a great crime in order to save me, and you sent him some money to buy some nutritional products to replenish his body. ”
But Mu Yonghai's family didn't ask for their brother-in-law's money:"My sister is still seeing a doctor, and everything will be said until my sister is well. ”
At this time, although the Mu family has not completely come out of the shadow of leukemia, they support each other, and everything is full of hope.
After the bone marrow transplant, Mu Rongying had a brief improvement, but soon her condition took a turn for the worse, and within three months, her health deteriorated rapidly and she needed to undergo a second stem cell replacement surgery.
Seeing that his wife was tormented by illness, Feng Guiyun found Mu Yonghai again:"Your sister's condition is not optimistic, and the doctor said that she must donate bone marrow again. ”
"Donate bone marrow again? ”
After hearing the news, Mu Yonghai panicked from the bottom of his heart.
Although he also hoped that his sister would be able to ** as soon as possible, his previous experience of donating bone marrow made him subconsciously reject this option.
However, when the words of refusal came to his lips, Mu Yonghai still swallowed it, because his brother-in-law's words were very clear, and the second bone marrow donor must be the same as the first time.
It's just that Mu Yonghai is worried about his sister's safety, so he can't take care of his fears, but his wife Yang Liwen doesn't have so many scruples.
As early as the first time he donated bone marrow, Yang Liwen was disgruntled.
This is not only because she feels sorry for her husband, but also because she feels that Feng Guiyun is using her husband.
Because according to the donation conditions given by the doctor, in addition to the three younger brothers, there are two other who also meet the requirements--- Mu Rongying and Feng Guiyun's two daughters.
However, let alone let the sisters donate bone marrow, Feng Guiyun didn't even agree to the two children to be matched, which made Yang Liwen feel very uncomfortable, but because of the deep relationship between her husband and sister, she didn't stop it.
In fact, Feng Guiyun didn't feel sorry for the children so he didn't let them do the matching, but the doctor reminded that Mu Rongying was old, even if the matching of the two children could be successful, it would only be semi-compatible, and the postoperative survival rate was not optimistic, and the best choice was a brother with the same father and mother.
But Yang Liwen doesn't know this, she only knows that it is only three months before Mu Yonghai donates bone marrow for the first time, so she can't agree with her husband's decision to donate bone marrow for the second time, and she thinks that her brother-in-law's family has gone back on her word.
In the face of his wife's opposition, Mu Yonghai didn't say a word, at this time he had already made up his mind in his heart, and no one could dissuade him.
Now, my sister is competing with death, and if she finishes the operation a day earlier, her sister's survival rate will be higher.
Mu Yonghai, who knew this well, decisively called Feng Guiyun **:"Brother-in-law, come and pick me up, let's go to the hospital for surgery. ”
After receiving **, Feng Guiyun rushed to Mu Yonghai's house as soon as possible, picked up the other party and drove away.
On the way, the two were silent.
Because the last donation left a lot of psychological shadows on Mu Yonghai, and he always felt unwell, he went to the hospital with the determination to die at this time, and even entrusted many things at home to his good neighbors before leaving.
Although Feng Guiyun is eager to save his wife, he also knows how difficult his brother-in-law is now, and he also knows that his brother-in-law Yang Liwen has always disagreed with her husband's decision.
Halfway through the car, Feng Guiyun suddenly slammed on the brakes"Let's not go yet, go home and finish your daughter-in-law's work. ”
Seeing his brother-in-law's car go and return, Yang Liwen ignited hope in his heartIsn't it necessary for the husband to donate bone marrow a second time?
"Liwen, I didn't come back for anything else, your sister is still lying in the hospital, only your husband can save her, but I have to ask for your opinion. ”
Hearing his brother-in-law's words, Yang Liwen was angry and anxious:"My opinion? Do you listen to my opinions? ”
"Liwen, don't worry, I know you feel sorry for Yonghai. But your sister's illness can't be delayed, so let's do it, even if you ask, I will definitely agree to what you can do. ”
Seeing that Feng Guiyun had made up his mind to convince himself, Yang Liwen offered 200,000 **:"Since the last operation, Yonghai's health has been bad, in case he has three longs and two shorts, how can we live? I don't want much, and I agree to it for 200,000. ”
200,000 is not a small amount, but if you can save your wife's life, it is not worth hesitating.
So after Yang Liwen made a request, Feng Guiyun began to raise money as soon as possible, and also drafted an agreement, and called ** to a group of relatives and friends to witness.
But when Feng Guiyun really brought the money, Yang Liwen changed his mind again:"You take the money back, 200,000 is nothing, what I want is the health of my grandfather." ”
In fact, from an outsider's point of view, it is not difficult to find that Yang Liwen's purpose is indeed not money, but to use ** to force his brother-in-law back.
