When you eat dinner alone, go shopping alone, and have no one to talk to after a day of work, do you feel very lonely? Although we are living in an era of abundant information and convenient communication channels, more and more people are feeling lonely. It may be because of their withdrawn, taciturn, and lack of social skills, and anyone, regardless of age or personality, will feel lonely, because it is something engraved in our human genes, which is essentially created to protect us.
So why do some people feel lonely when they can spend the whole day alone, always alone, with little socialization? Because they understand that low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude, and the essence of socialization is the exchange of value. If you don't have value and you don't have bargaining chips to exchange with others, what's the point of socializing like that? When you are alone, you can focus more on yourself, pursue your hobbies, do what you are interested in, and indulge in it, just like playing with toys when you were a child, think about this feeling, so, why be lonely? Many people are afraid of being lonely and alone, so they will lower their bottom line and integrate into some circles that are not suitable for them, anyone can be a friend, and they are eager to participate in everything. What's the point of this so-called socialization? Isn't it just drinking and bragging. In fact, loneliness rarely destroys a person, choosing to fall in loneliness, desperately stuffing yourself into a circle that is not suitable for you, and catering to others excessively may ruin a person.
To put it bluntly, those who love to join in the fun, they do not fully take care of their own needs, do not put themselves on a higher priority, their spiritual world is extremely empty, they don't know what they need at all, all the joys, sorrows and sorrows come from others, and over time, their requirements and expectations for others are getting higher and higher, and there are more and more disappointments. There is no empathy in this world at all, people can only demand themselves, and there is no way to ask others. Being friendly to others is cultivation, and being alone is character.
There are always people around us who seem easy-going and approachable, but they always like to be alone. I was puzzled before, but then I realized that they weren't unsociable, they just didn't want to waste their energy with low-quality socializing. In the past, in order to deliberately maintain certain relationships, I would always be patient, take care of the emotions of others, and always sacrifice some of my own interests. The circles are different, and they don't have to be forced. When you learn to be alone, you stop relying on others, become yourself, be emotionally stable, and live a happier and more fulfilling life.
In fact, it is enough to have three or five friends around, and many so-called friends just happened to meet, and that is not fate. True friends have a certain threshold, to meet their own certain requirements, everyone's energy and time are limited, and the encounter between passers-by is destined to be plain and ordinary, so there must be few real friends in a lifetime. We can share the joy with them and talk about the future. When dealing with social interaction, we should have an open-minded, non-forced, self-oriented and judging criteria-oriented mentality.
Life is a lonely journey, and some scenery can only be enjoyed by one person. Learn to be alone, socialize selectively, and pay attention to the quality of your friends. It's not about being unsociable, it's about leaving yourself more time to learn, not to follow the crowd, not to follow the crowd, and to learn to think independently. Not being social doesn't mean being unkind, because dealing with people is a drain, and being alone is a way to regain your energy. Prefer to be quiet and alone, is a person's beginning to seek the performance of the heart, only the time of solitude, in order to see the clouds, see the strange world, see their own heart, to understand what they need. A person with a strong heart does not need to gain a sense of identity from others, so he no longer seeks outward, but seeks inward. Learn to be alone, focus on improving yourself in the time you are alone, and make your world a wider place. February** Dynamic Incentive Program