Inspire your child to find the answers on his own.
Jewish Wisdom Tips.
In fact, there is no need to worry so much about educating children, and there is no need to sacrifice too much time and energy, as long as they are properly guided and inspired, so that they can find the answers and the truth on their own.
Are you always emphasizing good and bad to your child, right and wrong? Are you always bitter about the consequences of your child's bad behavior? Are you heartbroken about a mistake your child can't correct? Tell your child the answer, it is better to think differently and inspire him to find the answer on his own.
Shixuan is a very mischievous little boy who often lies and skips class. His mother repeatedly warned him: "Zhixuan, you must go to class today, studying is for your future!" "You can't lie, tell you how many times! Lying is a bad thing. "But Zhixuan has always been in the left ear and out of the right ear.
Zhixuan's mother didn't understand why the child didn't listen to her, she was doing it for his good, but the child didn't understand at all and still went his own way.
Zhixuan's mother can learn from Jewish parents and not tell her child the answer, but let him find the answer himself. Jewish parents often use figurative metaphors to allow their children to imagine the consequences of events or to experience the consequences for themselves. By doing so, it is easier for the child to remember it and not make the same mistakes again.
A Jewish father baths with his younger son. When his son Ashka stood under the shower head and opened the valve, the cold water rushed down, and Ashka shouted, "Oops, Dad, it's too cold!" ”
His father hurriedly picked up Ashka and draped him in a thick bath towel.
Ahaha, it's so comfortable, Dad! Ashka cried out happily.
Ishka," the father said to his son in deep thought, "do you know the distance between a cold bath and a crime? ”
When you are hit by cold water, the first sound you make is an exclamation "Oops, it's only comfortable when it's warm" ahaha. But when you sin, your first reaction is an excited "ahaha" and then it must be "oops." ”
The clever Jewish father did not directly tell the child not to sin, but used the metaphor of a cold bath to sin, telling the child that when he first sinned, he felt an excited "ahhaha" and then a regretful and surprised "oops", so that the child himself understood how terrible it is to sin.
And a true story:
During World War I, when food was scarce, the Jewish writer Thomas Mann's family divided food mathematically among the four children with such precision that each bean was divided by grain.
One day, there were only figs left in the house, and according to Thomas Mann's wife and four children, they must have been divided equally. Surprisingly, Thomas Mann gave the figs to his youngest daughter Erica alone, and asked her to eat them alone. Erica unceremoniously ate the figs, and the other three sisters widened their eyes in surprise. Thomas Mann said solemnly: "Children, the world has never been fair, you have to get used to this treatment early. ”
Erica's actions and her father's words left a deep impression on the children's hearts, who understood the unfairness of the world and the need to maintain inner balance in any situation.
In fact, there is no need to worry so much about educating children, and there is no need to sacrifice too much time and energy, as long as they are properly guided and inspired, so that they can find the answers and the truth on their own.
If parents always provide answers for their children, then in the end they will deprive them of understanding. In fact, Jihyun's mother made such a mistake. Instead of breaking the heart, it is better to take certain countermeasures so that the child knows what to do for himself. She can not stop the child's truancy, or even deliberately leave him at home and not let him go to class, and after repeating this a few times, give him some exercises. He will find that skipping class is not a fun thing, it will make him unable to learn at all, and his grades will drop a lot. For children's lies, you can go against the norm and not tell the harm of lying, but continue to enlighten him, such as: If you always lie, what will others think of you? Can lying make friends better? Let him think for himself about the consequences of lying, so that his wrongdoing can be slowly corrected.
Educating children should focus on inspiration, let them find the answers on their own, and don't tell them too much about the correct answers, which may affect their development. Proper guidance and inspiration are what parents can do. In addition, you can also take measures to correct your child's bad behavior, such as skipping class and lying, so that they can understand the mistakes and correct them. Instead of breaking hearts, promote growth by letting them find answers. Parents should interact with their children and inspire them to understand the diversity and inequities of the world and how to maintain inner balance.