Recently, the term "emotional value" has caught fire. Emotional value refers to the awakening of an individual's emotions by others' words and behaviors, which may be positive or negative. And the general emotional value is positive, that is, the ability to bring all the good feelings to people, the ability to cause positive emotions. By providing emotional value, you can resonate with your own emotions and those of others, which can make the relationship between the two people more harmonious.
Emotional value is crucial in any relationship, and parent-child relationships are no exception. Although it is not easy to do this, it is especially worthwhile for the healthy growth of children. Parents who have no emotional value cannot raise happy children, so how to cultivate good emotional value in children?
First of all, parents should have a stable mood. The gift that parents give their children is to be an emotionally stable person. Parents can set an example for their children when they are able to achieve emotional stability. A positive pause can help parents stabilize their emotions before communicating with their children. Lower your expectations for your child, and without too much expectation and pressure, your mind will become very peaceful. If parents can't manage their emotions well, they won't be able to love their children well when they fall into an emotional black hole. Negative emotions are a part of life, parents should learn to accept it, formalize it and find ways to get rid of negative emotions, and don't let children become a punching bag for their own negative emotions.
Secondly, parents should provide emotional support for their children and provide them with encouragement and care in a timely manner. Parents should respond to their children in every detail, and they should not ignore their children's words and behaviors. If parents are able to take their children's problems seriously and respond to everything, their children will feel that their emotions and thoughts are accepted and will feel relaxed. Also help your child set goals and plans, as they can help children have motivation and direction in life. Parents should also encourage their children to maintain a positive attitude and guide their children to see the opportunities for growth behind setbacks. In addition, parents should also help their children develop adaptive thinking so that their children can learn from their failures.
Thirdly, parents need to nurture their children's hobbies. Interest is an important foundation for children to develop positive emotions and positive attitudes, parents can encourage children to try various interests and hobbies, support children to explore their own strengths and strengths, and cultivate children's self-confidence and self-esteem. For example, when Gu Ailing was very young, her mother was very willing to spend time and energy on her children, often taking her outdoors to experience nature, constantly trying new things, constantly guiding and discovering Ailing's interests and hobbies, and not restricting her nature so as to find her children's interests and hobbies in the process. This kind of behavior is very worthy of all parents to learn and take their children out to feel and respect everything that their children like as much as possible.
Therefore, the emotional value of parents determines the height of the child's happiness. Parents who know how to provide emotional value know how to praise and patiently guide their children, allowing them to make mistakes. What kind of energy parents transmit to their children, what kind of life children will have. Negative emotional value brings children a lifetime of low self-esteem, depression, and insecurity. The positive emotional value brings children self-confidence, sunshine, and a happy life. In the child's growing years, use some happy memories to warm the child, let these warmth take root, and in the rest of their lives, these warmth will become a beacon to illuminate the unknown road ahead of the child.