But at this time, Feng Guiyun, who was already deeply trapped in the game, could not care about this, he thought that 200,000 yuan could save his wife's life, but the other party reversed himself, and he could only suppress his anger and discuss with the other party:"I brought 200,000 yuan, you said it was not enough, so how much did you say? ”
"600,000. ”
"Okay, 600,000 is 600,000. ”
"600,000 is also less, 900,000, I don't want you to pay it off at once, 60,000 a year, 15 years, it should be regarded as compensation for the loss of Yonghai's inability to work in the future. ”
Feng Guiyun. 200,000 or 600,000 can still grit your teeth and take it out, 900,000 is indeed too much, but now is not the time to bargain, Feng Guiyun agreed without much thought, and urged the other party to sign the agreement, so as to take Mu Yonghai to the hospital.
But this time, it backfired, and Mu Rongying died.
The death of his wife caused a big blow to Feng Guiyun, he sincerely wanted to save his wife's life, but he was a step too late.
Therefore, Feng Guiyun has a grudge against Yang Liwen.
This point was later said in an interview with him as well:"My daughter-in-law went into the sterile room to start chemotherapy ......At this time, she resolutely refused to donate, and I hate her as much as I hate this. ”
Feng Guiyun. Under the guidance of this emotion, Feng Guiyun not only did not fulfill the agreement signed before, but also did not visit Mu Yonghai, who claimed to have been unwell since the donation.
Feng Guiyun has a grudge against Mu Yonghai's family, and Mu Yonghai's family is also dissatisfied with Feng Guiyun.
In the end, Mu Yonghai went to the Huairou District Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine in Beijing to issue a medical certificate, wanting to confirm that his body was indeed due to bone marrow donation.
Then he took the agreement and asked his brother-in-law to fulfill the previous agreement.
But for Feng Guiyun, he didn't sign a compensation agreement of 900,000 yuan because he was voluntary, but because he was too late to negotiate because of the urgency of time.
Mu Rongying. What's more, even if there is a diagnosis certificate from the hospital, he can't agree with it"Mu Yonghai was unwell after the donation operation".said.
Eventually, both sides went to court.
And with the emergence of various evidences, the whole process of this matter has gradually been restored.
Mu Yonghai was able to donate bone marrow twice regardless of his own safety because of his sister's safety, which is naturally an admirable behavior.
But objectively speaking, the damage caused by bone marrow donation to the human body is limited, and there are many examples of short-term secondary bone marrow donation in the world, and under normal circumstances, donors who work lightly can go to work in about three days, and donors like Mu Yonghai who work heavily can return to normal after resting for about two weeks.
In fact, because Mu Yonghai kept saying that he was weak and couldn't lift his feet, Yang Liwen wanted to take her husband to the hospital several times, but he went to several hospitals for examinations one after another, but no problem was found.
Feng Guiyun's son-in-law also gave Yang Liwen a **:"Second aunt, I have hung up the number of two experts, let's take the second uncle to take a look, if there is really a problem with the body, it should be treated. ”
"I don't need you to be pretending to be kind, I really want to be responsible, and give the money for your father-in-law. ”
After this incident, Feng Guiyun didn't think that Mu Rongying's physical problem was true, and felt that it was just a means for the other party to ask for money.
And Yang Liwen also urged the debt more tightly.
After going to court, the already precarious family relationship between the two parties was completely broken, and Feng Guiyun's son-in-law even accused Mu Yonghai's family in publicIt was because of your delay that my mother was killed.
For Mu Yonghai, this accusation is more hurtful than his brother-in-law's refusal to fulfill his promise, he can't understand at all, why did he save people and save mistakes, and even his sister's death could be relied on himself?
In fact, although Feng Guiyun's son-in-law said that sentence, it was more like Feng Guiyun was venting his dissatisfaction through his son-in-law's mouth.
As early as when his wife needed Mu Yonghai's second bone marrow donation but was repeatedly obstructed, Feng Guiyun was already dissatisfied with them, and the death of his wife made him completely unable to suppress this emotion, and this dissatisfaction gradually turned into anger.
However, Mu Rongying's death is indeed no wonder to Mu Yonghai, because Mu Rongying belongs to senile leukemia, and the difficulty of treatment itself is very great.
If you carefully study the causes and consequences of this matter, it is not difficult to find that before going to court, they should have had a better choice, but they gradually drifted apart under many misunderstandings, and even turned from relatives to enemies.
And what is even more coincidental is that even if the two sides get tired of each other, Mu Yonghai and Feng Guiyun both said the same thing when facing the camera-"If my sister (wife) were still here, this would never have happened. ”