The first half of my life: Tang Jing never knew that He Han fell in love with Luo Zijun, starting from that **In my early experience, Tang Jing never imagined that He Han had a deep infatuation with Luo Zijun, and it all started from the moment when the adultery was exposed.
Luo Zijun was alone in Lingling's community, wearing bright red and bright green, and walked with blank eyes. She wanted to talk to Chen Junsheng and try to win him back. However, fortunately, Tang Jing and He Han arrived in time to stop her, so that she would not be hurt again.
The car stopped in the community, and Luo Zijun cried in the car, wanting to jump off to find Chen Junsheng. She said to herself, "Maybe they're just colleagues, just talking about work." But the reality is cruel, and self-deception is only a temporary comfort, like an ostrich burying its head in the sand, which may alleviate the pain a little.
Seeing Luo Zijun like this, He Han said sarcastically: "You make excuses for your husband and his ** like this, it's really the first time I've seen you." These words angered Tang Jing, and she reproached He Han. Luo Zijun was also angry, the two of them quarreled, Tang Jing stopped loudly, and finally quieted down.
said in the comments that this quarrel was He Han's most real scene, which made him feel the cruelty of reality. He and Tang Jing had never had such a quarrel in ten years, and they had always behaved very rationally. Although he verbally refused Tang Jing's request, his body language was very honest, and he finally went to Luo Zijun's house. He touched Luo Zijun again and again, as if his subconscious drove him to do so.
Luo Zijun is in great need of support now, he and Tang Jing have been together for ten years, but they have never experienced such an urgent situation. Tang Jing is like a superhero, omnipotent. For the sake of the woman she loves deeply, she is fearless, confident and self-respecting like a man. If a woman shows a desire for male affection and strength, he will happily pay for her and be willing to enjoy the beauty of the peak for a long time.
However, He Han was unable to meet this urgent emotional need. As soon as He Han arrived at Luo Zijun's house, they had an argument. He Han answered one ** after another at her house as a successful person, which angered Luo Zijun. Luo Zijun cried bitterly, saying that she once had a job and worked in a foreign company, but was not allowed to work by Chen Junsheng, promising her a perfect life. She plays the role of a wife at home, giving birth, raising children, all this is very hard. Why did Chen Junsheng say that divorce would be divorced?
At that time, He Han couldn't understand why a woman would have to live a lifetime for her husband and children? Luo Zijun cried, claiming that she loved them. He Han immediately denied it: This is not love, this is please. Luo Zijun was furious: You know a fart, you don't really love others at all, you only have a computer in your head every day, calculating in and out, you don't know what the meaning of selfless dedication is? He Han felt that Luo Zijun could not understand and could not agree with Luo Zijun's outlook on life.
He Han hurriedly left the community that day, and the moment he got into the car, Luo Zijun's words suddenly echoed in his mind: "You haven't really experienced love at all, and you don't understand what it means to give without asking for anything in return?" These words made him begin to reflect on whether his feelings for Tang Jing were true love.
Maybe at that moment, he found that he felt completely different about Luo Zijun, although she looked a little embarrassed, but the appearance of carrying her family and responsibilities deeply touched him. He realized that he also seemed to want such a woman whose life was full of fireworks.
After all, sometimes you have to really go into someone else's life to understand what's missing in your life. What Luo Zijun can give him, Tang Jing can't give.
He Han and Chen Junsheng have completely different views on Luo Zijun. I remember that once, Luo Zijun was involved in an affair with Lao Jin, and her career in the shopping mall was also affected, and she wanted to find a new way. Chen Junsheng secretly found her a job selling shoes and bags, and felt that it was so safe.
But He Han didn't see it that way, he wanted to recommend Luo Zijun to a branch of a consulting company so that she could have a better development. Chen Junsheng is worried that if Luo Zijun goes to a consulting company and the work intensity is too high, what will happen to the child? In his opinion, it is best for Luo Zijun to find a job that is close to home, has a stable income, is not so stressful, and can take care of his children.
