Do you still remember Gao Xiaochen in the hit drama "Hurricane" in 2023?
Gao Xiaochen has lived a wealthy and smooth life since he was a child, but he has no brains, he acts impulsively without considering the consequences, although he is kind, he often does bad things, and someone has to "wipe his ass".
In order to support Yang Jian to become the deputy director, Gao Qiqiang discussed with Xiaolong Xiaohu how to deal with Wang Li, who was also a competitor, and Gao Xiaochen immediately shot and intimidated Wang Li in the street after hearing it. And this behavior disrupted all of Gao Qiqiang's plans. Although Gao Qiqiang tried his best to suppress this matter, many years later, this still became the fuse for the collapse of the Gao family.
Gao Xiaochen, who went through this incident, failed to get rid of his impulsive and short-tempered temper, and indirectly killed his mother because of it.
As soon as emotions come up, anger often occupies the mind and we will do something regretful and affect our lives. Just imagine, how many bad decisions and behaviors are made in angry situations?
When angry, people's emotions are often not controlled by reason, and when they raise their hands, they hit others, and they do not listen to other people's explanations. When the anger subsided, I regretted that I was too impulsive before, but the bitter fruit has already been brewed, and it is too late to regret it.
So how can we alleviate this emotion?
1. When you want to get angry, hold back for 12 seconds
Dr. Ronald, an American expert in emotional management, said: "Stormy anger often lasts no more than 12 seconds, destroying everything when it erupts but then calms down, and controlling these 12 seconds can eliminate negative emotions." ”
We need to believe that this anger is only temporary.
When you want to get angry about something, if you can calm down for 12 seconds, you will have a much less desire to explode. At this point, you can start thinking rationally instead of being completely swayed by emotions.
It only takes 12 seconds, and you'll be glad that an immeasurable loss has been avoided because of timely self-control.
2. Stay away from scenes that make you angry
If you are angry because of a quarrel, please stay away from the scene and avoid the scene where the argument continues, otherwise you will be more emotional and angry.
If you are particularly angry because you heard something being said, you can choose not to listen and do what you want to do.
If you're annoyed that the salesperson has been standing next to you from the moment you walk into the store to sell something, you can choose to leave and buy something from another store.
So, stay away from those scenes that make you angry, and your mood won't continue to be bad.
3. Reciprocal numbers
When you have insomnia, do you silently count the sheep? Count from 1 to 100 and you may fall asleep.
When you're angry, you can also try counting, but count from 100 back to 1. It can be subtracting 3 each time, such as 100, 97, 94....It can also be 100, 95, 90....
Studies have found that this regular countdown can be a distraction and also relieve anger.
4. Meditation
Studies have found that 20 minutes of meditation can combat the negative effects of anger, even in patients who are new to meditation. People who enter a meditative state have a calmer breathing, a slower heart rate, and a drop in blood pressure when they recall scenes that make them angry, all of which are signals to relax.
5. Keep a diary
Keeping a journal is also a good way to relieve anger.
In your journal you can say to yourself what caused your anger, how you responded to it, what you did to fix it, and how you felt about it when you calmed down.
In the process of journaling, you must be completely honest with yourself, and only then will you know what you can do to improve in the future when you encounter something similar.
In addition, exercise, drawing, dancing, etc. can also help to relieve anger, and you can choose any way that suits you according to your preferences to find an outlet for your anger.
Everyone gets angry every now and then, and that's nothing to worry about. But when your anger is intense and has long-term effects, it's essential to start thinking about how to deal with it. If none of the above methods can help you relieve your anger, you can also try seeking professional help.