Can couples with inconsistent views live a lifetime? If the three views of the husband and wife's world view, outlook on life and values are completely inconsistent, they will definitely not be able to get by. Therefore, the extent to which the three views of husband and wife are inconsistent is the key to determining whether they can continue to go on, and the irreconcilable three views of husband and wife will seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife.
The acceptance and recognition of the three views is the foundation of husband and wife. Men and women become husband and wife on the basis of love and bonds, bound by morality and law, and formed a living community through a spousal relationship. On the surface, the determining factors for men and women to become husband and wife are love, morality, law, etc.; But from a substantive point of view, the common basis is still the three views of men and women, at least to accept and identify with each other's three views. In fact, the love between men and women is a process of understanding, accepting and identifying with each other. Only when men and women are close to and agree with each other can they have good feelings, likes, admiration and other love elements, and can they also accept and obey each other's legal, moral, family and other constraints from the heart. As the saying goes, "If it's not a family, it's not a family." The proximity and recognition of the three views is the foundation of "one family".
The difference between the three views is the core of the conflict between husband and wife. In the life of husband and wife, it is inevitable that there will be misunderstandings and contradictions, which seem to be specific affairs on the surface, but their core reflects the differences and differences in the three views. It is precisely because of the differences in the three views that different views, propositions, opinions, and opinions on a matter will arise, resulting in arguments, theories, and even family conflicts such as quarrels and disputes. If there is not much difference between the three views, each other can still gradually accept and compromise, and can barely reach an agreement and agreement, so as to restore the normal relationship between husband and wife. If the differences between the three views are too great, and there are principled differences and antagonisms, then the misunderstandings and contradictions caused by the differences in the three views will be irreconcilable, and the relationship between husband and wife will collapse.
The degree of change in the three views determines the state of the marriage. Generally speaking, a person's three views are relatively solid, but they are not absolutely unchanging; When one of the three views of the husband and wife suddenly changes or the hidden three views are prominent, the crisis of the relationship between the husband and wife begins. As for whether it can continue, it depends on the degree of change in the three views. The irreconcilable three views of husband and wife will inevitably bring about irreconcilable husband and wife relationship; Even if the relationship is still nominally maintained, it will actually exist in name only.