If he has financial difficulties, he is willing to continue to provide Luo Zijun with one or two thousand yuan a month. This incident made me see that He Han is different from most men, and his feelings for Luo Zijun are completely different from those for Chen Junsheng.
He Han hit the nail on the head, in fact, he exposed Chen Junsheng's hypocrisy. He said: "I think this is not necessarily the best arrangement for Luo Zijun, but more like your own best arrangement." In fact, if Luo Zijun is still engaged in the shoe industry, she will have more time to take care of her children, so that Chen Junsheng's psychological burden can also be reduced.
Therefore, in order to reduce his pressure, Luo Zijun seems to have to stagnate and continue to rely on his support. For her, divorce is a big step backwards in her life.
He Han's idea is a bit special, he hopes that Luo Zijun can have a higher social status and have a more long-term plan. After all, she lived for her husband and children for the first half of her life, and He Han wanted her to be able to live for herself and find her true self in the second half of her life. People who genuinely care about you will want your life to be meaningful, not just to earn money, or just to pursue happiness.
He Han not only gave Luo Zijun guidance in the direction of life, but also guided her to look forward in her thinking. He took Luo Zijun to Bianti, which gave her a taste of the pressure Chen Junsheng was under in such a high-pressure work environment, and why he would cheat on an ordinary-looking womanWhen Luo Zijun encountered problems at work for the first time, he taught her many rules of survival in the workplace, as well as the principles of getting along with peopleand when Luo Zijun was unwilling to let Chen Junsheng and his in-laws have too much contact with Ping'er, he told her "Don't impose adult grievances on children";It was He Han who allowed Luo Zijun to find a better self.
Writer Mo Yan once said that the greatest luck in life is not to pick up money, but to meet a person who can break your original thinking, expand your cognition, and improve your realm one day, leading you to a higher level of existence - this is the noble person in life. In Luo Zijun's life, He Han is this nobleman.
The relationship between He Han and Luo Zijun is more like mutual healing. Every time he faced difficulties, He Han always took the initiative to take action, and said to Luo Zijun with confidence: "Don't worry, with me, I believe I can solve it." "I sometimes think that He Han's intrinsic motivation to help Luo Zijun may have stemmed from his own needs.
He is eager to show his abilities in front of the woman he loves, and looks forward to seeing Luo Zijun happy and happy, which is exactly what he desires in his heart.
Take Luo Zijun's son's birthday as an example, although the child's birthday is not a big deal, if Luo Zijun comes back a little later, it will not prevent the celebration. However, He Han did not hesitate to face all difficulties and sent Ping'er and Luo Zijun's mother to Hangzhou to celebrate their birthdays together.
We can't help but ask, is Luo Zijun really so eager to celebrate his son's birthday in person?At that time, in her eyes, working to make money was the most important thing, and if she couldn't pass the day, it would be okay to pass a little later. However, He Han paid without hesitation. Similarly, when Cui Baojian's son encountered difficulties, He Han also arrived as soon as possible.
Although Luo Zijun had made it clear that she didn't need him to worry about it, and that she was fully capable of solving these problems at that time, He Han still said firmly: "Trust me, I can handle it." ”
The two have a tacit understanding, and whenever He Han lends a hand, Luo Zijun always accepts it without hesitation. Not only did she get emotional **, but she also found a way to love herself again. In the past years, she has never really learned to love herself, and she has dedicated ten years to her children and Chen Junsheng.
He Han helped her become a better version of herself, leading her forward, like a bright light, illuminating the path for the rest of her life.
For Tang Jing, He Han is more like a partner, and can even be said to be a reliable tool boyfriend. However, for Luo Zijun, by He Han's side, she not only got emotional **, but also found a way to love herself again. Caring for yourself is not just about buying expensive items for yourself, but also about knowing how to take care of your inner "inner child", learning to explore, be yourself, continue to grow, and become a more complete version of yourself.